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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Dealing with jealousy" Dealing with jealousy (5) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Thu 14 May 09, 7:41 PM tinowen 3 yrs I love my Master. He is amazing and has shown me an amazing amount of trustworthiness... but there is something that just makes my stomach tie in knots and I'm struggling to know what to do with it. We both have alt accts. He doesn't check his much and asked me to do so. I found out he had been flirting with other women, to the point that I felt it went over the line. It made me really uncomfortable... now I can't get it out of my head he's being unfaithful. We're 16 hours apart right now and I'm going crazy. Help! tinny 14 May 09, 9:08 PM 887-458-885 US(IL), 5 yrs Well, I can't say that I know your situation or how long you and your master have been together, but I guess my first question would be: Is it an open relationship? If yes, flirtation and even forming relationships outside of your own is fine. If you have agreed to an open relationship, you should know that your master is allowed to have relations and companions outside yourself and you must either learn to deal with your jealousy or relay to your master that you were not sure of what you were getting into and that an open relationship is not what you want. If no, I would look into when the conversations occurred. I would presume that most forum posts on there are timestamped as they are on here. If they occurred before your relationship (since you mentioned he does not use the account much), I would not worry about it, and in my opinion, it would be best to put the flirtation out of your mind. However, if the conversations occured during your relationship, I would suggest that you ask permission to speak to your master frankly and explain to him your discomfort and your wish that such conversations cease. If they do not, then it it your decision whether or not this is a relationship worth continuing. My second question is: Do you intend this to be a serious relationship? As your relationship is over the internet, be aware that he may not be taking the relationship as seriously as you do. Online relationships are often difficult and consistency and loyalty is not an easy thing to find in an online master. I'd talk to his previous submissives (if you know any of them) and try to get a feel for his online behavior. What he says to you in a private chat/message may be very different from how he presents himself in other places on the web. I hope this has been of some help. 15 May 09, 4:15 AM crystalredroze US(OH), 4 yrs Y! tinowen wrote: Dealing with jealousy I love my Master. He is amazing and has shown me an amazing amount of trustworthiness... but there is something that just makes my stomach tie in knots and I'm struggling to know what to do with it. We both have alt accts. He doesn't check his much and asked me to do so. I found out he had been flirting with other women, to the point that I felt it went over the line. It made me really uncomfortable... now I can't get it out of my head he's being unfaithful. We're 16 hours apart right now and I'm going crazy. Help! tinny Hmm i completely understand. Master was talking to someone else a while back while I was here living with him,(i'm still here). when i found out i was clearly upset and we discussed it. He made it clear that he was in no way thinking of replacing me but was friends with this person. While that didnt make it all better it did make it easier and from that point he has been open with me about if he talks to someone else. The most important thing you can do is talk to him about it. Let him know how it makes you feel and find out what his intentions are. Playing devils advocate here, even though its not easy to deal with and from what i gather you want something one on one and thats fine. However jealousy can be an evil thing to have especially for a slave. i'm not saying it dosent exist but its not productive at all. that was hard for me to learn but jealousy only leads to mistrust which isnt good at all. i would just ask Him about it, bring it up casually, and just see what he says and make sure you understand clearly what hes wanting. 16 May 09, 7:20 AM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs Do you mean that your Master asked you to check his account as he does not check it much? If so, has the thought crossed your mind that he knows you will see his correspondence? To me, that shows he obviously trusts you enough to let you into his account. It also shows he is secure enough in his relationship with you to assume you would take anything written with a grain of salt. To him it may be very innocent and just what it is, flirting. On the other hand, maybe he wants you to see his flirting to see your reaction or to open a discussion. Only your Master can tell you. This is one area where trust comes into play. You need to discuss this with him. Speculating will not help you get answers. It will only have you thinking all sorts of things, and usually not good things. Remember what everyone says when you assume!! 333-528-841 Edited 16 May 09, 7:24 AM by 333-528-841 16 May 09, 2:03 PM Flowerbelle UK, 4 yrs This is a difficult one, and i am going through quite a similar feeling. One thing i've found is that people have different limits and definitions - what to one person is betrayal, is to another a simple conversation. It might help to journal on what upset you and why, and then ask him if he feels the same. It helped me, anyway! Good luck. 16 May 09, 10:13 PM Master1Willcall US(FL), 3 yrs Its not polite to snoop on your Masters account. Some will flirt and it APPEARS more than it really is. Some just get off on having interaction with people in the internet world. You may not always be there to serve that purpose, so a Master PLAY, like RPG. This does not mean your Master does not like you anymore or wishes to have another, sometimes it might, or wants more sub/slaves, depending on the relationship. But as a Internet relationship goes, you should have more leanency on you Master. Just ask, and he'll respond.