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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Having Trouble" Having Trouble (6) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sat 16 May 09, 7:01 PM MasterOmerta88 US(IA), 3 yrs Y! I am currently looking for a service only slave to add to My stable. The problem is that not many slaves seem interested in bottoming to Me and My pet. Is this not a usual thing in poly? Also would it be innapropriate to have the serivce only slave refer to My pet as miss even thought My pet is My slave? I know it's My prerogative as to how My slaves act so I suppose I'm just looking for some outside opinions. Thamks to A/all in advance All great things must first wear a horrible and monstrous mask to inscribe themselves on the hearts and minds of humanity Edited Sat 16 May 09, 8:48 PM by MasterOmerta88 17 May 09, 6:09 AM 887-458-885 US(IL), 5 yrs Well, honestly that depends. Most submissives and slaves do not look for masters who want them for service only labors. Or, at least, I have not come in contact with many. However, that would be better suited to something on alt.com or bondage.com if you are seeking out such a person. I would also suggest that you take a look within yourself, and make sure that you are capable of handling two submissives. I would also suggest that you include in your "personal ad" how much experience you have and what kinds of BDSM are you specialties (ie. robe bondage, discipline, whipping). I hope this helps. 17 May 09, 6:51 AM 483-608-929 US(OH), 4 yrs The way You've worded Your postings says that You have found slaves interested in service only but that they do not wish to serve both You and Your slave. It would be easier i think if there were some sexual interest and activity, too, a bisexual connection so that bonding could occur. sisters in slavery serving their Master is stronger especially if there were allowed interaction between them and interaction between all three of you. It would indeed be a very lonely and i think "third wheel" type interaction to be solely committed to serving and not be any closer than that. Written by it with its Owner's permission. Thank you SIR. Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom. Marilyn Ferguson Duct tape is like the force, it has a light side and a dark side and it holds the universe together 17 May 09, 8:39 AM MasterOmerta88 US(IA), 3 yrs Y! Thank you for the advice. Let Me clarify that by service only I simply mean that there would be no emotional attatchment. Me and My pet are deeply in love with each other and rather than adding a new love interest W/we are interested in adding a playtoy. Perhaps I should reword my add. Thanks again E/everyone. All great things must first wear a horrible and monstrous mask to inscribe themselves on the hearts and minds of humanity 17 May 09, 10:11 PM Kay_kay US(NY), 3 yrs i think i see why You're having such problems finding a playtoy. Even toys like to feel valued and not like a blow up doll. You're asking for a deep mental commitment and, for all the submissives i know, this also includes an emotional commitment but You are offering nothing back except some sex. Would You or Your pet tolerate this expectation of Y/you from someone else? Maybe You should just look around to find a Dom/me with a submissive who likes to watch His/Her girl play with other people that way it's just a sometimes thing with no fuss and no attachment. 22 May 09, 11:25 AM 568-276-821 CA, 3 yrs As a gay male, i have been in a brief (a few months)relationship with two other men when we were all in our early twenties. It was a vanilla gay relationship. It started as just, being a third for sex, but i realised after the fact that it was poly as we lived together 24/7 and the relationship grew. And grew apart as well. i was a anal bottom in the relationship, while one was versatile and the last person was strictly a top. As top and bottom we in fact served the versatile, who owned the house. It has a slight resemablance to us serving a Master, now that i look back at it. i had a strong urge to top and after awhile i became jealous of the top's being able to fulfil his sexual needs. i moved on and left the relationship for several reason's (including finding a more versatile partner) and met my current partner of 4 years. So while i never imagined being in a poly situation, it happened. i beleieve if a were single again i could be in a poly relationship if the conditions were right that all partners had their needs met. These days for this submissive that includes a need to submit more and more, ironic given my earlier relationships when i was still finding myself. In fact i still am, and while my partner calls the shots and decides many matters for me, it is a vanilla relationship (no M/s or play scenes). i find myself seeking a Master to gain experience with. This also brings in a situation of splitting loyalities. i may only be a sex toy for a Master and romanitc with my partner, but a Master that controls me would in fact have control over my partner. Unless i was jointly owned. But that is another thread i believe. but related to the situation your service only slave may encounter if already attached. If single the slave may need an outlet for "closer relationships". All i can say is communication is key. i still have trouble with that one. and if i was given permission to have sex with the other slaves i think i would be happy in such a relationship. Three is a difficult number but maybe four or more could allow for an alpha slave and two equal beta slaves? Edited 22 May 09, 11:36 AM by 568-276-821 23 May 09, 6:13 AM MasterOmerta88 US(IA), 3 yrs Y! thank you for the wordy but very helpfull advice .lol All great things must first wear a horrible and monstrous mask to inscribe themselves on the hearts and minds of humanity Edited 23 May 09, 6:15 AM by MasterOmerta88