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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Thanking a slave?" 1 2 Thanking a slave? (12) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Thu 23 Apr 09, 6:12 PM Valuptuus US, 3 yrs I am “very” new to this. I have always thought that these types of things were done as role playing games in the bedroom for fun. I am 39 years old and had no idea this was a “real” lifestyle that people actualy live on a day to day basis. My first real knowledge of this was about 6 months ago while on a chat site. A Dominatix (out of the blue) private messaged me, saying I was beautiful, yada, yada, then asked me if I would take her slave and that she was looking for Doms in my area to take her slave for awhile. I began laughing and told her she must really be the life of the party, (as I believed this to be some sort of game for her)…..she did not laugh and said “I have asked you twice.” Well, her serious attitude and pompous remark took me aback, and I was shocked. I then told her that I was not into such things and wished her luck. Being that her remarks during our short conversation were so serious, I was puzzled as to why. So, I went to my mother and told her what happened. My mother was not surprised and began explaining to me that this kind of thing is for real and a true lifestyle. I was stunned to say the least. It let me know how very sheltered and unworldly I am. Not too long after this, I received a friendship request from a male. After viewing his profile, I accepted his friendship…we talked for a bit and he told me he has a foot fetish and is looking for a misstress, as he wants to be a footslave. He is willing to relocate to live with a misstress and is a working slave. Well, because of my past experience with the Dominatrix and what my mother told me, I believed him and took him seriously, however, I told him that I was not of that type and knew nothing of such things, but that I would ask my friends if they were interested. He was very grateful and very patient and for several months we continued our friendship chats and each time he was hopeful that I had found a mistress for him. For months now I have not been successful…..he has sent me stories on the matter of footslaves and I have read them to get a better idea of what he is and requires. Through these months I have begun to feel sorry for him and have decided to take him myself. When I told him this, he was of course, exstatic…..I however do not know what I am doing. He himself is very new to this as he has never had a misstress, but desires one most desperately. I am new to this as I have only recently become aware of such things. We are “running blind” you might say and I have joined this site in the hopes of learning from those who this is a way of life for them. I have many, many questions that I would appreciate views on from both sides. Of course asking many at once would be troublesome, so I will begin with one, as I used the search function here and found no results for it…. My question is this….Is it proper to thank your slave for things they are doing for you or would that compromise the relationship? Misstress Val I am here for knowledge 23 Apr 09, 6:40 PM CarolinaMoon IE, 3 yrs Your relationship is *Yours*. If you feel happier and more comfortable thanking him and showing appreciation for what he does for you then thats what you should do. Its about what works for you both. My Dominant always thanks me, he doesn't have to, but that how he does things and thats his decision. Good luck on your journey 23 Apr 09, 6:49 PM Lady_Midnight UK, 3 yrs I always thank my slave when he does something right. I don't have to but manners are part of the protocol I work with so it would be odd if I did not. Plus it's one way to set up a clear distinction between correct and incorrect behaviour. 23 Apr 09, 7:22 PM moebius_slave US(LA), 3 yrs Valuptuus wrote: My question is this….Is it proper to thank your slave for things they are doing for you or would that compromise the relationship? Master and i thank each other all the time for things, being polite shouldn't detract anything from a relationship. No Fear. 23 Apr 09, 7:34 PM SeanT70 9 yrs Valuptuus wrote: Is it proper to thank your slave for things they are doing for you or would that compromise the relationship? Proper? Where does that actually come into it? Of course there 'are' certain things they would be 'of use' to you both in how your relationship will work; but just because a whole load of other people 'might' use this, that, and the other protocols in their houses, in doesn't mean you have to in yours. Yes it's nice to be thanked for something we've done, but sometimes life can be a thankless task in just living it; Going back to what's proper and what happens in your house as opposed to everyone else's; like CM said, it's your house to run as you please, given that you are mistress in it after all. You might feel a certain stiff obligation as a new mistress to behave a certain way, when really, there is none; just be you, if it's you that is a mistress type. Being you is the best way there is. Plastic (falseness) will only ever cause problems. Sean. Lovingly Owned by ~Miss Phay~ 23 Apr 09, 7:47 PM thegildedlili 3 yrs there is a related thread here. i have no need, for such things, but to make you happy... Josh Pyke Edited 23 Apr 09, 7:48 PM by thegildedlili 23 Apr 09, 8:19 PM jesters_cum_slut US(MD), 3 yrs welcome and it is great that a simple friendship as evolved into so much more for me my master requires me to thank him everytime i am allowed to do anything for him or with him just to give you another point of view 24 Apr 09, 1:53 AM Valuptuus US, 3 yrs Thank you, to all who replied....your views are appreciated and helpful. I would welcome any others as well. I am here for knowledge 24 Apr 09, 8:56 AM MasterDralor US(OH), 4 yrs Valuptuus wrote: Is it proper to thank your slave for things they are doing for you or would that compromise the relationship? I thank My slave when the situation deserves it. If she was following orders or established instructions, for example, then I do not see the need to thank her for doing what she is supposed to do. One the other hand, if she does something that was asked for or expected, then common courtesy would apply in that situation. 25 Apr 09, 6:59 PM allalone47 US(OH), 6 yrs First off you can't take a slave. You have to except or reject the slave when that slave gives themself to you. 25 Apr 09, 9:15 PM Valuptuus US, 3 yrs hmmmm....interesting, thank you I am here for knowledge Next page