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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "i need help" 1 2 i need help (11) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Tue 24 Nov 09, 6:26 AM kutsuuaijin 2 yrs I need help. I feel lost and I don't know what to do. I was introduced to this life style in September by a friend. I quickly fell hard and fast for him. I've never been in love before. If he asked me to be his forever I wouldn't pause for a heartbeat in accepting. He has some issues that he needs to deal with and is not ready for a relationship right now. I understand and respect that. I am very glad to have him in my life as one of my best friends and because of that we basically decided to just be friends. Now I'm lost. I don't know what to do. I don't have anyone to talk to because none of my friends know anything about this stuff. I know I haven't given many details as to my exact situation but I feel like there is way too much to say here. If anyone thinks that they can help in any way or would like to know more please ask. I'm all ears and in need of a lot of help. katie 24 Nov 09, 7:20 AM Ettiennes_slut US(OR), 2 yrs 300-976-798 wrote: i need help I need help. I feel lost and I don't know what to do. I was introduced to this life style in September by a friend. I quickly fell hard and fast for him. I've never been in love before. If he asked me to be his forever I wouldn't pause for a heartbeat in accepting. He has some issues that he needs to deal with and is not ready for a relationship right now. I understand and respect that. I am very glad to have him in my life as one of my best friends and because of that we basically decided to just be friends. Now I'm lost. I don't know what to do. I don't have anyone to talk to because none of my friends know anything about this stuff. I know I haven't given many details as to my exact situation but I feel like there is way too much to say here. If anyone thinks that they can help in any way or would like to know more please ask. I'm all ears and in need of a lot of help. katie katie.. i don't know if i can help, but your post struck a chord. i have been in a similar situation. i am very new to this side of my nature, just over a year. i wouldn't go back to vanilla for anything now, not after experiencing Him. i have been reading the boards here which has helped to expand my understanding of this lifestyle. With very few exceptions, the guidance provided by the members of TSR have been thoughtfully considered and respectfully written. You can also do a web search on submission or slavery, whichever is your preference (check TSR Wiki for definitions if you need 'em.) There is a LOT of information available online. Good luck! Ettiennes_slut 24 Nov 09, 8:04 AM 281-731-461 US(FL), 4 yrs This slave did the same thing, fell hard and fast for Master. she has been a collared slave for 3 years now and is a 24/7. she has no idea what advice to offer because there is soooo much that she has learned. Please feel free to ask her any questions you may have no matter how simple or silly they seem. she has learned a lot but is still very new herself and learning every day. she had such a hard time finding any that were at the same (noob) point as she and will gladly share any of the things she has learned from others. Good luck!! Ambition and drive are the keys to success and the knowledge that you are capable of anything that Master asks. 24 Nov 09, 2:25 PM starshineowned US(TX), 3 yrs Greetings.. First thing I'd like to know is: Were you interested in this friend of yours beyond friendship Before this introduction or as a result of this introduction to this way of life? There is probably going to be a flood of emotions and sexual desires spring forth that you never knew you had. Deciding first where you really stand with this friend (chance of more or no) but in the mean time there is a wealth of information from quite a few sites like this with forums. Try to take your time and keep your socks on. Learn yourself first as much as possible in order to better search and find what you need. Try also keeping in the back of your mind that many, and I do mean Many in this way of life have searched years, and years with a lot bumps and mistakes before they found what they needed. Good Luck to you starshine 24 Nov 09, 3:55 PM kutsuuaijin 2 yrs I was interested in him before being introduced to this. We had been friends for a couple years and I had a crush on him for most if not all of it. 24 Nov 09, 4:04 PM slaveheatherleigh US(DE), 4 yrs Katie i have been in this life most of my adult life but knew i was always submissive to a man. When first introduced to life, it all made sense. One thing i have found is that the emotions of a sub/slave will run very strong, especially with first Master. One of the reasons is the feeling of trust and feeling safe with the Master. Your feelings of love are very normal and can be very hard to sort out. Being able to talk with your friend, letting him know your feelings may help. It may be that he is not the ONE you will spend your life with but He would be the one who will always protect you especially when it comes time that you are able to find the ONE who will claim you for life. That is something that all of us could have in ones life. I do understand how you feel, this being the first time you have ever felt love. And it is even a deeper stronger love i believe then any vanilla love could be. Talk with Him, let him know all you feel. It sounds as though he did introduce you to this life in the correct way. To many are taken advantage of when introduced by the wrong Master. You will find this side of you to be a wonderful journey in life with much growth to come. It will take time for you to sort out your feelings but be assured that in time, when you least expect it, the ONE for you will come into your life. Your heart will skip a beat as you feel deep inside of you the connection. Be strong and know that not only is your friend there for you but you have many in this life that are here for you. 24 Nov 09, 4:39 PM 298-517-980 US(CO), 2 yrs There's little I can add to the warm and tender comments that have been posted so far. Okay, I can add a few things ... *chuckles* I discovered that I had a slave heart nearly four years ago. I was introduced to the lifestyle by a friend online, and fireworks (and explosions and supernovas) went off in my head and soul. It took me more than three and a half years, however, to find somebody who I could love, who could love me, who was truly a Master/Mistress, and who not only desired a slave, but could handle the stresses (and responsibilities) that went along with it. Some people find their dream Owner right from the start, however. You might, and you might not, but the thing is to stick with it and always know that someday, if you remain true to yourself and let others know what you desire, and remain open to finding somebody who might be different in many ways than you expected, then you will someday find your true Owner. *hugs tightly* As far as being able to find people to talk about your feelings, well, you've come to the right place! *grins* Do you live near a large city? If so, you also might be able to find groups in your area that might be dedicated to submissives or slaves, or at least have some in attendance. The Internet is naturally the most wonderful tool in finding such groups, which are usually associated with a local BDSM club/dungeon. (My advice is to type in the name of your city and "BDSM" into a Google search and see what pops up, then go from there). You might also want to see if there is a local chapter of MasT (Masters and slaves Together) in your area as well. Whatever happens, I wish you great fortune in your pursuits. Always know we're here for you! Wooden puppet in her dreams ... Organic puppet in real life ... http://wolfslavegirl.blogspot.com 25 Nov 09, 2:21 AM 300-168-896 CA, 2 yrs Y! Just being on here (this site) is a good start as we are all in this together and will support you through rough times. Just so you know, I am going through similar times with my Master at the moment. I am hopelessly in love with Him but He doesn't yet feel romantically inclined (those are His words). That will not stop me from loving Him and we are negotiating what comes next. I am His 24/7 for long stretches of time but our jobs keep us from a full-time commitment at this time. As my master He is exploring some other sides to His lifestyle (He is experimenting with being a switch!) but keeps me fully informed and insists that we have something very special-I agree. Where this goes is anybodies guess, but I do not want to lose Him and am willing to do anything to be with Him. Feel free to contact me directly if you'd like to talk or even chat live! I am at <icord50@yahoo.ca> 25 Nov 09, 6:00 AM SirJames1959 UK, 2 yrs Y! 300-976-798 wrote: i need help I need help. I feel lost and I don't know what to do. I was introduced to this life style in September by a friend. I quickly fell hard and fast for him. I've never been in love before. If he asked me to be his forever I wouldn't pause for a heartbeat in accepting. He has some issues that he needs to deal with and is not ready for a relationship right now. I understand and respect that. I am very glad to have him in my life as one of my best friends and because of that we basically decided to just be friends. Now I'm lost. I don't know what to do. I don't have anyone to talk to because none of my friends know anything about this stuff. I know I haven't given many details as to my exact situation but I feel like there is way too much to say here. If anyone thinks that they can help in any way or would like to know more please ask. I'm all ears and in need of a lot of help. katie katie, I came from the other side, maybe he still doesn't know what he wants. Maybe you don't. I don't know. When my the woman who became "My Girl" first revealed how she would like to live I had serious problems with that, but I overcame them and we are now together and have been for 6 and 1/2 years. There is something he wants, if he introduced you to the lifestyle there is something you want. You both need to talk to each other, with complete honesty Slave 391-682-776 belongs to me, I am totally responsible for her well-being 25 Nov 09, 6:54 PM kutsuuaijin 2 yrs Thank you all for your advice. It has been very helpful to me and I'm glad that I know that I can turn to you for help in the future. We have sat down and talked and there is no more chance for there to be an us. He doesn't believe he will ever love me even though I am his best friend. It hurts but I will move on someday. katie 25 Nov 09, 9:41 PM IsabellaGrace UK, 3 yrs 300-976-798 wrote: He doesn't believe he will ever love me even though I am his best friend. It hurts but I will move on someday. katie I really feel for you. I experienced something similar a long time ago when I was in college. I fell hard for the guy who first introduced me to this lifestyle. I thought there could be something (we already had a very close friendship) - but he messed me around before finally admitting that he wasn't ready to be in a relationship... You will find the right person, it might just take a little time. Master and I have been together almost 9 years now, and I am so glad that the guy in college turned out to be a complete loser; if I'd have stuck around waiting for him, I might never have met Master. My place is at His side. Good luck and best wishes, angelbella Next page