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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "Lies and other crimes" 1 2 Lies and other crimes (11) This post is on the Other Topics web board. Tue 9 Jun 09, 2:02 AM Hesperus US(CT), 3 yrs Y! I have a RL relationship but have always enjoyed having an online relationship as well. My last slave lied a number of times. The last lie was I found out she already had an online Master. Needless to say I released her immediately when I found out (about 2 months ago). How prevelent is this? Are online relationships doomed or can they last? Dissapointed... Hesperus 9 Jun 09, 6:30 AM Nightguy US, 5 yrs Y! I had one that lasted over a yeah before we parted, and I've seen acounts on this very site where something that had started online developed further into R/L relationships. So I wouldn't call them doomed. You just have to be sure you get a good start. 9 Jun 09, 1:24 PM Hesperus US(CT), 3 yrs Y! Nightguy wrote: I had one that lasted over a yeah before we parted, and I've seen acounts on this very site where something that had started online developed further into R/L relationships. So I wouldn't call them doomed. You just have to be sure you get a good start. It is hard when you put in a lot of energy and time developing a relationship to have it go south. I take my responsibilities as a Master very seriously and put everything I have into it, so the loss of a relationship is very difficult. When you start an online relationship how do you know you have a good start? How do you judge whether a prospective slave is the right one online? Hesperus 9 Jun 09, 8:28 PM Sklavos_mou_Kyriah 3 yrs Hesperus wrote: Lies and other crimes (snipped for brevity) Are online relationships doomed or can they last? Dissapointed... Hesperus I think there is more potential for failure. Certainly from what I've seen here over this last year. I believe LDRs can work, the one between Lady Mistress and me certainly seems to. I think the secret lies in commitment from both parties along with a dose of good old fashioned common sense. To be a true slave is to be truly free Slave/Sklavos 10 Jun 09, 5:49 AM rednwhite00 CA, 4 yrs Hey well in my mind a online relationships dont last at all. I have seen them many of times and have been in a few myself. It's a waste of time and money unless their is a for sure commitment that will actually mean something and turn in to being together in person. I am not sure what others get out of a online Dom/sub relationship with ppl they have never met but for me it does nothing. I question if the Dom really has control. To many fake ppl and liers out their to make it real or any where near being real. My relationship with my sub is real. So I know that when she is away from me working or what ever, I know she does as I ask of her. I know that she does not and will not disobey me. This kind of a long distance relationships work and are real because we are real and our relationship is real. Unlike ppl who don't even know one another. 10 Jun 09, 12:23 PM Hesperus US(CT), 3 yrs Y! rednwhite00 wrote: Hey well in my mind a online relationships dont last at all. I have seen them many of times and have been in a few myself. It's a waste of time and money unless their is a for sure commitment that will actually mean something and turn in to being together in person. Bit gloomy don't you think. I have a RL relationship but have found that online can be very rewarding. I have also heard of many RL relationships that have gone south. Human interaction of any sort can be problematic... crap... I guess I just answered my own question. :^) Hesperus Edited 10 Jun 09, 12:25 PM by Hesperus 10 Jun 09, 12:51 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs rednwhite00 wrote: Hey well in my mind a online relationships dont last at all. I have seen them many of times and have been in a few myself. It's a waste of time and money unless their is a for sure commitment that will actually mean something and turn in to being together in person. I am not sure what others get out of a online Dom/sub relationship with ppl they have never met but for me it does nothing. I question if the Dom really has control. To many fake ppl and liers out their to make it real or any where near being real. My relationship with my sub is real. So I know that when she is away from me working or what ever, I know she does as I ask of her. I know that she does not and will not disobey me. This kind of a long distance relationships work and are real because we are real and our relationship is real. Unlike ppl who don't even know one another. Online relationships must work for some people, fulfilling their needs at that particular time in their life. As Master said above, they don't work for him and they would not work for me. For myself, it would feel more like living a fantasy. Master and I met for coffee within a day of our first email, even though we lived in different areas of the province. Although I have since relocated to be with Master, my work takes me away for two weeks at a time. I wouldn't dream of disobeying Master and could not lie to him. This works for us as we have that physical contact when I get home and our everyday lives are entwined. Depending on circumstances, some people do not need the physical, everyday, personal interaction with others where as Master and I do. I guess that is what makes each and everyone so unique. 333-528-841 Edited 10 Jun 09, 12:59 PM by 333-528-841 10 Jun 09, 1:10 PM SirSeven 3 yrs Hesperus wrote: I have also heard of many RL relationships that have gone south. Human interaction of any sort can be problematic... crap... I guess I just answered my own question. Well said, Hesperus. I don't think it's wise for people to assume online relationships won't work and real life relationships will, or vice versa. Each person and each situation is different. Sorry to hear about the dishonesty you experienced recently. Good luck. Sir Seven 10 Jun 09, 10:32 PM titty_F US, 5 yrs i have been in an "online" relationship with my Master for almost 4 years. We are on different continents, and have never met. We are both honest with one another, and there *are* ways to verify facts and even attitudes, if one wishes to do so. Just because we can't touch each other does not make our relationship any less meaningful or "real" than those who have the privilege of physical contact - i know this from many "r/l" relationships gone bad. "Online" relationships are no more and no less than what the two people involved choose to put into them, as with any relationship. Folks who will lie "online", will just as easily lie "r/l", in my experience. As i said, i have been collared almost 4 years, the best 4 years of my life. i am far more confident now than i have ever been, and it shows in every aspect of my life. Could i have changed so dramatically if i were in a "r/l" relationship? With *Him*, absolutely! With anyone else, doubtful. Again, liars are liars no matter what "format" they choose to interact with others. Honest people are honest under all circumstances as well. Btw, i too would never lie to my Master, intentionally at least, nor would i disobey His orders, even if i haven't ever met Him. Our meeting, or His ability to "check up on me", makes no difference whatsoever to *my* honesty or lack thereof. schiava of Franti 10 Jun 09, 11:26 PM Hesperus US(CT), 3 yrs Y! titty_F wrote: Btw, i too would never lie to my Master, intentionally at least, nor would i disobey His orders, even if i haven't ever met Him. Our meeting, or His ability to "check up on me", makes no difference whatsoever to *my* honesty or lack thereof. schiava of Franti I hope to meet someone like you online soon. Thank you for your post! Hesperus 12 Jun 09, 3:23 AM silverrose US(IL), 4 yrs rednwhite00 wrote: Hey well in my mind a online relationships dont last at all. I have seen them many of times and have been in a few myself. It's a waste of time and money unless their is a for sure commitment that will actually mean something and turn in to being together in person. I am not sure what others get out of a online Dom/sub relationship with ppl they have never met but for me it does nothing. I question if the Dom really has control. To many fake ppl and liers out their to make it real or any where near being real. My relationship with my sub is real. So I know that when she is away from me working or what ever, I know she does as I ask of her. I know that she does not and will not disobey me. This kind of a long distance relationships work and are real because we are real and our relationship is real. Unlike ppl who don't even know one another. I feel the same way, it's a fantasy game that most people play. A quick fix because doing the same thing in real life requires actual work and dedication. Anyone can act and be who they want behind a computer or txt messages. Sire's kitten ~silverrose~ Next page