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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "At what age did you discover Y/your sub/Dom side?" 1 2 3 At what age did you discover Y/your sub/Dom side? (27) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 9 Dec 09, 5:57 AM tristessa US(NM), 7 yrs Y! Donnies_bitch wrote: At what age did you discover Y/your sub/Dom side? At what age did you discover that Y/you were submissive or Dominant and then when did Y/you "act it out"? i had a fascination with bondage from a very early age (about 4 or 5) and knew growing up that i had thoughts/feelings/desires that were not socially acceptable...and at that time i didn't understand them. i had my first M/s relationship at the age of 15, and after finally understanding what i had previously been oblivious about, i know now that i am and always have been submissive in nature. i identify as a slave, and have no desire to be anything/anyone else. *~*tristessa*~* 9 Dec 09, 6:55 AM clanbears_becca US, 5 yrs Y! Rather than give a long drawn out answer... Lets just say, the women at church were already talking about locking up their sons to keep them away from me by the time I was two. I don't remember a time, when I wasn't aware of who I was or what I was. Ive always been overtly sexual. I have always been a huge flirt willing to do anything to get the attention of a dominant male. Before anyone asks, Yes I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. But, that didn't happen until long after, people were complaining to my mother about me trying to kiss all the boys. If anything, for me it happened because of who I was rather than making me who I am by happening. 9 Dec 09, 4:25 PM 741-498-880 4 yrs clanbears_becca wrote: Rather than give a long drawn out answer... Lets just say, the women at church were already talking about locking up their sons to keep them away from me by the time I was two. I don't remember a time, when I wasn't aware of who I was or what I was. Ive always been overtly sexual. I have always been a huge flirt willing to do anything to get the attention of a dominant male. Before anyone asks, Yes I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. But, that didn't happen until long after, people were complaining to my mother about me trying to kiss all the boys. If anything, for me it happened because of who I was rather than making me who I am by happening. Same with me. my personality is what drew predators to me. and my risk-taking, thrill seeking behavior is what landed me smack dab in the middle of trouble 99% of the time. LOL I have a predator/prey dynamic with my Owner, as well as an Ownership dynamic. I don't exactly identify as submissive though. and I respect someone who's big enough to force me into it, and someone who's big enough and not scared to hurt me. Its far more complicated for me than simply "I started tying myself up when I was 5"... I didn't start doing that till 10, but I did start self-spanking and spanking all my dolls at age 4. (or, at least thats as early as I can remember doing it.) I was incredibly bossy, domineering and argumentative growing up. my motto was "you can't make me, I can do whatever I want" and I dated a lot of submissive men (and a couple women) who drove me crazy because they WOULD cater to me, would worship the ground I walked on... they'd NEVER stand up to me. Finding a Master who would take my shit and hand it right back to me was like finding gold out in the middle of the street. ;o 9 Dec 09, 6:40 PM 976-188-983 US(ID), 4 yrs I don't remember exactly when I discovered my submissiveness. I know it was in my early teen years around 14 yrs old and I am now 43. I was introduced by my uncle to the John Norman Gor series. I was an avid reader and just thought they were new sci-fi books, little did I know. I read the first book and was completely hooked, that was exactly how I felt things should be, me naturally at the feet of powerful men. I consumed the books. My first relationship at 14 was with a man that was powerful and I thought this was perfect up until he tried to rape me. I swore off men for 3 years til I met my husband. He was everything, powerful, gentle, loving but firm. I gladly knelt at his feet. He taught me much and then taught me to be dominant. I was his dominant for 20 years which were the most confusing years of my life. I then met my Sir 3 years ago. He is everything to me and I am collared/in service to him now. My husband is still submissive with dominant tendacies which are becoming stronger and I'm hoping that some day soon I will have two Sirs to please. Baby In his eyes I am lost, In his arms I am found, In his soul I am content. Kore ga Watashi no Goshujin-sama Edited 11 Dec 09, 5:06 PM by 976-188-983 9 Dec 09, 6:49 PM 826-163-795 US(VA), 2 yrs Y! i am going through and reading all of these life stories and even though bad things happen we are who we are born to be. and when or how we realize them is different for every person. i am so happy that in most of the stories everyone is happy and seems to be enjoying life. i am a very empathetic person and right now i am glowing from happiness for everyone on this thread. Thank you so much guys! XOXO 9 Dec 09, 11:19 PM Ettiennes_slut US(OR), 2 yrs Wow. There has been so much said in this thread to which i can relate. Loved the Beauty trilogy! i first read it within the last couple of years. Until i met Him, i had no real understanding of D/s, M/s, or anything other than vanilla (i thought it was just for perverts.) W/we met due to a mutual appreciation for erotica (thank you MySpace!) Not until i'd known Him awhile did it click that all of the erotica i'd purchased in the years before i met Him were somehow related to D/s. Gee, go figure! LOL Much like other posts to this thread, i have always been a "pleaser". During my teen years, though, i wouldn't listen to a thing anyone had to tell me (not too unusual for a teen.) my first husband was domineering rather than dominant. When we divorced, he said he thought i was looking for someone i could control. As it turned out, my second husband was incredibly submissive and i led the house. i absolutely hated that!! i cannot say for certain that i would ever have discovered this side of myself without Him, even though the signs were all there. Bottom line is that i did not tune into my submission until i was 46/47 years old. Really late bloomer compared to others here. Ettiennes_slut 10 Dec 09, 12:04 AM Donnies_bitch 2 yrs Ettiennes_slut wrote: Much like other posts to this thread, i have always been a "pleaser". During my teen years, though, i wouldn't listen to a thing anyone had to tell me (not too unusual for a teen.) This slave finds her situation a lot similar to yours. She was also a big rebel, but also a people-pleaser. So she might've come off as Dom, but is actually submissive and craves to be controlled. She thinks in the time she's had a Master it's been the best experience and that she's found what she's been looking for. She always feels better after a hard day and getting Dommed; back into subspace. Thanks everyone for all the replies so far! She hopes there's more =) The stories are really interesting. Lol! She thought she matured young, some seemed to have matured younger and to more extremes. Whenever she knew how to have sexual fantasies is when she realized she was sub (wanting to be the one tied up and tortured/teased). She never acted on it by tying herself. Lol she bets that was interesting! She researched bdsm for a year or so after finding an erotica (forgot the name) then found her Master around 18, and has been with Him for 4 months =) The only thing she worries about are the submissives who go searching at an age too young, who don't know what to look for and get hurt, or find an abuser. Those are the sad stories. -s *posted with permission from Master Donnie* 10 Dec 09, 2:15 AM ElenaS UK, 4 yrs I was fascinated with hypnotism as a child. The idea that someone could control another human being completely was exciting in a way I didn't understand. Everything just got better from there. 13 Dec 09, 11:24 PM 000-588-505 US(CA), 8 yrs From a male sub/slave's point of view..., i too was a "pleaser" starting in jr. high school days. All i did was try to please people and make them happy. Back then, i also knew i was wired differently (around 12-13) and that i liked boys and men. i sucked my first cock at 14 (an older neighborhood kid) and was collared for the first time when i was in college. i loved SM/BD/Ms/Ds and those early days sort of set things in motion, to where i have been a sub/bottom/slave all of my adult life. Today, i still volunteer and donate my time (when allowed to) to local charities and civic events. (grin) Eric's slut slave 14 Dec 09, 1:17 AM 898-443-818 US, 5 yrs looking back, i remember trying to tie myself up at four or five, and REALLY liking it. i discovered real BDSM at 24 years old. 898-443-818 Next page