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	TSR : Web boards : Internal Enslavement : "its been a while!" its been a while! (5) This post is on the Internal Enslavement web board. Tue 28 Apr 09, 3:41 PM Masters_lena CA, 4 yrs Y! hello everyone... it has been a while since posting to the boards here! ive gone from 'long distance submissive' to living with Him 24/7. our relationship has changed so much in the last 6 months!! it went from affectionate D/s (no kissing) to Him telling me He loves me and lots of kissing and way more affection! He seems to be renewing His interest in the dynamic as well..almost testing... im just wondering how many Doms reduce or abandon the D/s part of the relationship while focusing on the new 'feelings' that have developed? i miss the D/s dynamic, but when He tries to bring it in i resist because i feel it is only a momentary thing anyway...a tease...i suppose i should converse with Him about this... good to be back reading the boards!! i hope to get feedback from anyone who has experienced this!! have a great day everyone! 28 Apr 09, 6:03 PM Paper_of_the_Pen CA, 3 yrs I must say that your post is a bit confusing to me: you say that you're in a 24/7 M/s relationship yet you've lost focus of your D/s roles? Please clarify to clear away my confusion please ^_^ Thanks 28 Apr 09, 7:12 PM thegildedlili 3 yrs the OP didn't actually mention M/s in her post. i have no need, for such things, but to make you happy... Josh Pyke 28 Apr 09, 7:28 PM Paper_of_the_Pen CA, 3 yrs Ahh ^_^ I see. Thanks for clearing that up. 29 Apr 09, 5:30 AM MasterRagnarok US(FL), 5 yrs Y! So, in your worldview , D/s does not include kissing? Hmm... I don't get it . I don't know the excct nature of your relationship with your Master - but if you have given control over to Him completely, it seems to Me that whether He kisses you not at all or 467 times a day has no bearing . He is still the Dominant and is using you for His pleasure , right ? 1 May 09, 8:23 PM Red_Spark UK, 5 yrs Masters_lena wrote: im just wondering how many Doms reduce or abandon the D/s part of the relationship while focusing on the new 'feelings' that have developed? i miss the D/s dynamic, but when He tries to bring it in i resist because i feel it is only a momentary thing anyway... I may be reading this completely wrong but I get a sense that the OP may be looking for some kind of reassurance that the D/s part of the relationship isn't going to go kaput now that her Dom feels more 'romantically' involved with her as well. Speaking personally, I find that there are a whole variety of things that can make me want to 'go light-touch' on D/s for a while - especially things that are important, take priority and take up a fair bit of time and/or energy. It could be that the 'romantic' component to your relationship is, right now, one of those things. That doesn't mean that will always be the case, of course - as you say yourself, it could be that your Dom might just want to focus more on the 'new' feelings at present simply *because* it is something new; he might be finding himself learning more about you as a person and what makes you tick in all sorts of ways - which he may then be able to use in the future to good advantage within a more D/s context. These things can go 'up' and 'down' for all sorts of reasons. However, your second sentence shows that perhaps there is some breakdown in communication between you. You resist his efforts to 'do' D/s because you feel, maybe, that it's not fully serious and more of a 'tease', that it won't last, or perhaps that his heart's not fully into it. Really, that's something you should be talking about with him. If you feel the desire for more D/s in whatever way, you should communicate that to him - perhaps you could think in collaboration about a good way forward (acknowledging that the final decisions will, of course, be his!). In that case, you should try not to resist, and your Dom should try and work out strategies to make it easier for you not to resist. If it's a feeling that he is not really into it, not enjoying it or not all that serious about it, maybe it's something you should do very regularly, perhaps even something every day, but only a small thing (so as not to get in the way of other aspects of life, but still underpin). Or perhaps you prefer more of spontenaeity and not to know when something is going to happen, in which case there needs to be different solutions (but I'm starting to talk hot air here as don't know your situation so it's just speculation...!).