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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Seperation" 1 2 Seperation (12) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sun 31 May 09, 3:38 PM michelle_Master 2 yrs I have a problem, I dont know if it is unique or not but here it is. How can I keep up on the discipline of my sub while I am working out of country? I do have access to email and phones, but it is very tough still. Any suggestions? 31 May 09, 4:55 PM SL_precious CA, 3 yrs michelle_Master wrote: Seperation I have a problem, I dont know if it is unique or not but here it is. How can I keep up on the discipline of my sub while I am working out of country? I do have access to email and phones, but it is very tough still. Any suggestions? Yes you are right...it is hard…when Master has to be away on business it is very difficult for me during the separation.. i don't have the comfort of His presence but He is always with me... the best thing she can do is continue her routine as if you were at home...if she simply kneels before getting into bed to reflect on her submission...writes an email to you at a given time each day with a set topic or whatever rituals you have in place...keep doing so staying in contact with her will help.. leave her an email in the morning perhaps requesting she do something special for you that day…even something as simple as wearing her hair up or a special pair of earrings...something that will remind her during the day that you are with her...a phone call before bedtime to say goodnight... Another thing He does for me is to leave a t-shirt he has worn or to spray his cologne on His pillow...it is very comforting to me for me anyway...Master is my love...it is Him i miss ... we don't focus so much on discipline during that time but simply on keeping me sane ..lol...i often joke that i have a 4 day separation limit after which i cranky, depressed and down right miserable... He knows it is a result of my missing Him and thankfully it vanishes the moment her returns and all is normal again.. hang in there...the best thing about separation is the reunion SL_precious 31 May 09, 5:43 PM Oysterspearl US(VA), 3 yrs i agree the routine has to stay the same whether you are home or not. Master is going out of town this week for the week, and he expects me to carry on as if he was here. That means that dinner will have to be prepared and ready at 6:30 just like if he was here. The phone calls, emails or sending a text is also a good idea to keep in touch. Sometimes when Master isn't going to be home for bedtime he will leave me a pair of his boxer shorts and one of his t-shirts to sleep in while he is gone. That way i can have his scent and feel close to him. As far as doing something wrong while he is gone. Well there will be hell to pay when he comes back home. i think the idea of knowing i will be punished would be more of a punishment than the actual punishment. pearl 31 May 09, 8:56 PM michelle_slave 3 yrs let me explain a little why the discipline is an issue for this slave. While Master is gone I do fine for the first 2 months, after that my behavior gets more and more...... defiant as Master puts it. He has tried a number of things to corrrect this but the longer he is gone the more buttons I push. Master's job only lets us have ten days together every four months. We have never been apart like this in our six years together. 31 May 09, 9:54 PM Oysterspearl US(VA), 3 yrs michelle_slave wrote: let me explain a little why the discipline is an issue for this slave. While Master is gone I do fine for the first 2 months, after that my behavior gets more and more...... defiant as Master puts it. He has tried a number of things to corrrect this but the longer he is gone the more buttons I push. Master's job only lets us have ten days together every four months. We have never been apart like this in our six years together. i see your point. Being apart for long periods of time will take its toll regardless of what type of relationship you are in. i can see you pushing the buttons, i hate to admit it but i feel i would do the same being apart like that. Is this a permanent thing with his job or is it temporary? pearl 1 Jun 09, 8:29 AM michelle_slave 3 yrs It is at least for the next year. After that we dont know 2 Jun 09, 2:24 AM Oysterspearl US(VA), 3 yrs This is a tough one, and i'm sorry that you are having to go through this. It's so hard being apart, but you have to remember it's like any other relationship you have to keep working at it for it to maintain. This is a long term thing at the moment you are going to have to do your best at staying focused on what is important and makes you happy. I know being apart doesn't make you happy, but the relationship does. You need to focus on this right now. Any chance of being able to send video back and forth between the two of you? This could help, not just talking on the phone but being able to see him and hear him to keep you grounded. Maybe if videos could be sent with him explaining what is expected of you would have a bigger impact than just knowing what is expected. Sorry i really couldn't give you much advice. Again i'm sorry that you are going through this. I can't imagine being apart that long. If you need someone to talk with, you can always memo me. Take care, pearl 6 Jun 09, 8:12 AM michelle_Master 2 yrs We do phone calls, video calls, emails and instant messaging. But there still it isnt the same. I guess we are both looking for the response we get when we are together . 21 Jun 09, 2:13 PM Squeak US(TX), 3 yrs I am afraid I can not answer your question but from a sub's point of view she/he is likely punishing themselves via pining for you. I know that one time I was separated from Ms for 3 weeks, I was over seas visiting family, That was the most bitter sweet time of My life. It even inspired Me to writ a poem.. Submission is the most beautiful expression of love. 21 Jun 09, 8:48 PM 957-909-675 US(PA), 3 yrs a little squirrel offers greeting to You, Master... when my Master and i are separated He expects, like it seems other Masters do, that i keep all the habits and routines that He has when He is here. and if there is any chance of a surprise return things should be as expected. i think if a slave is truly devoted then she will behave even if her Master is gone, knowing tat He is always close to her and that she will punish herself if she disappoints Him even if He doesn't know hopes this helps Master ~*~ lil Squirrel ~*~ 7 Jul 09, 3:55 AM AmaraKitten 2 yrs I agree with what everyone else is saying. Continue the same routine. Continuing the same stuff & emailing something special and emailing in the morning is a good idea. Me and master are in a Long distance relationship so i don't fully know how it is with you guys but i know sort of how it's like. ~Master you're so amazing. The reason for everything i do. I love you :]~ Next page