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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "pinky Introduction " pinky Introduction (4) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Tue 19 May 09, 4:59 PM slap_n_slave 3 yrs I will indroduce myself on here and tell my story as others have. I was married to my master for 6 years before he found someone else to dominate, I was totally crushed by this and have taken many months to pluck up the courage to enter into this world again. My two sons have stayed with the father and I have been left alone, i wonder how far the Master slave concensual relationship goes? does this excuse the cheating? lying? tormenting? or even abusing the trust? I feel I gave that man my heart and soul and then he met a women/girl who was very controlling and offered him a better life! seems that an older women has the tricks up her sleeve. not only did he leave me but blamed the whole thing on me! the whole story was changed and that made him the victim, I tried to commit suicide and pulled myself through. my question is does this sound like proper behaviour of someone who is a father to my children? I dont wont to ramble on here so Hi and thanks Pinky 19 May 09, 5:02 PM DuckfinsKitty US(NC), 3 yrs I am glad you are still around and did not take the easy way out. This is unfair to anyone, slave, master, a Vanilla. Cheating and Lying are not good traits to have in ANY relationship. Be strong, you will find someone else to love and protect you, he was not worth it. "You do not love a slave because she is beautiful, she is beautiful because you love her!" His Kitten 184-355-955 19 May 09, 5:48 PM MasterPJ UK, 3 yrs I'm sorry to hear of your story. I too am going through a rough breakup, although nothing compared to what you have been through, and thankfully there are no children or pets involved. My wife and I separated a few months back and she moved on to a new lover within days of moving out. I had hoped to always remain friends, and so the prospect of never seeing her or talking with her again is devastating to me. She leaves the area completely this week, so at least I will have closure. I own a slave girl whom I have called nika and she is everything to me, our desires both BDSM and vanilla really gel well. I am looking forward to our future together, which is further complicated since nika lives in an entirely different country and although we see each other as often as we can, it's not easy being apart in this emotional time. Since she has to support herself by continuing to work during the day, she isn't available to serve as often as she would like either. Don't give up hope, there will be a Master out there who will love you, respect you and dominate you the way you wish. I am certain my property will join me in wishing you all the best in your emotional recovery. If ever you need to chat, there is a whole community here just a memo away. Take care Master PJ Owner of nika. She is mine and I love her dearly. 21 May 09, 10:42 PM bastinadolover UK, 3 yrs I'm sorry about the pain your Master has caused and put you through. How he behaved towards you was not only despicable but extremely selfish and cowardly. Trust me a stunner like you is better off with a dildo head like that out of your life. Only a poor excuse of a human being would put you through the pain he has caused you and the distress which he has no doubt also caused your sons, even though they're living with him. What you've got to do now is concentrate on becoming a fuller and newer person. Even after the disequilibrium of the breakup is restored and you've found balance in the various spheres of your life, you're a different person. But most of all, you're a different kind of parent to your sons. The first thing you've got to accept is that you won't be able to help your sons until you've healed yourself emotionally and physically. Once you've decided that your relationship is really over, then you'll have set into motion the task of becoming a different person and, to your surprise, a different kind of parent. Although the relationship has ended, it's also the formation of a new kind of family. It's a new play with different characters in strange settings, changes in mother and child relationships, and predictable transitions that you may not always anticipate. What you feel today is probably not going to be relevant to your life five months or ten months from now. The quick fix that you want to put into place tomorrow won't be of much use say the same time next year. You can take steps to ease your immediate pain, but the really hard work comes one day and then one month at a time with changes that ricochet into your life and into the lives of your sons. How fast or how well this happens depends on how you respond to the challenges and frustrations that lie ahead. There's no way not to cry, crying is good for the soul. It doesn't banish the hurt but at least you can get the pain out of your belly. But if you're caught up in the image of having failed in your marriage -- because you were betrayed or your judgment was just plain lousy -- your relationship with your sons will be burdened, especially as they're living with him. Nor will you be able to muster the strength you need if you think of yourself as a victim. It may be grossly unfair if the person you trusted most in the world is the cause of all your pain, but that feeling must yield to the tasks before you. As strange as this sounds, if you find yourself raging at your husband, it really doesn't matter if you're right, it will eclipse your ability to be a good parent. It will cloud your judgment and make it harder for you to take care of yourself or see your children as being separate from you, with different needs and priorities in their lives. Worst of all, it will make it much harder for you to be a compassionate, loving mum. Good Luck and most important of all be kind to yourself !! There's no such thing as failure - just life experiences from which you get stronger!! 22 May 09, 5:59 PM slap_n_slave 3 yrs Thank you all for your kind words and advise I will take it all and try to be more positive in future. I feel quite a bit better already! the sunshine helps. As for the lying cheating X what's the addage what goes around comes around?? truly believe in that. P xxxx