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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Age of respect?" 1 2 Age of respect? (16) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sun 14 Jun 09, 5:09 AM Shadow_Lore US(OK), 3 yrs Hello all, I just wanted to start out with telling you that I am new to this lifestyle. My question is does age play a major role in the respect you get as an individual? I feel because I'm young and inexperienced I am not given a chance to prove that I have what it takes to be a good Master/Dom. I've tried asking women my own age but, they want an older more experienced Master/Dom. How can I get any experience if no one will give me a chance. So does age make a difference? I thank you all for your time. ~Master Lore~ 14 Jun 09, 2:21 PM Paper_of_the_Pen CA, 3 yrs I think that it's not your age that they're afraid of but the experience. It's a sucky cycle because in order to gain experience you need a sub. In order to get a sub you need experience. ^_^ I'm glad I'm not in your shoes 14 Jun 09, 3:26 PM allalone47 US(OH), 6 yrs Can't find any as well. Eather I am to old or no expereance. Well Can't get ny real expereance till I find a slave to own and I am not getting any younger. 14 Jun 09, 5:01 PM 272-387-080 US(PA), 5 yrs Age is a factor, but for me at least attitude is more important. How you carry yourself. Command presence. Do you want to be in control or are you in control? Confidence as opposed to bravado. Seriousness. Coming across as competent. For some this comes with age. Others are born with it. Many never achieve it, no matter the number of years experience. I like contrasts, the unexpected. A young person able to control a significantly older person - a short person controlling a tall person. For me, such inconsistencies heighten the impact of the control. 14 Jun 09, 10:12 PM Oysterspearl US(VA), 3 yrs Master_Lore wrote: Age of respect? Hello all, I just wanted to start out with telling you that I am new to this lifestyle. My question is does age play a major role in the respect you get as an individual? I feel because I'm young and inexperienced I am not given a chance to prove that I have what it takes to be a good Master/Dom. I've tried asking women my own age but, they want an older more experienced Master/Dom. How can I get any experience if no one will give me a chance. So does age make a difference? I thank you all for your time. ~Master Lore~ For me age does make a difference. This is something that Master and i have talked many times about. i believe a Master has to be very mature and have had some life experiences in order to become a Master that someone can trust. I would have difficulty in trusting someone that hasn't done this before. On the flip side how do you gain experience if no one allows you to be their Master. You said you've tried asking women your own age with no success. Ever thought of trying women older than you? Never know someone out there might be looking for a Master younger than themselves. Good luck to you and hope you find someone. pearl 14 Jun 09, 11:31 PM Kay_kay US(NY), 3 yrs I/i agree that it is much more in the attitude and the way one carries one's self than it is about age. For M/my self in M/my various dynamics....My pet and my Mentor are both older than M/me. However, my Master is much younger than i am. As for experience, i am my Master's first pet. my Mentor has lived the lifestyle for a long time and i am nowhere near His first student. My pet is My first pet ever. What I/i am wondering, however, in those that are searching, perhaps it's not so much Y/your ages or experience but Y/your approach and presentation. Are Y/you giving the otehr people the time to get to know Y/you before Y/you begin to try to start a relationship? How much time are Y/you giving to the 'getting to know each other' aspect before Y/you bring up doing a scene or beginnign the dynamic? Are Y/you only approaching those that seem to fit an ideal in Y/your head or are Y/you taking this opportunity to meet people of all sorts? Perhaps You should stop seeking a submissive so much and instead work on cultivating friendships, aquainticeships. Perhaps even try to befriend already established couples. Then You can get advice from an established Dominent and get to know a submissive and receive some advice there. The C/couple may even be able to introduce You to singles, even give You some support or (hate to use this word but) credibility in speaking to possible submissives. These are just suggestions but they may be things You should consider 22 Jun 09, 1:10 AM janwine UK, 2 yrs For me age does make some difference, and experience matters a lot more. Now I've been active in D/s for 15+ years and yes I would not want a Master who is new to the scene. Have you tried, women who are also new submissives? That being said, do understand that it is hard for anybody to hook up with a Master or a slave and more so when you are not used to sifting through bios, presenting yourself etc. So give it time. You aren't the first new Master. 22 Jun 09, 12:53 PM Mistress_Kerri 3 yrs As a relatively young Domme myself I understand the issues you are having in finding a sub/slave. Personally I feel maturity is a lot more important than age, if you show yourself to be a mature Master you will have a lot more success finding a sub/slave than if you are/act/behave like an inexperienced adolescent. Good Luck! Kerri 22 Jun 09, 2:57 PM 258-321-589 US, 4 yrs i believe that wisdom may come with age but is not necessarily true in all circumstances. It is inherent upon a person's inherent characteristics and life experiences without age as a predominant factor. Maturity is key in regard to how one reacts to other living souls, their coping mechanisms, with respect, trust and honesty inclusive. Dominance and submissiveness are innate within all of us. To be a Master/Mistress, Dom/Domme, sub or slave is a process that comes with openness and willingness to learn, grow and nuture. We forget to see the person and tend to see their age, their aesthetics, their stature without seeing the entire individual. To entrust one's life to another is a process that is not infallible, not instantaneous. We seek what we find ourselves lacking throughout our lives. my body, my mind, my soul given to be nourished and to feed Master David of AZ's hunger and desire 24 Jun 09, 3:40 AM Master_SL CA, 5 yrs I won't float off and script the definition of how one blossums but I will say this... You must be grounded in the realization of who you are and You have to express that honestly. If you wish to discuss you may memo Me direct as it is difficult to obtain direct answers in open forum, with out prejudice. Regards, Master_SL 24 Jun 09, 9:21 AM caethwas UK, 4 yrs There are lots of factors that i respect in a Master. Some of these develop in time, for me these factors include maturity, wisdom, patience, knowledge and experience. For me all these help me build that trust to extent that i can hand myself over fully and freely. This does not exclude younger Masters but all these qualities get enhanced in time. The really good news is that You have recognised what you want and Your capabilities at a young age and You will become more and more attractive and sensual as You mature, become wiser and gain experience. All bodes well for a lucky sub out there. caethwas - Genuine to the hilt ------------------------------ Next page