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	TSR : Web boards : M/s and D/s : "Why do i feel this way" Why do i feel this way (7) Wed 3 Jun 09, 11:26 PM Slave_Atia US(IL), 10 mths Y! Has any slave ever just all of a sudden felt embarressed to say simple thing to your owner like "yes sir" or things like that? i have been feeling that way lately and i dont really know why that is happening. Master seems to feel as though it's becuase i am not wanting his ownership but i know thats not why. I love master and i will be his Atia forever but at the same time i am going crazy. So i need help has anyone ever experienced this themselves or with their slaves if so please tell me how you corrected this or what you did not to feel this way cause it is making master unhappy in a way and i dont like that but i dont know what to do about it. Thanks to all who reply in advance. ~Slave isn't just a title it's a way of life~ *Slave Atia* 4 Jun 09, 12:34 AM 453-295-258 US(LA), 3 yrs I have experienced this, not necessarily with a partner, but with bosses, older business acquaintances, etc. I was raised in the south, so it's "yes Sir" and "yes Ma'am" automatically to everyone i meet. It seems to me that when i am around them on a regular basis, even if i don't have a close relationship with them, i view them more as a friend or a peer than an acquaintance or an authority figure (in the case of bosses). When this switch happens, i feel awkward using the titles, and saying it makes them feel like a stranger to me. 4 Jun 09, 1:29 AM Kay_kay US(NY), 10 mths I/i'm a little confused about something in your post. Have you always felt a little embarrassed saying 'yes, sir' or did it just develop? Can you remember the exact instance when it felt embarrassing? The first time? There could be several reasons for the sudden embarrassment. Maybe an offhand comment or even malicious comment made you think of the words in a different way. Maybe you entered a new phase of your training and your mind is still adjusting to everything. Maybe you read something, saw some form of address, that you think is more fitting and now your old form of address just doesn't fell right. Understanding the why of it would be very useful to correcting it because then you can approach your Master and say 'here, this happened, it's affected me, please guide me through this and back to where i wish to be, where i belong'. Of course, that may not even be possible. you may never be able to figure it out. Don't worry too much, though, it can still be fixed. Think about anything else that your Master has taught you to do that felt odd at first. How did you eventually become comfortable with this, whatever it was? The same techniques can be used to help here as well. The important thing is, continue to say 'yes, Sir' no matter how embarrassed you feel, no matter how odd it feels. It pleases your Master to be addressed in such a way and, as many have said in other parts of the board, no matter how odd or embarrassing something feels, with time, it becomes normal. Just remember that, focus on your Master's smiles and continue to serve to the best of yoru ability and I/i believe you and your Master will both be pleased. 7 Jun 09, 6:54 PM BenevolentTyrant CA, 9 mths Atia, you worry too much. How much more meaning does it carry to call him Sir when it doesn't please you to do so? You are embarrassed to call him Sir and still you do so! Be happy, now your conscience can be clear from any doubt that you are seeking self-gratification in your service. Congratulations, this is indeed a new level of dedication. 15 Jun 09, 6:14 AM 660-184-352 US(AK), 9 mths Y! This girl grew up as an Army brat and it is second nature for girl to address others as Sir and Ma'am. girl has always taken the time to explain to her previous Dominants that "Sir" feels cold and un-attached. girl has never had an issue with previous Dominants coming up with another way for girl to address them respectfully. 15 Jun 09, 1:06 PM 258-321-589 US, 2 yrs Slave_Atia wrote: Why do i feel this way Has any slave ever just all of a sudden felt embarressed to say simple thing to your owner like "yes sir" or things like that? i have been feeling that way lately and i dont really know why that is happening. Master seems to feel as though it's because i am not wanting his ownership but i know thats not why. I love master and i will be his Atia forever but at the same time i am going crazy. So i need help has anyone ever experienced this themselves or with their slaves if so please tell me how you corrected this or what you did not to feel this way cause it is making master unhappy in a way and i dont like that but i dont know what to do about it. Thanks to all who reply in advance. i call my owner Master and refer to others as Sir, Maam or Miss which i have done since childhood yet am still not comfortable doing so with some individuals whom i do not know well nor who do not seem to project respect, civility yet not respect. my difficulty is overtly expressing slang terms of a sexual nature at will as it reverts back to when i was younger and was seen as only a sexual being and not as a person with feelings and emotions. It takes time to reacclimate yourself. Communication is key to learning and trusting oneself and others. ") respectfully Master David's kahlan my body, my mind, my soul given to be nourished and to feed Master David of AZ's hunger and desire Edited 15 Jun 09, 1:45 PM by 258-321-589 2 Jul 09, 12:52 AM 160-631-592 US(TX), 9 mths .this girl has had an experience similar; it's been quite some time ago. .this girl was considering a Master and was unable to address him properly. In discussing the issue this girl realized she no longer respected him. If your feeling about address your Master/Owner is just a momentary thing then do not worry about it. But if these feeling persist discuss them openly and honestly with your Master/Owner. Find out the cause, it could mean that your training may need to be taken to the next level. .this girl wishes you much luck CSs_mystyone What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~ by Ralph Waldo Emerson ~ 2 Jul 09, 2:41 AM 957-909-675 US(PA), 13 mths there have been times where i have had this problem too... because i felt like 'yes my Master' was not as personal and never showed the love i have for my Master. when i am out.. all others are Master/Mistress Sir or Ma'am I call Him 'my Bunny' ..because W/we are part of the furry fandom too. since W/we started using things that are more person it has felt more honest and real.. and everything that He deserves from my hopes this helps you! ~*~ lil squirrel ~*~ 'What are you?' I inquired. 'A slave girl,' she said. 'What is your duty?' I asked. 'Absolute obedience,' she cried out." Hunters of Gor, page 258