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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Sub-drop/top-drop causing friction" Sub-drop/top-drop causing friction (4) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Thu 18 Jun 09, 4:56 AM His_little_one 3 yrs My master and I don't live together he comes over and spends the night or sometimes a few days at my apartment depending on our work schedules. After an awesome 3 days together right before he was getting to leave we ended up having a disagreement. I was thinking just now this is a pattern with us. We had a couple of really intense scenes whilst he was at my place. During one scene he accidently hit me entirely too hard with his whip and he felt incredibly bad and stopped at once and held me. I think from there our time together went down hill. Do you think because both of us hit our drop at the same time could be cause for us suddenly going from happily together to fighting and not being a happy couple any more? 19 Jun 09, 4:45 AM slave_of_The_Tesh US(FL), 2 yrs TALK about it with Him. The only way to resolve this is if you TALK TO YOUR MASTER about it. It seems from your post that it was a highly intense, emotional thing for both of Y/you, and the only way to work it out and get back to "normal" for Y/you is to discuss it. Owned by The_Tesh This post has probably been edited for spelling/grammar because I'm weird like that. 19 Jun 09, 11:17 AM His_little_one 3 yrs Indeed we did just sit here and rehash that day all night tonight. I knew we'd end up talking about it but it had never occured to me and it was kinda like my "ah ha!" moment. Just wanted to see if anyone else experiences such arguments after simultanious drops. Not sure if we made much head way with figuring it out but we at least assured one another that we care and are concerned for each other. Edited 20 Jun 09, 4:28 AM by His_little_one 19 Jun 09, 5:28 PM Dorian UK, 5 yrs slave_of_The_Tesh wrote: TALK about it with Him. The only way to resolve this is if you TALK TO YOUR MASTER about it. It seems from your post that it was a highly intense, emotional thing for both of Y/you, and the only way to work it out and get back to "normal" for Y/you is to discuss it. I agree totally. We have experienced similar disagreements, but this was pre and during travelling to a club to play. We talked this over and concluded this was due to tension building prior to play due to apprehension and meeting the other's expectations, as the play was not spontaneous but pre planned. I am not sure of the reason for disagreements after play though. If talking doesn't work perhaps try a change of circumstances until this works for you both. We didn't realise that we were putting pressure on each other. Hope this get resolves for you 21 Jun 09, 2:05 PM Ou_pais US, 5 yrs Dunno if it's normal but at least you're not the only one. After intense *anything* the next day it usually takes me at least part of the day to get over it--and then sometimes i'll be ok for a while and then drop again later in the evening. Master's drops usually aren't so apparent but if we're both a little off sometimes we'll have a miscommunication or just won't be in sync the way we usually are. pais Edited 21 Jun 09, 2:07 PM by Ou_pais