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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "Surprise?" Surprise? (4) This post is on the Other Topics web board. Sun 20 Sep 09, 6:59 AM Kazuko US(CA), 4 yrs Y! I was recently playing with a top with less knowledge about my PTSD triggers than I am used to, and during our session he smacked me quite hard across the face, and backhanded me afterwards. This is always something I've never let someone do, because it has always been, mentally, one of my aforementioned triggers. But after the initial shock, I LOVED it! And it was something I fully expected in the past when I've stated that it was not to be done would have had me breaking down. So my question is, have others experienced something like this? Also, this revelation has greatly confused my mind: if I enjoyed that so much, what else am I downright terrified to try that I might like? And in such a case, how do you "experiment" with something that logically you think will be an unpleasant experience in one way or another without solely freaking yourself out by your fear? 26 Sep 09, 4:55 PM MasterMitch US(CA), 2 yrs Apologies for the late reply. I'm constantly running into to this with my new girl. Granted she is new to BDSM but she was never 'nilla. I think what your experiencing is normal. Think of the statement 'Do you like pain?' Well no, logically no one should, ever! Pain is a bad thing, pain is what you get when you touch fire, when someone smacks your bum or ties you up. I think though, if you asked anyone in this lifestyle if they like pain they'll ask 'what kind of pain?' So yes, it makes perfect sense for you to logically tell yourself you wouldn't like something one bit no no no, and then absolutely love it. In past experience I've also been told that it can vary from partner to partner, just because you wouldn't stand for it from anyone else, doesn't mean he can't be the exception to the rule. MM 27 Sep 09, 3:37 PM 247-330-189 US(CA), 3 yrs Y! Yes, i have experienced this as well, face slapping being one of the experiences. Master has taught me to never say 'no' to anything, to try things out because this is true, you never know what you will or will not like if you do not TRY it on for size. If it is something that may cause certain triggers in you then caution should be taken to ensure you feel safe in that situation and can ease into it slowly. For me, i feel safe with Master and i trust him completely to not put me in harms way. There are still some things i am afraid of, and he allows me to speak of my fear (electric being one of them) but then we ease into it and he lets me see for myself it will do me no harm. If ever thou be'st bound in thy scarf and beaten, thou shalt find what it is to be proud of thy bondage. William Shakespeare. 28 Sep 09, 3:37 AM slave_of_The_Tesh US(FL), 2 yrs 247-330-189 wrote: Master has taught me to never say 'no' to anything, to try things out because this is true, you never know what you will or will not like if you do not TRY it on for size. I have a question. just curious. Does this include things you have tried before with others and have already established that you don't like? His Beloved Owned and loved by The_Tesh This post has probably been edited for spelling/grammar because I'm weird like that. Edited 28 Sep 09, 3:38 AM by slave_of_The_Tesh 28 Sep 09, 12:56 PM SeanT70 9 yrs slave_of_The_Tesh wrote: 247-330-189 wrote: Master has taught me to never say 'no' to anything, to try things out because this is true, you never know what you will or will not like if you do not TRY it on for size. I have a question. just curious. Does this include things you have tried before with others and have already established that you don't like? This isn't related to M/s in the least, but it's always worth trying things that you didn't like before, when you're with someone different or new. Ever since I was a child, I always loathed 'Toad-in-the-Hole' (sausages oven-cooked in Yorkshire Pudding), and blue cheeses. Having met Phay, sampled her version of that dish, and embraced her love of Stilton cheese, it leaves me wondering how many more things we'll come across that I might like that I hadn't back then... Regards, Sean.