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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Submissive to a submissive" Submissive to a submissive (4) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sat 25 Apr 09, 10:18 PM Kay_kay US(NY), 3 yrs This is not fully a question but an expression of confusion. i've always identified myself as a submissive and my habit is to serve those around me. i'm basically a caretaker personality in all aspects of my personality. About 2 months ago, i met a submissive male online. we started talking and he asked me if i could help guide and mentor him. i made it clear i am not a Domme but i agreed to mentor him and help him and teach him while he searched to find himself a true Domme. i did this with the approval of the various people in my life (which is a slightly complicated situation in and of itself). Over the two months i have known him, the other submissive has played with various Dommes but kept telling me that he wanted me for a Domme, wanted my guidance and control over the others. i continued to tell him that i'm not a Domme and he said he understood but that he was not going to lie to me and hide his desire. About a week ago, i agreed to try to be a Domme to him after speaking to the submissive, my Dom Mentor and my Master who both think it will be good for me. However, i'm still finding part of me confused about how this came about. i've spoken to my boy about this, made it part of a session that he had to explain to me why he wanted me as Domme. i still find myself a little confused though and wonder if anyone else has had this happen to them. 26 Apr 09, 3:10 AM kaitlyn 4 yrs I've never had this happen to me but do you think it was your submissive nature that lead to you agree to give him what he wanted? A Domme I mean? 26 Apr 09, 9:11 AM Kay_kay US(NY), 3 yrs i do know that it is very much due to my submissive personality that led me to agree to this. After all, when both the Master and the Mentor that i trust to know me and guide me agree that this is good for me and Master tells me He wants me to do this, there is simply not a way for me not to do my best. i do care about my boy too and when he tells me this is what he wants and needs, my nature wants to fulfill the need even though i view my nature as submissive and i am unsure of my ability. i just am still confused and surprised that another submissive would identify/view me as a Domme when i did not seek that identification. So, i guess, it is more of a question of..have others been in a situation where others viewed them as the opposite they viewed themselves and what happened? Did it work? 26 Apr 09, 3:03 PM SeanT70 9 yrs 113-283-076 wrote: So, i guess, it is more of a question of..have others been in a situation where others viewed them as the opposite they viewed themselves and what happened? Did it work? Plainly put, you view yourself as submissive to the many, just as I may be considered by some to be dominant (or dominering, and yes I know there's a difference), or controlling... ..but this one person, your boy, has seen 'something' in you that says 'no' you're not like that to him - that one person, and perhaps you 'can' top to him, just as Phay is my M, whereas I find it hard to believe anyone else would be up to/for the job sometimes. I know a few people where they've always been in a certain role in their lives, and having met a particular person, they've switched, not because it's kinky, but because it's the natural course for them to take. Lovingly Owned by ~Miss Phay~ 27 Apr 09, 12:22 AM Kay_kay US(NY), 3 yrs Thank you for your answer. This actually does make a lot of sense to me that it is more an outgrowth of the relationship rather than anything specific in me or my behaviour. i simply could not pinpoint what i had done before that could have been perceived as Dominent. Thank you for the different perspective.