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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "A day in the life of" 1 2 3 A day in the life of (28) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 7 Jul 09, 9:33 AM Ms_Valentine UK, 4 yrs I am always curious about M/s relationships run on the lines of Mistress Dea and her slave. It must take a very singular type of person to become a slave in that mould. The slave must give up everything, money, home, friends, family and just focus on and be in the company of one person and any friends the dominant might have. That slave must give up hobbies like reading, outside interests like sporting activity, theatre, personal pleasures like listening to music of their choice, watching TV, basically any of the leisure things which whilst not being in any way a basic need for human survival, certainly are good for psychological well being and long term emotional stability. These things always seem so exciting when read as a fantasy but how easy is it to actually live like that. I can't imagine it and I don't know anyone in reality who can be like that all the time. I have been on the scene for a long time and met many Dominants and subs/slaves and none I have ever met or known in real life can actually live like that. Imagine never seeing your own family or friends ever again. What if you had children? Practically speaking, what about money? Unless the slave is independently wealthy, they have to worry about keeping up NI/pension payments so they have financial security when they are old. What happens to a slave if they get sick and are unable to perform duties. A debilitating medical condition say like progressive MS where they will get physically weaker. When they are unable to serve, what does the dominant do? Does she keep them on, at her cost but getting no service from them? Do they get cast out with little/no money and sick to fend for themselves. Can a person, the slave, really live forever without sexual contact and release, emotional closeness, reciprocated love. Maybe if they already have no sex drive or have somewhat alternative emotional needs to the rest of us, but they would be rare people indeed. I am not, repeat, not, saying Mistress Dea's life is not true in real life but I have never met anyone who lives like that and I have been around for a long time. It fascinates me who they are, and why they are not around on other bdsm sites or out at munches/clubs and no one I know has ever met them either. Most people I know who live 24/7 M/s or D/s live lives which integrate the dominance and submission in a very simple and organic way. The ritual and protocol is there but it works to support the relationship they are in and they are romantically involved so love and sex plays a part too. The relationship is a very warm close one with much which reinforces the slave and makes them feel good about themselves. This must be necessary on some level, the praise and recognition to enable the slave to keep going taking the heavy workload, physical discomfort, deprivations, lack of sex or physical closeness, the lack of hobbies and interests and so on. The relationship featured in the book I reviewed badly was so cold, so sterile, so regimented that I could not see how either party could live in close proximity like that. It felt like the masturbation fantasy of a man who had never experienced D/s in real life. Either that or the dominant lady wanted only a unpaid robotic servant she could bring out and put away as she pleased and could beat whenever she felt like it. I wondered what that said about her and her psychology. She didn't seem to need love or physical closeness to other people. I wonder how many people on here, Mistress Dea and her slave apart, do actually live that kind of very structured, high protocol style? I have never heard any of them talk of their lives on these boards but maybe they would like to discuss what they enjoy and why they choose that model of living over a romantically based version of M/s. I am aware there are some fantasists on these boards so if they start spouting abject nonsense, I will just ignore them. I am sure they know who they are. Edited 7 Jul 09, 9:38 AM by Ms_Valentine 7 Jul 09, 5:27 PM tony72 UK, 3 yrs i understand what youre saying and you raise many a good [point, but believe me when i say there are people out there who need to be totally enveloped in total total slavery, perhaps there is an emotional need within them that outreaches anything mere play or even a less commited scene than Mistress Dea,s can bring. I believe Mistress Dea,s relationship to be pretty insular, she perhaps strikes me as somebody who needs the privacy and anonymity of keeping things within the confines of her own home, after all i doubt gtreatly she was christened Dea. I suppose our marginal lifestyle is there to accomodate all persuasions, from the play day thrill of visiting a domme or play partner to discarding essentially your life for an existence of abject slavery, the psychological reasons are possibly lost in the subconscious mind but the need remains. I will admit here and now, leaving myself open to ridicule, but i have bombarded Mistress Dea with requests and pleas to become her total slave, and she was always gracious enough to answer, i mean i am well adjusted, have a responsible job, a wide circle of friends whom i love and admire, laughter abounds from my circle every day, but i would surrender this tomorrow for an existence at Mistress Dea,s feet, i have tried to analyse my desire, even tried to alter it in the past, but nature is a tidal wave that cannot alter its course. An interesting point was the eventuallity of the slave not being able to serve due to illness or injury, i truly believe Mistress,s like Mistress Dea will just seek another, i suppose there is a disspasionate air about actually owning human property, after all at the top of her profile she says how her previous slave sadly passed away, but how she was now looking for another one. So to summarise on a personnel level, knowing all i know and being aware of what i would lose forever, would i submit to a life of total chastity abuse and a disspasionate owner?, the answer is i would, in a heartbeat. 7 Jul 09, 10:46 PM SgtMajorMaam UK, 2 yrs My M/s relationship is somewhere between Mistress Dea's and Ms Valentine's. My slave is My shubby, I like things to be both regimented and romantic, I see one as being necessary for the smooth running of the household and the other necessary for the smooth running of O/our emotional well being. I work full time while he is retired with a healthy pension. The day starts when the alarm goes off and he gets up to run My bath and make coffee. While I bathe, he irons whatever I choose to wear for the day and lays it out ready for Me to dress. Meantime he dresses and packs My lunch. When I am ready he drives Me to the train station while I give him a list of tasks I expect him to complete during the day. These can range from shopping and dropping off the dry cleaning to cleaning, washing or general mantainance about the house. I phone him several times in the day, both to see how he is getting on and give him any extra tasks I may have thought of while away from him. It also gives Me a chance to check he is okay and to answer any queries he may have in My absence. When I know what train I will be arriving home on I ring and he collects Me from the station. On entering the house he will remove My boots and massage My feet. Once I am comfortably settled usually with a glass of wine, he makes dinner always laying My place at the head of the table. After dinner he clears up the kitchen and W/we talk about what has happened throughout the day. His duties range from full care of Me and the dog, the house, garden, cars and anything else I choose to ask of him. Play time is limited but can range from very romantic to very sadistic depending on My mood. he is in chastity but he is permitted an orgasm once a month and he is also permitted to provide Me with unlimited body worship. It probably doesn't sound very exciting to some people but it works for U/us. When I want excitement he chauffeurs Me to a club where I parade him on his collar and lead and show him off to all My friends within the Scene. They all think he is quite adorable, but then again so do I! SgtMajor Ma'am 7 Jul 09, 11:41 PM SgtMajorMaam UK, 2 yrs Just wanted to add, W/we are ying and yang, two halves of a whole, neither is complete without the other. I have a fetish for uniforms, his only vice is lingerie. I allow him to share My bed, My arms and My table as a loved husband using normal crockery. W/we don't do the big ritual thing except during play time or out in the "Scene". The main thing for U/us is that I am his Mistress and Ruler as well as his wife. My needs come first and he would not wish it any other way. SgtMajor Ma'am 'suaviter in modo; fortiter in re' Edited 13 Jul 09, 9:38 PM by SgtMajorMaam 8 Jul 09, 6:40 AM slave_of_The_Tesh US(FL), 2 yrs A day in the life of. Pfft. W/we're far too hectic for such structured days. Most of the time, my service to Master involves getting Him things and obeying commands. W/we don't live together, and thus have not fallen into a daily routine. Once W/we do live together, I'm sure that will change, but it still won't be THAT structured. W/we have a young son who is disabled, and his care and therapies take up a good chunk of time. Add to that the fact that life with really young children tends to be somewhat crazy anyway. Between the Kidlet and O/our separate residences, W/we don't exactly have ideal circumstances for creating a routine yet. Owned by The_Tesh This post has probably been edited for spelling/grammar because I'm weird like that. 8 Jul 09, 10:48 PM Sklavos_mou_Kyriah 3 yrs A day in the life of..... I've had to think a bit about this one. No two days are quite the same. I do not live to a micro-managed schedule but there is a basic framework to my day. At certain times My Lady wants her tea/coffee/cocoa whenever. If there is laundry to do, she puts it in the machine. She decides what is to be washed. Once the machine has completed its cycle the the slave puts it out on the line then irons it when its dry. Likewise with meals. My Lady decides what we shall eat and when. She prepares the meals. She likes to be in control of what food is being used. The slave, - me, - cleans up afterwards. Usually after what chores there are to be done are completed, My Lady dismisses me until the next scheduled time. During that I am "on call". Sometimes I can be on the other side of town when called. I have to simply drop everything and go to My Lady. Sometimes it is to meet her off the bus with her shopping or, as happened only yesterday deal with a crashed computer. There is some ritual to remind me I am Slave; I must always genuflect when coming into or departing from her presence. I must ask permission to eat, sleep, come, go, etc. These are small things and when out in public it is masked by expressions such as, "Is it OK if I....." Most of the time to all intents and purposes, my day is not much different from a vanilla one. But for the continuous underlying thread of a life of willing servitude. I've been off the boards these last few days as I have had rather more calls to service than usual. To be a true slave is to be truly free Sklavos 12 Jul 09, 1:45 PM Cor_Cordis 2 yrs My thoughts: No sex? Is this boring at all? Not because of the lack of sex, but because of the routine. Is it a romantic relationship at all? Oh, and also, Mistress Dea, I wonder (because I read it on your profile) what your slave does with the money he might have earned by selling property. If he can keep it but not use it, does he just, like, look at it? I don't think I deserve this selflessness. Find your way into my heart. Edited 12 Jul 09, 1:51 PM by Cor_Cordis 13 Jul 09, 5:38 PM Mistress_Dea UK, 3 yrs My relationship with my slave is not romantic in any way, it is purely Mistress and slave and the slave has no purpose other than to serve me and make my life a happy one. As for no sex being a problem, my slave has no sex but I have other sexual relationships which my slave frequently witnesses. As for my slave's money, it is invested (albeit not much return at the moment) for use in the event of our relationship ending for whatever reason in the future. However, it is not permitted access to it whilst my slave. 29 Sep 09, 12:29 AM 641-341-071 UK, 3 yrs does anyone have any insight as to how common these sort of relationships actually are? thanks. 29 Sep 09, 1:24 PM De_Luxe UK, 4 yrs 641-341-071 wrote: does anyone have any insight as to how common these sort of relationships actually are? thanks. Do you mean purely service contract ones or romance based M/s ones or both? TBH I think service contract ones are rare. From, admittedly a small number of uk friends real life relationships, I'm pretty cut off in a rural area, I can say all of them are or were romance based. I'm not sure at events and munches if what I see of the structure of people's M/s or D/s relationships is also adhered to at home. Next page