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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "depression" 1 2 3 4 depression (36) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board (moved from Internal Enslavement). Thu 30 Apr 09, 4:24 PM 741-498-880 4 yrs do you get depressed or bouts of depression? how do you handle it? if you try to avoid taking drugs, what do you do? do you goto a doctor for every small bout of depression? or do you consider it a normal part of your life cycle? How does your partner(insert whatever you call them here) help you snap out of it? or help you deal with it? does it take you a while to see it when you have it? Do you feel overwhelmed, or numb when you get depressed, how does depression manifest in you, are you aware of your symptoms or do you fight them for a while before acknowledging it? 30 Apr 09, 5:14 PM MissMorrigan UK, 3 yrs Hello Emma. One thing you can't do with depression is 'snap' out of it. Depression affects people differently and for a variety of reasons - we each have a different set of coping skills. It was only until quite recently that I realised that from time to time I do become depressed, previously I hadn't been aware of it because I was too used to the freedom of my personal space and therefore no interaction within the home with others that would affect the way in which I responded to it. We need to also make the distinction beween generally feeling low and depression as an illness. When I do go through a period it's usually expressed through a poor sleeping pattern, disinterest in food and general retreat from people. It's not often I feel depressed and it's usually the result of a major change in my life whether that be job or illness-related. The major indicator for me is when I start losing concentration and become very forgetful. I have never sought medical help with this, but I have worked in the healthcare sector and I'm very self aware. As yet, I have never reached the point where I felt I could not cope with it. Living with Reality means I have added responsibility and I cannot just 'hide away', he is sensitive and does allow me as much space as I need. I know that it isn't good to bottle up my feelings and talking it over with someone understanding can help relieve some of the tension. Keeping busy is another must as regular exercise does up the serotonin levels which, in turn, helps the depression. I use each period (thankfully they are rare) as a time for intospection/reflection and to allow myself time to regroup by giving me some space from whatever it is that has triggered it. Owner of 874-424-480 A free society is a society where it is safe to find one's self unpopular and where history has shown that exceptions are not that exceptional. 30 Apr 09, 5:15 PM Paper_of_the_Pen CA, 3 yrs I've had depression since I was about 9, and they are always on-again off-again. This time it got so severe that I am now on meds. I like to call them my bright yellow sunshine pills! I wouldn't recommend going to the doctor every time you feel sad. Just once you feel you need help controlling it... My Master tries to help but as he's never had depression it's very hard for him to understand. 30 Apr 09, 6:18 PM 976-188-983 US(ID), 4 yrs I've had depression for over 20 years and am on medications for it as well as for ptsd which makes it a double whammy. I find it very hard to recognize episodes of depression/ptsd and it is usually my husband or my Master that recogize it in me. I have just had an episode which was severe enough to hospitalize me for three days to stablize my meds and pull me back from the edge of the brink. My Master and husband where very supportive of this and it makes a big difference knowing they still love me even though I wasn't able to pull out on my own (which I'm usually able to do). There are many triggers for me ranging from stress to visual triggers of my past trauma. My coping skills include exercise, journalling, meditation and other relaxation techniques. Support from loved ones is essential and I know I would not be able to get out of some funks without that. Don't be afraid to go to the doctor to seek help. Depression is a very real DISEASE and needs medical attention. This is not saying that you will be on medication or under doctor supervision for the rest of your life but you need to understand fully your type/level of depression. Good luck and we are all here in support. Baby In his eyes I am lost, In his arms I am found, In his soul I am content. 30 Apr 09, 9:54 PM IsabellaGrace UK, 3 yrs Hi. I have a collection of journals which I started when I was about 17. I just pick out pretty hardback books with blank pages and then fill them with whatever is in my head, words, pictures, quotes.... Some of it seems quite cheery when I reread it, but other parts are so dark I wonder now how I ever got out of those holes. For a very long time, I was intensely private about them, and no-one knew they existed. After several years with Master I plucked up the courage to ask him to read something I'd written. Having Master know more of my thoughts helps me to unravel them a little better. He seems able to look at my problems in a more logical and sane way than I could ever hope. angelbella Without Him, I have nothing, and the world slips away. 30 Apr 09, 9:59 PM MasterMezs_Rosie UK, 3 yrs I've had bouts of depression since I was about 12, and although I had about 6months of counselling in 6th form, it didn't help. Since the age of 12, I don't cope with it well, sometimes it's worse than others. I haven't spoken to my GP about it yet although me and Master are considering it. Ever since I started getting depressed I've self-harmed, which is currently the only thing that helps and pulls me out of it, which is why Master would prefer me to see my GP although I'm reluctant to do so, mostly because I'm worried they will just suggest counselling again which I doubt will help considering it didn't the first time. I consider it a normal part of my life, I hide it from my family and friends, only Master knows and as he has never experienced it he finds it difficult to cope with me, and will often become annoyed with me as he can't snap me out of it and resents that fact that I cut myself so then I get more depressed because I'm hurting him, and in the end I have to hide how I feel and try to make him feel better but that then means I can't help myself and I just bottle it up so it becomes a vicious cycle. I'm a very emotional person, so when I get depressed I get sleepy and I feel like crying all the time, day to day stupid things make me feel like crying so I suppose it just gets amplified when I'm down. Chibi With enough lube and physical effort- anything is possible ^_~ 30 Apr 09, 10:11 PM 483-608-929 US(OH), 4 yrs jakesemma wrote: depression do you get depressed or bouts of depression? how do you handle it? if you try to avoid taking drugs, what do you do? do you goto a doctor for every small bout of depression? or do you consider it a normal part of your life cycle? How does your partner(insert whatever you call them here) help you snap out of it? or help you deal with it? does it take you a while to see it when you have it? Do you feel overwhelmed, or numb when you get depressed, how does depression manifest in you, are you aware of your symptoms or do you fight them for a while before acknowledging it? i do get depressed at times. It happens mostly in the winter months but also at very stressful times, too. i have tried some drugs in the past but often the side effects are worse than the depression itself. While some do need the drugs and i completely understand why, i have learned other techniques that seem to work for me. When i start to feel that way now, i've learned to focus on other things. i take my dog for extra walks, work out extra long, really clean my house (complete with toothbrush for the cracks), organize a closet, .... In other words, i do something physical which seems to counter the swing in the emotions and balance them out. i've come to accept it as part of my life and don't go to the doctor every time. It's become easy for me to see when it's coming and i try to spare my MASTER from having to deal with it but that doesn't always work. Written by it with its Owner's permission. Thank you SIR. Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom. Marilyn Ferguson Duct tape is like the force, it has a light side and a dark side and it holds the universe together 30 Apr 09, 11:06 PM Kay_kay US(NY), 3 yrs i agree with the main trend through all these things. Depression is a disease and it's a really nasty disease because its symptoms make it even harder to get help. There's no extra energy to make the appointments. There's often even a feeling that you don't deserve to get help. i've suffered from depression for most of my life. i've also practiced self harm and deal with a great deal of self hate. i am diagnosed as passive suicidal which means i won't do anything to end my life but, if my life were in danger, i wouldn't really do much to save it. i don't really have good coping strategies myself but i do have advice. If you can afford to go to a doctor and begin treatment, do so. Depression does not go away by itself. i have had treatment but had to end the treatments due to finances. i was once threatened with hospitalization as moderate danger to myself and others and the only reason i was not hospitalized was due to my life situation. Find some kind of outlet. You have to find some kind of outlet to release the negative feelings...something safe and, preferably, something you can take joy and pride in..some kind of hobby..something with tangible results to aid in fighting the feeling of worthlessness that can come with depression. Something physical is also good for releasing negativity such as hitting a punching bag. It doesn't hurt anybody but lets a person work out some aggression. Tell people who care about you and who you trust. During depression, it's hard to force yourself to do what you need. If you have people who care about you who know about this disease, they can be your greatest aid. They can try to help you through the depression and they can push you into getting help when you need it. If people don't know about your depression then it's so uch easier to withdraw because people won't realize that this is a danger sign especially if you become suicidal. A truly suicidal person is usually not going to ask for help. They will just do it. On a personal note to ChibiDilandau, please, do go get help. i understand how much it hurts you when your Master finds out about your self harm. i go through the same thing with mine. He has forbidden me to self harm and yet, sometimes, i still do and, when i confess to those times, i find i hate myself more which makes it worse. It is a cycle and the only way to stop it is to get help of some kind especially since you say your Master does not have experience with depression. As a side note, it is my belief, even though not my place to say, that He needs to begin to educate himself about self harm and depression very quickly. my own Master had to do the same when i confessed to him about my self harm tendencies and i went through over an hour of questions from Him, i would call it an interrogation except it was done out of caring, as He worked on understanding the whys and the basis for my condition so He could try to help me. 1 May 09, 3:16 AM thegildedlili 3 yrs i agree with what most people have said in regard to depression being an actual illness or disease, and i think people often mistake "the blues" or "feeling down" with actual clinical depresssion, when they are very different things. "snapping out of it" really isn't an option with clinical depression, it requires counselling and/or medication and an ongoing commitment to dealing with the underlying issues and the chemical imbalance in the brain. to the OP: if you haven't already seen it, there is an interesting dicussion here about consensual slavery as a mental health therapy. i also found this discussion for last year interesting. i have no need, for such things, but to make you happy... Josh Pyke 1 May 09, 3:47 AM slave_emma US(OK), 6 yrs Y! jakesemma wrote: do you get depressed or bouts of depression? I have seasonal depression, also called seasonal affective disorder. It usually effects me in late winter and early spring. jakesemma wrote: how do you handle it? if you try to avoid taking drugs, what do you do? I don't take medication for this problem. I have found that if I go outside in the sunlight, exercise, and maintain a normal sleeping schedule. It helps to lessen my symptoms. jakesemma wrote: do you goto a doctor for every small bout of depression? or do you consider it a normal part of your life cycle? I don't go to the doctor every time I am depressed. If I am unable to cope with it to the point that I am no longer functional (not able to go to work, do chores, and etc) or if I am having suicidal thoughts, then it is time to go to the doctor. jakesemma wrote: How does your partner(insert whatever you call them here) help you snap out of it? or help you deal with it? There isn't a way to just snap out of being depressed. My Master will just talk to me about how am feeling so I can work past my emotions. He has a degree in this area, so He is able to handle this sort of situation very effectively. One thing that my Master has helped me with is my coping skills. Before I met Him, my coping skills for dealing with depression were horrible. My Master has taught me how to work past the depression and how to prevent it from becoming severe; my symptoms are much more manageable than they have been in the past. jakesemma wrote: does it take you a while to see it when you have it? My Master notices if I am getting depressed before I do so yes it does take some time for me to notice there is a problem. jakesemma wrote: Do you feel overwhelmed, or numb when you get depressed, how does depression manifest in you, are you aware of your symptoms or do you fight them for a while before acknowledging it? When I am having a problem with depression I don't feel like doing anything. I just want to crawl up in a dark hole and have the whole world leave me alone. When I start to feel this way, my initial response is blame it on external factors like the holidays wearing me out, my work demands are heavy, and etc. Best wishes, slave emma Master Howard's little girl 3 May 09, 3:42 PM SeanT70 9 yrs I'm not answering this OP (and not because it's of no personal interest ; I have a feeling my contribution 'could' open a hornet's nest or spark a flame-war; best left alone. Take care, Sean. Lovingly Owned by ~Miss Phay~ Next page