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	TSR : Web boards : O&P : "Structure in O&P" 1 2 3 Structure in O&P (24) This post is on the O&P web board. 6 Jul 10, 8:08 AM littlecandi 5 yrs 186-306-559 wrote: As a slave, structure is very important to me. Whenever I have been in a relationship with a dominant and there was not the right amount of structure, I felt very anxious and unsure. This often led to me being manipulative in some way for the sole purpose of seeing how the dominant would react. I am now in a relationship where there is structure and I no longer feel the need to manipulate on any level. Totally agree with this and my feelings go along with this. Serving my Master on my knees! 28 Jul 10, 7:12 PM puddles US(OH), 6 yrs Y! i love structure. Without it, i'm lost and feel as if i'm floundering, almost drowning in some respects. 2 Aug 10, 6:55 PM 445-627-203 CA, 22 mths i have to say that i have enjoyed this thread the most. i found myself laughing when someone said something about questioning Doms and i found myself smiling and nodding my head while reading so many of the other posts. i have always been very independent and most times have had a job where i have had a leadership type role. i was with my first “Master” for almost 10 years. During this time, i found that i talked back a lot, always questioned his orders and decisions, and was known by most in our community as a bratty and lippy sub. i guess i always needed to test other Doms to see if they had what it took to put me in my place. Most could not, not even my “Master”. i guess i became quite disillusioned by the lifestyle. It was not what i had hoped it could be. There was always one Dom though that i was never that way with. He just had to look at me and i felt that i had to lower my eyes. i would feel myself blushing (which is not something someone as strong willed as i am usually does) because i knew that He was watching me. Sometimes i would open my mouth to talk back to Him but i just couldn't. When things would slip out, i would feel so awful. In a way, i knew what the rules should have been, so i tried to follow them when i was around Him. I used to get whippings and beatings for misbehaviour, but that would just fuel my will to rebel. When i was around this other Dom, a look would put me in my place. i am no longer with my old “Master” and this other Dom who always seemed to shake up my world has now told me what He will and will not accept from me. The structure that i now have has given me purpose. i no longer feel the need to “test” other Doms, or be lippy and bratty all the time. i feel safe and comfortable, even my health problems have disappeared. i have never been so happy. i am honoured to call him Master. 2 Aug 10, 11:19 PM SirStrict43 UK, 6 yrs Tanos wrote: Structure in O&P How do you feel about structure? Not so much the specifics, but rather that it's there? Regards, Tanos The most interesting aspect of structure to me is that it is not there, it has to be created and there are so many different types of structured relationship in D/s. They all have commonalities but at the same time individuality. The problem I have is in wondering if the variance in relationships is a hindrance or benefit in trying to create a D/s relationship? SS