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	TSR : Web boards : Internal Enslavement : "Are you romantic partners first? or M/s first?" 1 2 3 4 5 Are you romantic partners first? or M/s first? (46) This post is on the Internal Enslavement web board. Sat 12 Dec 09, 7:14 AM 898-443-818 US, 5 yrs This is a quote taken from a response from the "does IE go both ways" thread: <I know that our dynamic is different in many ways from the majority of people on this board, who are romantic partners first and M/s second> This got me thinking about my relationship and if i would call it M/s first or "romantic partner" first. i have never had a vanilla moment with Master-we met and undertook the relationship from it's very first moments as Master and slave. The Romantic part followed and grew from the M/s part. Without the success of the M/s part we would not have ever arrived at "romantic." Does the fact that M/s came first in time make it still "first" in emotion? How many of you started out with M/s first? Would you describe the romantic part or the M/s part as "first" when describing your current state? i think my answer is that we are still M/s first. The reason is that, i cannot believe we would continue on in life together if the M/s part were somehow taken away. Even in injury my Master would feel i was His property and His to take care of, i believe, which is still an M/s dynamic. Also, due to the fact that everything we have is based on M/s, we have no frame of reference, nothing to "go back" to... before M/s there was no "us", it was just void. i hope it is OK i made this into a separate thread. i was very interested in thinking about it and did not wish to hijack the other thread. 898-443-818 12 Dec 09, 8:41 AM 934-629-589 AU, 2 yrs we where together and parents long before exploring our M/s side. But in saying that before I started looking at M/s and telling my Master about it, he was very much the boss of the house... and had alot of fights as I tried pushing my will too far at times... Since understanding M/s and giving myself to him as his slave.. our relationship has never been stronger or happier. 12 Dec 09, 11:22 AM windcallersspirit US(KY), 2 yrs There are many types of love. and my current master and i were involved in a van. relationship first, but when i told him it just wasnt working for me and explained why, he decided to become my master and learn everything that he can about this lifestyle. i have however been in a loveless ownership and i was only abussed with no after care at all and left void of all feelings. for me i was not happy, i want a master i can serve and be with who will love, cheerish me and protect me no matter what. To be my masters most prized possion is what i live for and what makes this slave happy and wanting to please her master in anyway that he needs or dictates. Pleaseing my Master is the most important thing in my life but i think without those feelings i would be like a robot and not care in the end if he were happy or not.. Which is what some masters want, no feelings at all. It is all in what your master and yourself agree on and if you are happy in that relationship. I wish you luck, happiness and the love that you seek. My heart and soul are like the universe, vast and unexplored..... 12 Dec 09, 9:30 PM Geminaecho CA, 2 yrs My current relationship started off totally vanilla with neither of us knowing each other were really into the scene at all. We both had gone quite some time in vanilla relationships and it now that we have discovered everything, we are very much in D/s relationship now more than vanilla. Its just our way of living now, its normal to us. 12 Dec 09, 11:13 PM masterfiremaam US(WV), 5 yrs We're not romantic partners at all, especially since we are sexually incompatible; he's a gay man and I'm a woman. Master Fire **The power of who we are can be intoxicating.** **The power of who we could be is humbling.** **Yet, we are assured we are exactly as we should be.** 13 Dec 09, 9:42 PM Paper_of_the_Pen CA, 3 yrs I had never even heard of M/s relationships when Master and I first started our relationship with one another. 13 Dec 09, 9:52 PM IsabellaGrace UK, 3 yrs 934-629-589 wrote: we where together and parents long before exploring our M/s side. But in saying that before I started looking at M/s and telling my Master about it, he was very much the boss of the house... and had alot of fights as I tried pushing my will too far at times... Since understanding M/s and giving myself to him as his slave.. our relationship has never been stronger or happier. This rings so many bells with me (apart from the whole parent part - neither Master nor I want children). I too used to push at boundaries I couldn't see and we did argue quite a bit. Since submitting to Him, things are so much calmer and happier. Neither of us can imagine being without the other. In many ways the addition of the M/s dynamic to our relationship has, if anything, intensified the romantic side of what we share. angelbella 15 Dec 09, 10:32 PM CarolinaMoon IE, 3 yrs We were both from the beginning. It was important to us both that the two went together. We have lots of romantic moments and always have done but I was his from almost the moment we met. 16 Dec 09, 1:53 AM 186-306-559 US(NC), 2 yrs We are definitely Master and slave first...but also romantic. I cannot imagine the romantic part, however...without the Master/slave. 16 Dec 09, 3:38 AM 976-188-983 US(ID), 4 yrs I'm in a unique situation. I live in a semi-poly house. With my husband I am romantic first then lifestyle second. Sometimes I am dominant sometimes he is. We started off romantic and then went to lifestyle and that's how it has been the entire 25 years we've been together. With my Sir, we started romantic and then went M/s. There is more romance than M/s but he is always dominant and I don't know when he will choose to be M/s. We've been together for 3 years and I have been officially collared for 2 years. Baby In his eyes I am lost, In his arms I am found, In his soul I am content. Kore ga Watashi no Goshujin-sama 20 Dec 09, 2:33 AM doreigirl 4 yrs What a great question! I had been a previous M/s relationship before I met my Master husband, but he was new to the lifestyle. I introduced him to BDSM while dating, and he quickly assumed to the role as my Master. When we were married, I was collared the same night. Like someone else already stated, I can't imagine one without the other. If I had to choose the chicken or the egg, I guess I would say that our romance is what fuels my need to be his slave. Next page