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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Interracial relationships and D/s." Interracial relationships and D/s. (6) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Thu 18 Jun 09, 1:16 AM 645-386-733 US(OR), 3 yrs I just wanted to reach out a bit because I don't have anyone physically present in my life besides the man I serve that will understand. My little brother lives with me, with is great cuz he and i have always been very close. My brother knows that I have an alternative view on relationships but even though we have talked he doesn't understand or agree. This is fine, cuz everyone has to find their own way. Not only does he not understand D/s but My parter is not the same race as my brother and I. My brother recently met my partner. he was nice to his face but has confided in my other roommate that he doesnt like him. My brother said " he is the wrong color and I dont want him touching my sister." My brother has asked me why I cant just be with a nice white man." This is breaking my heart. My brother makes comments frequently about my relationahip. I can honestly say that I have never been so authenticlly me in a relationship before and now im catching some hell because of skin color. I know a few other members of my family are likely to share my brothers point of view. How do I face this? My heart is breaking in two... Edited Thu 18 Jun 09, 1:20 AM by 645-386-733 18 Jun 09, 2:38 AM slave_of_The_Tesh US(FL), 2 yrs Oh, sweetie. I wish I knew how to help you. Master and I are two different races - He is Indian, I am white - but O/our families have not given us grief recently about being together. My parents don't like His religious non-beliefs, His parents want Him to marry an Indian and had always told Him they would disown Him if He married outside that culture. Recently they told Him they wouldn't and they have been more accepting of me as His partner. Hopefully with time your brother will realize that you are happy with your Master, whether he knows of the M/s aspect of your relationship or not. If you need a sounding board or someone to talk to, let me know. I'm here. Owned by The_Tesh This post has probably been edited for spelling/grammar because I'm weird like that. Edited 18 Jun 09, 2:27 PM by slave_of_The_Tesh 18 Jun 09, 6:25 AM 373-468-022 US(WA), 3 yrs Y! i wish i had a magical answer, but all anyone can probably do is support you. i am also in an interracial relationship, but my family has already been through the shock. Having no siblings i can't comment there, other than maybe not discuss the M/s aspects at any great length. This in itself tends to make some uncomfortable, a friend calls it "vanilla violations." The race issue unfortunately is difficult. Maybe because our families just never "thought outside the lines." To me it is hard to believe racism even exists, but it definitely does. Maybe a serious talk with your brother about how his words and actions hurt you after you find someone who makes you happy? Is there a chance your brother is just so protective no one would be what he pictured you with? i am truly sorry you are going through this. Please memo me if you should ever want to talk. hugsssss MGs "It's the submissives that show to others what type of Dom owns them." - Anonymous "If you want to kiss the sky, better learn how to kneel." Mysterious Ways- U2 19 Jun 09, 3:59 AM 373-468-022 US(WA), 3 yrs Y! i have friends who have criticized my choice based entirely on color too. Racism goes two ways, i am not exactly "the perfect person" either it seems. Not knowing your brother, nor how he thinks this may help yet may not. One friend who apparently thinks race is a huge deal and we should stick with our own skin color was harping one day. Normally i shut her off but there was a point i was nice about her opinions. i asked her what other than color bothered her, what had ever been said or done that would cause such a biased opinion. She couldn't answer, and now doesn't bring it up. Just a thought. MGs "It's the submissives that show to others what type of Dom owns them." - Anonymous "If you want to kiss the sky, better learn how to kneel." Mysterious Ways- U2 23 Jun 09, 9:16 AM 991-860-796 DE, 2 yrs Y! When I started dating black Men , my Mom did not talk to me for a long Time. Then I got pregnant and she said to me one day: She would Love to see her grandchild but he can´t come over. So I told her I am his and he is mine we made this Baby together and if I come over it would mean we all came......... She hung up on me and it took maybe 4 weeks she called again and agreed with me and said she was sorry for even thinking like this. Maybe if you are strong enough to need to be on Ur Point and if it means that u will loose Ur Brother i know it´s a hard thing to say but Hun at the End of all ....You need to be happy and You need to live Ur Life, and if this Man makes You happy then please go for it . Cause if you don´t u will aways blame your Brother for it soon or later Desperately Searching for my Master 23 Jun 09, 10:40 AM masterfiremaam US(WV), 5 yrs It's totally crappy when someone we love doesn't approve of what makes us happy because we can interpret that, even subconsciously, as them disapproving of our happiness. There's little we can do to MAKE them change their mind. So, perhaps the thing to do is to look at what you CAN change...look into the question as to why you want his approval and how that impacts your happiness. Master Fire **The power of who we are can be intoxicating.** **The power of who we could be is humbling.** **Yet, we are assured we are exactly as we should be.** 24 Jun 09, 11:59 PM mystyblu US(TX), 2 yrs .this girl does not know exactly how you are feeling but can say she is a “black” American that was married for 12 years to a “white” American. .this girls Owner is also not “black” .this girl didn't grow up ever realizing there was a difference in races other than people come in lots of pretty colors. When this girl married and moved to the south she realized things were slightly different. But both of our families were accepting so this girl can not imagine what you may be going through. There may be a choice that needs to be made, if your family can not accept the one you serve then you can not force them. You can not change anyone who doses not want to be changed. feelings about this issue run deep in people and they are not easily swayed. .this girl is sorry you family/friends feel this way and are not looking at your happiness. .this girl urges you to speak to your Master/Owner about it openly and honestly. .this girl offers hope and the best of luck CSs_mystyone