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	TSR : Web boards : Internal Enslavement : "Managing your "former" life after becoming owned" Managing your "former" life after becoming owned (3) Sun 31 May 09, 9:23 PM V_belongstoTheBoss 18 mths Hmmmmm......hope this makes sense, it's easier to think these things then write them down. I have been with The Boss for just over a year now (still very much a "newbie") and it has been a life-changing experience in so many wonderful ways. The problem with life changes however, is that other people tend to notice and all of a sudden I seem to be dealing with friends and colleagues that have an issue with how my life is developing, from no longer going out and drinking with work colleagues (i still go out and have a social drink, I just now remember getting home) to my best friend thinking The Boss is treating me like "a victim". I have dealt with these issues individually (having lent my friend Raven Kalderas book, she now "gets it") but I know these issues will crop up again as my service deepens and the leash gets shorter so I would very much like to hear of others experiences of how they have "managed" family and friends reactions to their D/s, M/s life (either from a positive or negative reaction). Many thanks (and thanks for all I have learnt from this site so far) V To follow in the footsteps of Inannas journey is to understand that the way to rebirth is through pain 31 May 09, 9:49 PM Oysterspearl US(VA), 19 mths Boy i can relate to this one. We went through this back in the winter and i posted a similar question. It's a hard thing to deal with and sometimes i do feel that little uneasy feeling when answering questions. The best advice i was given by my Master and the wonderful people here was this. Answer the question honestly, but don't give away too much. You have to be confident in your response for this to fly with everyone. As far as what you do for the Boss. Well anyone from the outside looking in is going to look like you are the victim. Just respond with something like "What is wrong with me showing him that i love him"? Try not to dwell on it either. Answer their question and move on. Not going out with friens after work, well just respond that you have something great waiting for you at home and you can't wait to get there. My mother hammered one question after another at me. i finally just had to tell her to stop and explained that i'm the happiest i've been in a long time can't she just accept that. She has and the questions stopped. The questions will soon stop from your family and friends. Before you know it they will accept you interaction with each other. Good luck and hope this helps. pearl 3 Jun 09, 11:11 PM House_of_Sire US, 15 mths Thank you pearl for the words of wisdom and for giving me a little hope that the loved ones in my life will someday come around. Sire told me that once they see how happy i am, how well He takes care of me, how wonderful my life is that they will have less of a problem with my lifestyle and just be happy that i am happy and loved. i am patiently waiting for that day to come. In the mean time i am trying not to dwell on the people who have told me that i should just pretend to be normal and instead am focusing on Sire and our family. My life is beautiful and i am confident that one day my loved ones will all see that. slave sirenity 5 Jun 09, 8:14 PM Oysterspearl US(VA), 19 mths You are welcome. Just keep a positive outlook and they will see how happy you are. That should be all the matters to anyone. If your friends and family can see that you are happy, then they shouldn't question or judge. Good luck to you, hope it all works out. pearl