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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "How can i do better" How can i do better (4) This post is on the Other Topics web board. Sat 30 May 09, 10:22 PM Slave_Atia US(IL), 3 yrs Y! hey i am confused about TPE and how it works in a long distance relationship because i am in a TPE relationship with my master but we are not yet 24/7 with me living with him. So with that how would he be able still to control me in the ways of TPE without actally being here is it just him trusting me to do as he says or i mean what do we do. I know most people havent experienced this but if you have advice i would love to hear it. Also any advice on how to please my master better because i got into trouble and i would love to find any way to make it up to him but keep in mind we arent with each other thanks in advance. ~Slave isn't just a title it's a way of life~ *Slave Atia* 30 May 09, 10:39 PM 599-734-499 US(WI), 3 yrs Slave_Atia wrote: How can i do better hey i am confused about TPE and how it works in a long distance relationship because i am in a TPE relationship with my master but we are not yet 24/7 with me living with him. So with that how would he be able still to control me in the ways of TPE without actally being here is it just him trusting me to do as he says or i mean what do we do. I know most people havent experienced this but if you have advice i would love to hear it. Also any advice on how to please my master better because i got into trouble and i would love to find any way to make it up to him but keep in mind we arent with each other thanks in advance. Having been in and out of both types of relationships, perhaps i can help. Although it is true that your master cannot know the degree to which you comply, you know. He has to feel comfortable with your honesty to believe you. You have to be honest to obtain that trust. As to your second question, my only suggestion is communication. The best M/s or D/s combinations in the world in the world still can not read minds. The two of you must talk. Jessica's slave, tom 30 May 09, 11:10 PM 483-608-929 US(OH), 4 yrs Slave_Atia wrote: How can i do better hey i am confused about TPE and how it works in a long distance relationship because i am in a TPE relationship with my master but we are not yet 24/7 with me living with him. So with that how would he be able still to control me in the ways of TPE without actally being here is it just him trusting me to do as he says or i mean what do we do. I know most people havent experienced this but if you have advice i would love to hear it. Also any advice on how to please my master better because i got into trouble and i would love to find any way to make it up to him but keep in mind we arent with each other thanks in advance. Trust is the key 100%. It is often said that online or long distance relationships can't be as real. If you are honest and really do everything that is expected of you and are honest about what you do, then you are living it for real. It is real to you. Realistically you do not fall under the umbrella of the TPE quite yet because you maintain the place that you live, maintain your job and the daily experiences that you face. You must still make judgement calls and decisions on your own. But, you have a Master and you know what His wishes are and those are your guide in the decisions that you make. i feel that a TPE really can't exist unless Y/you are under the same roof. Maybe i am wrong but that's how i feel. Your Master is the best source for knowing what you can do as far as the trouble you experienced. He knows you. He knows what He expects from you. He will decide the path that Y/you must take to rectify the situation. As a sub, i can relate to the feelings of guilt and remorse over doing something i shouldn't have and hurting the trust my MASTER has in me. i never want to hurt that trust because i respect Him so much and want Him to respect me. Right now, you are experiencing some punishment and it is coming directly from inside yourself. Your own feelings of guilt and remorse. Written by it with its Owner's permission. Thank you SIR. Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom. Marilyn Ferguson Duct tape is like the force, it has a light side and a dark side and it holds the universe together 30 May 09, 11:49 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Once you are together 24/7 you may find that the TPE comes naturally. As this topic has alot to do with the fact that you are in a Long Distance relationship, you may find you could get some good advice from others in the same situation as you on the Online&LDR board. 333-528-841 1 Jun 09, 4:45 AM Lion_Heart US(UT), 3 yrs Y! If any submissive is genuinely serious about being totally owned then they will get the most from the experience by being honest with their Dom and doing everything they possibly can by being totally committed. A 50% effort will be rewarded with 50% of the experience. The more you give the more you will benefit. If you have made a mistake, or done something you shouldn't have done, tell your Master and take the consequence of His punishment. Receiving punishment, even though you will be in contol of whether you actually do as He asks, is part of being submissive. It's like being at school, if you miss a lesson you miss out on what the lesson had to offer. your Master knows there will be times when you will fail Him, and that's okay. He will be there for you to guide you in your experience. seek His counsel at all times and you will be amazed as to how close it will bring you together more and more even though you are far apart. I know that sounds an oxymoron but I'm sure you understand. Respectfully Lion Heart