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	TSR : Web boards : Internal Enslavement : "Where to begin?" Where to begin? (7) This post is on the Internal Enslavement web board. Sun 22 Nov 09, 12:24 AM Lookin4that1 UK, 2 yrs Hey evryone, im v new to this but know what i want, ths isnt an advert but wondering how does a single female who knows she's sub/slave even begin? i've read and read but son't know how to make that first steP? 22 Nov 09, 9:41 AM nutshellsub UK, 3 yrs I am not certain what you are looking for. If it is a relationship then the Personal Ads are appropriate. If you want to learn about the D/s lifestyle then these boards are an excellent place to begin. If you do not know whether you are Dominant or submissive then I am afraid that you will not find a magic button to press. Starting down the road to one has resulted in many discovering that in reality they are the other. I would suggest that having done your homework, you visit a BDSM site with a forum and talk to a few folk and see how things develop. I met my Mistress through a vanilla forum; it's amazing where people in the lifestyle get. Good luck. 22 Nov 09, 6:50 PM 298-517-980 US(CO), 2 yrs I once had a very experienced Master who told me he considers dedicated online servitude to be like taking an online college class. Doing it in real life is far better than doing it online, but doing it online can be a great way to know whether you want to take the step and try to seek a real-life situation. It can be very useful in teaching you some of the details, it can allow you to know whether you enjoy it, and it can get you prepared for a real-life experience. I was able to enter into real-life Gorean households well versed in the details of Gorean servitude, and as a result I was able to merge in quickly with the other kajirae in performing my duties. I know all this from personal experience. I discovered my slave heart through an online virtual reality known as SecondLife, which can be extremely immersive. I quickly knew without a doubt from my online experiences that slavery was my calling, and within a month, I was at the feet of a real Master in real life. SecondLife is, at heart, totally free. As opposed to games such as World of Warcraft, everything in SecondLife is free-form -- which means what happens is up to the people there (instead of some pre-programmed scenarios). There is no cost to download the program to your computer, nor is there a monthly cost to play. Although you can spend real money purchasing items for your avatar, such as better hair and skin and clothing, a slave can pretty much find everything she needs for free (especially if you're in Gor, where they're always "recruiting" new slaves). If you wish more details about SecondLife, please feel free to ask me or go to their website (www.secondlife.com). Again, I wish to stress that online submission is no substitute for the real thing, but it can still be a great way to get a taste for it and learn some of the ideas and techniques. Good luck! La kajira! Wooden puppet in her dreams ... Organic puppet in real life ... http://wolfslavegirl.blogspot.com 11 Jan 10, 12:10 PM nequam AU, 6 yrs There are a couple of websites you post ads on, looking for people, one especially fetlife.com has groups that you can join on various interests and get to know people that way. You could look at finding one in your area and going to an event called a munch. A munch is a simple, social event, like dinner or coffee at a cafe, a movie, whatever. Nothing special is required but an accepting mind. Everyone goes in normal street wear and it's pretty much a relaxed pace. That way you can get to know some people genuinely in the lifestyle and get talking to them. Next is to find some events to attend, parties or venues where they might be held. This will help you to see what goes on in the scene, while it's happening and also give you a feel for what's involved. my advice is to take it slowly. Getting to know people as friends first. Look around for a mentor who is someone experienced in the life who can guide you. They can introduce you to people, take you along to events, explain things to you, vet possible Doms, etc. A mentor should never 'play' with you. owned property of Sir Trisk Being your slave what should I do but tend Upon the hours, and times of your desire? Sonnet 57 - William Shakespeare 12 Jan 10, 3:36 AM rednwhite00 CA, 4 yrs Well I must say slavemichelle is 100% right about the advice she has given you. I could not have said it better. I wish you all the best of luck but also remember to keep safe and play safe. Use your gut feeling about ppl and the situations you get into and dont be in a hurry with just anyone. make sure that person is right for you. 13 Jan 10, 1:19 PM curious_bina US(TN), 2 yrs Lookin4that1 wrote: Where to begin? Hey evryone, im v new to this but know what i want, ths isnt an advert but wondering how does a single female who knows she's sub/slave even begin? i've read and read but son't know how to make that first steP? Well, it depends. You have two choices. 1. keep reading and researching (which won't hurt). 2. Get a mentor, or in a relationship. A mentor is an M who will teach you what you need to know; like basic training. If you want to start out looking for a relationship you can, but as you don't know as much it'd probably be better to get a mentor. If there's munches or clubs where you live, go to those and that'll help. -s Always the curious one ~ s 14 Jan 10, 12:22 AM Danswhore AU, 2 yrs 298-517-980 wrote: Doing it in real life is far better than doing it online, but doing it online can be a great way to know whether you want to take the step and try to seek a real-life situation. It can be very useful in teaching you some of the details, it can allow you to know whether you enjoy it, and it can get you prepared for a real-life experience. i would tend to agree with this, seeing this is exactly how i started to recognise my internal being. Meeting my Master online in SL, we have been together over a year and are planning to meet ( we are long distance ). Secondlife is a good place for virtual experience, to be honest, was glad i was eased into it. Had two very different Master's to begin with, the first one introduced me to the world of Gor, which up until had never heard of. To say im hooked, is an understatement. Its also a great outlet if you love roleplay type games. People often remark, you dont feel the same thing as real life, let me say, i have cried many times over not being pleasing enough, your essence always shines through. But a word of warning to unitiated. Err on the side of caution, enjoy yourself and be aware that there are a lot of fakes out there, which is not limited to just SL, any online forum has them as well. In SL Gor i have definately found that there is a high percentage of Gamers and players who have no real desire or concept of what being a Master/submissive/slave is. As with anything online dont be pushed around, if your gut tell's you it isnt right then go with it. Luckily, so fortunately for this slave, i found Him and i would have never believed that if you were to have told me years ago. Most of all it was fun and an experience i would not trade, there was heartache and disapointment too, but thats life reguardless. Enjoy your journey as i am, its a wild ride full of adventure and learning. cheers ~His arms encompass my body, His collar surrounds my heart and His shadows protect my soul~ 25 Jan 10, 2:54 PM MarqKDsade US(WI), 2 yrs Y! Also, take it slow - get to know a D/M first by chatting online, then meeting in person at some public venue for coffee or lunch for example. Make sure you have a safe call... someone that you call and let them know where you are going to be and that you are meeting someone... they don't have to know what for necessarily but let them know that you are going to call them at a certain time to let them know that everything is okay... if they don't hear from you at that time have them call the police and say "I have a friend/family member who was supposed to meet someone and then call me at such and such a time and I have not heard from them." Also, if things just don't feel right you can have them call you back in a few minutes and then you can say "I have a family emergency - I need to go". If things seem right you can start out by scening - not the first time you meet... I would recommend having a few "dates" first... and go with your gut instinct.