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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Being a slave = hard?" 1 2 Being a slave = hard? (11) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Fri 15 May 09, 5:59 PM Bella_Ragazza US(RI), 6 yrs I was speaking with Master and I was saying how I can't imagine the work that goes into Mastering a slave and being a Daddy Dom on top of it. Then I thought is it hard for a girl to be a slave? is it easier if the slave is a ittle girl on top of it? I know many people aren't "littles" but I figured I would through it out there and see what I can get on the topic. Bella 16 May 09, 12:53 PM Oysterman US(VA), 3 yrs My slave and I have had this conversation as well. I think myself that it is hard to be a slave. She thinks that it is hard to be a Master. What it boils down to is that being a Master is something I need and fulfills me while being a slave is something that my slave needs and fulfills her. The two positions are such polar opposites that it makes it seem that the other position would be a hard position. Yet each needs the other to thrive. I don't think it matters whether a girl is a slave or a little girl and a slave. 16 May 09, 10:14 PM Master1Willcall US(FL), 3 yrs DO you mean acting as a little girl or actually being a little girl? 16 May 09, 11:54 PM 148-112-754 UK, 4 yrs I have had this conversation with Master several times. My feeling is that whilst i am in awe of His abilities, perhaps it is because these are abilities that i lack or do not enjoy/value for myself - and vice versa. Master encourages me to be strong and to dominate in other areas of my life - however, how He manages and trains me to be able to do this is beyond my comprehension - and yet in appropriate situations, i now naturally take control. Therefore, after a recent experience where Master showed me how taking control had limits, i can only conclude that my place is as unique as my Master's. i worship Him as i know He worships me. her Father's daughter, a&iaw 148-112-754 17 May 09, 12:55 AM porcelaine 5 yrs They are two completely different dynamics. Both can be as intense as the parties involved would prefer. I have lived as a child and it was very involved, to the point where I don't think I want to take things to that level again. It fostered some codependent behavior that took a little while to overcome. But then again I had zero responsibility save going to work each day, courtesy of a taxi of course. I have implemented the physical, emotional, and mental aspects of age play in conjunction with slavery and it can be very enhancing, particularly if the dominant is responsive to relating in that manner. In my current situation we are still exploring this territory to see what works for us. I don't know if being a little girl makes it easier for me to yield, but I can say I'm able to shift mentally very quickly and delve deeply into focused activities without a problem. I view this part of my persona as the innocent and it opens up another level of trust and coupling that differs from Master/slave relations. I don't believe it would be a hindrance unless the slave is not in touch with this part of herself or put off by certain methods of expression that the Master may wish to address. I am very comfortable with sexual relations between Daddy and the little girl because I see them beyond the physical. However, some are vehemently opposed to this and attempting to broach it might have unpleasant consequences. In the end I see it as another way of surrendering and an eventual deepening of the bond that exists between each. porcelaine "You linger over what you've acquired, and contemplate her, and penetrate her, and live with her beneath the fire in which she crepitates, yields, moans, giving in to your flesh or to more remote, more inscrutable qualities." ~Homero Aridjis 18 May 09, 12:45 AM pinklucy UK, 3 yrs Bella_Ragazza wrote: Being a slave = hard? I was speaking with Master and I was saying how I can't imagine the work that goes into Mastering a slave and being a Daddy Dom on top of it. Then I thought is it hard for a girl to be a slave? is it easier if the slave is a ittle girl on top of it? I know many people aren't "littles" but I figured I would through it out there and see what I can get on the topic. Bella I was thinking about this kind of thing just today. It seems that the further my Mistress and I go into our 24/7 D/s dynamic, the more our relationship becomes like a parent/child one. I have some distinct age play personas I play with occasionally, but this is different, I just often feel very 'little' around my Mistress. I feel that being a Mistress and being a slave are both hard, but I often say that I wouldn't want her job! Although I find submission an ongoing challenge, it is one which feels like a privilege and a luxury to experience where as to me, being a Dominant looks like mostly hard work! Sometimes it feels that being little makes it easier because a child is 'supposed' to do as they are told, but sometimes it feels harder because it is the little in me that is also petulant and resistant to control! 19 May 09, 11:04 AM MasterPJ UK, 3 yrs I agree that both "roles" are hard in their own ways, but that's no different really to any relationship. I often think that one of the points to owning a slave should be to make my life easier, and for a great part it is... I get fed and watered when I demand it, and the housework is done willingly for me. Having the responsibility of keeping your property happy and stimulated is quite hard work at times though. Having said that, I could never be a slave. The mental strength needed is incredible. I don't understand why nika enjoys slavery, and she doesn't understand why I enjoy being her owner. A perfect example of this is recently when I bought her first cage. I stripped her and locked her inside it and she said that she immediately felt submissive and safe. Like she was truely home for the first time in her life. Now, if that was me, I'd be freaking out all over and screaming to get out. We're just different people. uh oh, I'm babbling again.... oops. Owner of nika. She is mine and I love her dearly. 25 May 09, 1:57 AM slave_art US, 4 yrs Y! i found being free much more difficult than being owned. Dealing with finances, filling out forms and making decisions were all things that were extremely frustrating for me. There's an incredible amount of freedom in letting go of everything and becoming owned property. There is complete joy in my only responsibility, which is pleasing my Master. 5 Jun 09, 3:08 AM pyroaquatic 5 yrs slave_art wrote: i found being free much more difficult than being owned. Dealing with finances, filling out forms and making decisions were all things that were extremely frustrating for me. There's an incredible amount of freedom in letting go of everything and becoming owned property. There is complete joy in my only responsibility, which is pleasing my Master. i agree with that statement. even if my Dominant has me fill out paperwork it does not feel like a burden. On my own, forget it... blegh. It is almost as if I have to have a little Mistress on my shoulder, telling me what to do. On my own I am full of chaos, like an explosion going outward in all directions. Once the Dominant steps into the picture, the chaos is controlled like a rocket blasting off into space going where ever I need to be. Where ever the Dominant needs me to be. 5 Jun 09, 6:00 AM CinnamonCain US, 3 yrs pyroaquatic wrote: On my own I am full of chaos, like an explosion going outward in all directions. Once the Dominant steps into the picture, the chaos is controlled like a rocket blasting off into space going where ever I need to be. Where ever the Dominant needs me to be. I have nothing to add at this time for the original poster, but I had to say how very much I love this description. Brilliant and beautiful. Edited 5 Jun 09, 6:01 AM by CinnamonCain 6 Jun 09, 6:17 AM slave_art US, 4 yrs Y! pyroaquatic wrote: On my own I am full of chaos, like an explosion going outward in all directions. Once the Dominant steps into the picture, the chaos is controlled like a rocket blasting off into space going where ever I need to be. Where ever the Dominant needs me to be. i like that analogy. i have a similar one that i use. Before i met my Master, i was like a light bulb sending light in all directions without any focus. Now my energy is like a laser beam focused on the one thing that matters. Him. Next page