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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Sub to Domme?" 1 2 Sub to Domme? (18) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Mon 29 Jun 09, 5:06 AM kaitlyn 4 yrs Hey everyone, I really hope someone can help me out. I've been a submissive for years (3 years with my first and on and off for 2 with most recent) and recently I've started to shift my interests per say. I recently met this lovely girl who is also a submissive (now I've dated other submissives before and not felt this way)and to my surprise I find myself actually wanting to take control of her. Now, I don't know how anything will pan out but does anyone have any advice? It feels like a complete mindset shift to me and it's so exciting but kinda scary at the same time. I've got no idea what I'm getting myself into and believe me I'm taking my time to experience things and get into everything myself before I agree to take on a submissive but any help would be greatly appreciated. Sites, experiences, anything... lol. Thanks! Kait 29 Jun 09, 2:34 PM SirSeven 3 yrs I say go for it. Maybe you'll love it so much it will change you forever. Maybe not. You won't find out unless you try. Good luck! Sir Seven 29 Jun 09, 6:47 PM BenevolentTyrant CA, 2 yrs Sounds exciting! Just be really open and talk things through with everyone involved. I hate the feeling of regret when I realize how much better/easier things could have been if only I had said how I felt. I know this is generally good advice in life, but I think people feel the need to hide more when they're trying to be dominant. Best of luck, keep us posted as to how things turn out. BT -feel free to memo 29 Jun 09, 9:25 PM kaitlyn 4 yrs Ya, I guess I'm still exploring lol a lot. I've been trying to find beginner's info on the web. Not great luck so far lol it's funny I have all these subi sites bookmarked and I never even considered the other possible path. I guess I'm having a hard time figuring out what my role would really be. It's weird coming at this from the other direction. Like, how do you go from talking to a submissive as an equal to learning to be dominant over her? Especially if she knew you as a submissive first. 29 Jun 09, 9:28 PM His_caethes 2 yrs Trial, Error, Communication and Trust! in the circle of my arms he shall have all my pleasures all his desires fulfilled. in his heart i shall have all the love i need in his eyes i shall forever be his collared one ~ Aaron's Pet 29 Jun 09, 10:37 PM EvaMaria US(CA), 3 yrs What if you start with something purely for her benefit given as an order? As in if her diet isn't what it should be or she doesn't exercise as much as she ought to, have her draw up a plan (for your approval) that rectifies these things and have her report daily of her compliance. I'm thinking that as a submissive type, you're probably good at caring for others so as far as the "what" of it goes, you'd be in familiar territory. It would leave you free to concentrate on learning about the "how". (The property formerly known as Camille ) 30 Jun 09, 12:35 AM kaitlyn 4 yrs That's a really good plan EvaMaria. See I'd been a little worried because I don't want to jump in 100% because in all honesty I'm not ready to. But I also don't want a submissive to suffer because I'm not being Dominant enough. 30 Jun 09, 1:34 AM Sir_A_Griff CA, 3 yrs kaitlyn wrote: That's a really good plan EvaMaria. See I'd been a little worried because I don't want to jump in 100% because in all honesty I'm not ready to. But I also don't want a submissive to suffer because I'm not being Dominant enough. Yes I agree with Eva Maria's plan then you have to think what punishment and reward this course of action will entail for your submissive, either in general or specific term. Also try to figure out (or ask *G*) what things she likes or hates. Sir_G 30 Jun 09, 5:30 PM 976-188-983 US(ID), 4 yrs I have been in your position myself. I was submissive to my husband for three years and than he drops a bombshell on me and says he wants to be submissive. It took a great deal of time for me to get comfortable and confident in being dominant to him but we took it one day at a time. He is a switch so we flip-flopped for a number of years until I felt confident enought to take charge 100%. My best advice is to take it slow as suggested. You may find a new aspect of yourself that makes you feel more whole. I found it to be enlightening. Baby In his eyes I am lost, In his arms I am found, In his soul I am content. Kore ga Watashi no Goshujin-sama 3 Jul 09, 9:14 PM mystyblu US(TX), 2 yrs I also have a been a switch since beginning my life in D/s . Giving her tasks and responsibilities to do and having to report back to you is a very good idea and respond with the appropriate reward or punishment as needed. It can be fun to explore new areas of your personality. You never know what you might find. CSs_mystyone What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~ by Ralph Waldo Emerson ~ 3 Jul 09, 11:23 PM 483-608-929 US(OH), 4 yrs It's an exciting shift for you. Have fun. Possibly a Dom or Domme you are associated with would act as a mentor and help you down this new path. Learning from someone with experience is great and should be sought if at all possible. Written by it with its Owner's permission. Thank you SIR. Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom. Marilyn Ferguson Duct tape is like the force, it has a light side and a dark side and it holds the universe together Next page