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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Control & Free will." 1 2 3 Control & Free will. (23) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 13 Jul 09, 9:51 PM moebius_slave US(LA), 3 yrs tink838 wrote: Control & Free will. Does your D/O/M give you free will in any area of your life, or maybe more than one? Is there anything He or She refuses to take control of? ~L~ as i found out in my 'relationship' with my first husband, i found out that i cannot live with being micromanaged. (a few examples for your enjoyment)... i was not allowed to talk to most other people, some family included, i was not allowed to have ANY money at all, not even enough to make a phone call to him should the car break down or something, i was timed wherever i went, and one of the biggest fights we got into was about me not measuring out milk when making macaroni and cheese. i figured if he was so worried about the amount of milk that into making something for dinner...maybe the wrong person was making it, lol M knows about all the things i had to deal with in my previous relationships and when i told Him simply that i can't live like that, His reply was much like Odin's..."if I'm busy micromanaging your life, who will manage mine?" instead, Master EXPECTS me to take care of certain things...he EXPECTS me to use my brain and make wise decisions... anything that im not sure of, all i need so is ask. take care of Him and His needs/wants, make sure we eat on time, make sure we have clean clothes to wear, keep the house up, take my meds, keep my doctor appointments, and above all to stop physically pushing myself to the point that im in pain for days on end. (im no longer allowed to do any sort of yardwork ) He hasn't forbade me to talk to anyone that i wish...although He said that if either one of my ex's drive me into tears or continually upset me on the phone, they will be able to speak to Him. His reasoning is that the more of a complete person i am, the more i have to give to Him and im in agreement, i love giving Him everything that i can The devil came to me last night and asked what I wanted in exchange for my soul. I still can't believe I said pizza. Friggin' cravings. 13 Jul 09, 11:35 PM Master_Odin US(KS), 3 yrs Cor_Cordis wrote: Odin, I'll accept your point on my age - however, it's not an accurate measurement of one's mental capacity, only of the experiences that have shaped it. And that is what is shared here, experiences. Cor_Cordis wrote: And, though I want to know every aspect of this lifestyle, I ask that you bear in mind that I don't participate in TPE. And I'm quite sure I'm not alone. Point being on this list it makes you in the minority, a fact that just seemed to escape you. Cor_Cordis wrote: Now, I don't know when my words were twisted so that it seemed as if I was making "blanket" statements about those who are involved in TPE, It was your presentation. There is no authority, only responsibility. 13 Jul 09, 11:59 PM Master_Odin US(KS), 3 yrs Lord_Of_Atonement wrote: Odin, Cor has come in here and shown nothing but the utmost respect for you despite the fact that you continue to treat her as though she was a silly little child. She is obviously someone who has taken great interest in this lifestyle, and is merely speaking her mind on something she feels strongly on. Just as you reply against her and defend something you feel very strongly about. However, there was at no point any reason in which you had to deem her statements and actions "dramatic" and "childish". I've known Cor for quite some time, and I can tell you her knowledge and maturity for that matter greatly exceeds that of an 18 year old. You want to argue your point, fine. But stop treating her as though she's a child you can simply laugh at and shrug off. Atonement, If you will check carefully, you will find that Cor began getting cute with her post: ” Oh, dear, you've a fetish for making corrections, I see. :]” which is the same post in which she introduced the concept of drama to the conversation. I didn't (to my recollection, please point out if I am incorrect) call her childish. I did bring up her age, a fact that she accepted. If you find her words respectful, to the list in general and me in particular, then we will have to agree to disagree. I haven't known Cor for long at all and I also perceived that she has many fine qualities which is why I didn't simply laugh at her and shrug her off, but tried to gently point her in a more positive direction. After several people pointed out how she was coming across, there was no mea culpa, but continued protestations that everyone else was wrong. We don't know her, we can only understand what she writes. If she doesn't express herself clearly in written form, it is not up to this or any other list to change. She has to make the effort or continue to be misunderstood. If she will take her own advice, lurk , learn and get her bearings here she may still yet make a good contributor. Selah There is no authority, only responsibility.