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	TSR : Web boards : M/s and D/s : "A question for subs not living with their Masters" 1 2 A question for subs not living with their Masters (18) Wed 14 Oct 09, 8:20 PM shannond US(CA), 11 mths Hello everyone, For the most part i have led a vanilla existence for the past 20 years, but have always longed to be a sub. A DOM posted an ad for a sub on Craigslist which caught my eye. After going back and forth on email with him for several months, i finally got up enough nerve to finally call him. His voice was masculine, stern, and compassionate and he was nothing like the monster i had created in my head. After speaking several times with him on the phone over the course of the next couple of weeks, i found myself drawn more and more to him. One evening he sent me an email saying that he wanted me to come to his job the next day and perform oral sex on him. i was nervous about it, but i did as he wished. At his job, he talked about how i would be seeing a lot of him, and about the things that he planned to do to me at the end of the week. i haven't seen him since, and i've barely heard from him. i email him and he may or may not answer. I'd like to know is this normal Dom behavior??? i'd also like to know how often each of you (subs) see and communicate with your Masters. i don't know if i should wait for him or move on. i do find myself longing for him. 14 Oct 09, 8:27 PM SirJames1959 UK, 12 mths Y! The thing is there no such thing as "normal" sub or dom behaviour. It's about finding out what's right for you. If you feel it's right then there is a chance that it is, if you don't feel like that then avoid Slave 4187 belongs to me, I am totally responsible for her well-being 15 Oct 09, 12:14 AM shannond US(CA), 11 mths Thanks for replying, and for the advice. i didn't mean "Normal" in the traditional sense. i guess what i'm wondering is what he's doing permitted behavior or is he just not a good guy. 15 Oct 09, 12:21 AM SirJames1959 UK, 12 mths Y! What is "permitted" behaviour? It's what you both decide is acceptable. That is point I was trying to make about "normal". Normal is what you and your partner decide it is, not what anyone else says it is, and that includes me. I hope it works out for you Slave 4187 belongs to me, I am totally responsible for her well-being 15 Oct 09, 12:35 AM bastets_daughter AU, 12 mths i would be inclined to distrust a Master who could not keep his word on when he would be seeing me. Its all well and good to change one's mind, but subs have to arrange their activities around whether their Dom has need of them and i think its a bit rude that he did not bother to reply to your attempts to contact him. But...there could always be extenuating circumstances. Haven't been much help, have i? 15 Oct 09, 2:00 AM shannond US(CA), 11 mths Actually you both have. Thank you! And it's been one thing after the other with him. i don't know if i trust him at this point. i just need to try to move on and find someone else that i connect with emotionally like i connected with him. 15 Oct 09, 5:36 AM 333-528-841 CA, 19 mths Was the first time you met him when you went to his job? If so, I hate to tell you that you seem to have hooked up with a player who is neither a Dom or Master but a manipulator who probably puts ads on Craigs List for just this reason, to get his rocks off. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but answer one question. In your "vanilla" world, have you ever met someone for the first time face to face by giving them a blow job? If you wouldn't then, why would you do so now? Being a sub doesn't mean losing your common sense or doing what every so called Dom tells you to do. I certainly hope he didn't have a camera hidden somewhere filming you or his work mates peeking at all the action. IMO, if you think or know in your heart you are a submissive, you should be learning all you can!! There are many websites and books with so so much information that will guide you and help you find out the direction you want to go. Read the boards here, there are many good suggestions, ideas and opinions on here by many experienced honest people. You can google or ask around and find out about munches you can go to and meet others in the lifestyle. No matter how long you have been online with someone, your first face to face meet should be just that, a meet. Go for a coffee, tea, somewhere public with safeguards in place. Find out if you are compatible and actually like each other. Figure out , will this go somewhere, what movies does he like etc. etc. Sound a bit normal? Of course it is, it's a normal part of life and your life is part of you being a sub. All the best to you. 333-528-841 Life shouldn't be measured by the breaths you take; but by the moments that take your breath away Edited 15 Oct 09, 5:45 AM by 333-528-841 15 Oct 09, 9:11 AM rednwhite00 CA, 2 yrs Well I think that it was not a Dom sub situation. I say it was a one time fling between to people who hooked up for a play time. No Dom that I know of would act like he did. He is not a Dom. He is a normal guy who got a girl to give him what he wanted. 16 Oct 09, 3:59 AM shannond US(CA), 11 mths Thank you so much for your reply and honesty. You are right, as a "Vanilla" i would never have done that. For some reason i was so drawn to him, and i was confused as to what i was supposed to do. Being new to the lifestyle, i didn't want to come off as a problem from the start. And i having been reading up on being a sub, and i absolutely love this website. You are so very helpful and informative. i plan on attending a munch soon. Thanks again! Next page