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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "How long is too long?" How long is too long? (6) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Wed 17 Jun 09, 12:27 AM MasterOmerta88 US(IA), 3 yrs Y! Now I understand that changes can be tough to make. Takes time to adjust and whatnot. My question is how long is too long to keep dismissing disobediance as still adjusting and actually start punishing.. I always try to give polite reminders after making a change to the way everday life operates. Sometimes I think that I might be too leaniant but I really don't have alot of problems with diobediance when it comes to My pet. I suppose I'm just looking for some outside opinions. All great things must first wear a horrible and monstrous mask to inscribe themselves on the hearts and minds of humanity 17 Jun 09, 12:42 AM crystalredroze US(OH), 4 yrs Y! omerta88 wrote: How long is too long? Now I understand that changes can be tough to make. Takes time to adjust and whatnot. My question is how long is too long to keep dismissing disobediance as still adjusting and actually start punishing.. I always try to give polite reminders after making a change to the way everday life operates. Sometimes I think that I might be too leaniant but I really don't have alot of problems with diobediance when it comes to My pet. I suppose I'm just looking for some outside opinions. It can be hard adjusting to new things. and some are more receptive to change than others. i personally have issues with change. Its not that i cant change its that it just takes me longer to accept it sometimes. i personally would start just gradually ramping it up and instead of just polite reminders maybe have her write about it and why maybe she feels she is having issues with whatever it is thats not being done correctly. Of course also just simple communication and asking her how she feels about the changes and how its going on her end may help too. 17 Jun 09, 12:49 AM MasterOmerta88 US(IA), 3 yrs Y! thank you for the advice. All great things must first wear a horrible and monstrous mask to inscribe themselves on the hearts and minds of humanity Edited 17 Jun 09, 1:18 AM by MasterOmerta88 17 Jun 09, 4:26 AM Blissful_Deviant AU, 2 yrs My Owner gently reminds me the first few times, then moves on to "what are you doing wrong?" and then if I still stuff up, it moves on to instructions for positioning for punishment. I guess it depends on what it is the pet is adjusting to - for example, something habitual such as cleaning my Owners cock with my mouth after we fuck is something that only requires a light tap on my head to remind me of if/when I forget. Something like making sure I strip down to my underwear when we come inside (say after going outside only for a few minutes) receives a spanking when forgotten, because it's a direct instruction and not a ritual as such. Remind your pet to think about her actions before and during. There is a difference between forgetfulness and laziness - I think my Owners method is effective. You want your pet to love and remember doing the things she is adjusting to - having a little bit of leeway and working towards punishment is nice and patient but effective Good luck 17 Jun 09, 4:30 AM Blissful_Deviant AU, 2 yrs Oh and one other thing - when I am having a really hard time adjusting to certain things, sometimes it is because of another issue... So if I am finding something overly difficult or my Owner is not pleased with my progress, we have the option to discuss it [at specific times] to see if there is any reason for it, or any way to better adjust. I love pleasing my Owner but like everyone, I have some issues - if a task/adjustment hits a certain nerve, my Owner is very caring and full of positive affirmation and encouragement... So again, it all depends on 1 what the adjustment is; and 2 what the dynamic is between you two? My Owner and I are in it for the long haul and he is very willing to discuss problems I may be having with things and help me to find the solution (hehe sometimes the solution is "just do it!" *wink*) Edited 17 Jun 09, 4:31 AM by Blissful_Deviant 18 Jun 09, 10:17 AM MasterOmerta88 US(IA), 3 yrs Y! Thank you for the advice All great things must first wear a horrible and monstrous mask to inscribe themselves on the hearts and minds of humanity 21 Jun 09, 2:15 PM Ou_pais US, 5 yrs omerta88 wrote: How long is too long? Now I understand that changes can be tough to make. Takes time to adjust and whatnot. My question is how long is too long to keep dismissing disobediance as still adjusting and actually start punishing.. I always try to give polite reminders after making a change to the way everday life operates. Sometimes I think that I might be too leaniant but I really don't have alot of problems with diobediance when it comes to My pet. I suppose I'm just looking for some outside opinions. Have you asked your pet why there seems to be so much disobedience? Generally at the beginning of our dynamic it took 2-3 days for a new rule or whatever to become habit for me, and some of those early rules, even though i've been following them for a couple years now, i still forget at times when i'm stressed. Not intentionally disobey, just get overwhelmed with other stuff. At this point it takes less time for new rules to sink in but again, i still will slip up once in a while if i'm distracted. Master doesn't "punish" me, He just reminds me. Sometimes with a Look. If there's a pattern of forgetfulness, He decides my life is too stressful and simplifies it. Usually by going even *easier* on me, which i *hate*. So technically you could call that punishment. pais