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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Collared in public." 1 2 3 Collared in public. (27) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 7 Jun 09, 6:14 AM MasterRevolver US(CA), 4 yrs My pet considers it an honor to wear my collar, and feels very naked when it's off. It's off for showers or for job related things or around her family - but otherwise, it's never off her pretty little neck. She is to make sure the silver strap on the leather collar shines every time she is in the bathroom. If you're finding yourself getting nervous about wearing your collar in public, remember that you have given yourself away to your master. You no longer own your humility and your shame, so you're really putting that shame and humility on your master, in a way. Don't look at that as something to feel guilty about, but be empowered by your duty to please your master or mistress. 7 Jun 09, 7:32 AM pyroaquatic 4 yrs I will pipe up about something like this... because... well I am odd and I feel I have to. I have worn a collar. In fact for several months without taking it off except for showers and the like. People do notice... ESPECIALLY in small towns. I wore that collar and I wore it proudly. I have used all of the lines that Y/you folks have prescribed. I do not like hiding things, but that is one thing I had to. In bigger cities, yes... you can get away with those things. You become just a face in the crowd almost instantly. In a situation where you interact with the same 35 people in a day... that is when the less subtle collar comes on. I wish people would understand. They say do not judge a book by its cover. Some do not even read the cover. 20 Jun 09, 12:13 AM 957-909-675 US(PA), 3 yrs my Master has numerous ways of marking me in public, i have a collar and a heavy, tight ankle bracelet with His name on them that i wear... no O/one has asked any strange questions beyond 'does the ankle hurt' ... on my neck seems like its looked through... although i have been called out on it a few times by Doms/Masters/Mistresses ... that was very akward... ~*~lil squirrel ~*~ 20 Jun 09, 6:00 PM 956-572-283 NG, 2 yrs Y! All, I have to say is that, you are lucky having a collar, at least you are sure of having a collar just that it was removed at that particular moment. There is a saying that goes this way ''HE THAT HAS HEAD DOES NOT HAVE HAT, AND HE THAT HAS HAT DOES NOT HAVE HEAD'' so you need to make use of your sense. NOT EVERYBODY THAT ARE BORN TO BE MASTER... ONLY DESTINY WILL TELL. 23 Jun 09, 12:17 AM 000-671-955 CA, 7 yrs Y! kitty_miaow wrote: I think most people don't really care or give a monkeys.... I never get any looks.... now if I wore bright pink trousers and yellow wellies.... I may Just relax and try not to obsess about what other people think, they probably just want to do their shopping asap like everyone else.... i agree totally, if you feel that you are obvious wearing it, then it will show, the more you wear your collar, the more it is part of you. Master has a few collars for me, some for everyday wear in my work and daily routines, and others for play, and going out to functions where it is to recognized, and used. Only the people who understand will know of its true meaning, while others will glance, and may ask of its reason, which it will be up to you to decide what answer will be given. i am proud that Master has chosen me to be his slave, and by wearing it shows my committment to Him, and His Lifestyle. Master's "o" 671955 23 Jun 09, 2:18 AM fireflies US(TX), 4 yrs There is a LOT of wisdom written in this thread and I agree with it all including pyro's, that there are some folks with small minds! You are what you are and gawd did not put you on this planet to please anyone else other than yourself and your Master. If you are happy, your Master is happy and you have your health, then all is right in your world. Don't fret the small stuff, enjoy your life! 000-671-955 wrote: kitty_miaow wrote: I think most people don't really care or give a monkeys.... I never get any looks.... Just relax and try not to obsess about what other people think, they probably just want to do their shopping asap like everyone else.... i agree totally, if you feel that you are obvious wearing it, then it will show, the more you wear your collar, the more it is part of you. Master has a few collars for me, some for everyday wear in my work and daily routines, and others for play, and going out to functions where it is to recognized, and used. Only the people who understand will know of its true meaning, while others will glance, and may ask of its reason, which it will be up to you to decide what answer will be given. i am proud that Master has chosen me to be his slave, and by wearing it shows my committment to Him, and His Lifestyle. i am my Master's tattooed and pierced slave. i am His, He owns ALL of me, i do everything i can to please Him. 23 Jun 09, 12:33 PM Undercover_perv 2 yrs While you are probably just being self conscious about percieved reactions to your collar, perhaps you could discuss with your Master the possibility of wearing something more circumspect, like a necklace, that way you can still feel his Ownership and not be distracted by others views of you. I have found in new subs this level of subtlety certainly helped and helped to cement the relationship. 27 Jun 09, 9:07 PM 660-965-760 UK, 2 yrs I wear a very simple silver collar- it resembles a choker but instead of a clasp it is fastened by security set-screws. I never remove it, very few people notice I wear it (or at least don't mention it) and those that do often comment on how pretty it is. I think it is our own self consciousness that makes us think people notice our collars. 27 Jun 09, 10:46 PM Nomadd 2 yrs Well My caethes wears her collar(s) everyday and just about every where. she is proud to display she is mine and I have never forced her to wear anything in public she wasn't willing to wear. she takes her collar off for showers, when doing some serious cleaning and she is working up a sweat or to the swimming pool. even then she is still wearing a set of engraved dog tags that she adores (yes she is SPOILED). she has always been comfortable with who and what she is and who and what I am. Honestly who gives a damn what others think as long as it makes you and you Master/Mistress/Dom(me) happy. 29 Jun 09, 9:40 PM M_o_r_g US, 3 yrs I feel I must reply to this. Mine wears her collar 24 / 7 LOCKED and I have the key. While less intrusive as it is around her ankle it is a steel collar approximately 3/8 inch thick with a padlock that is inscribed “kajira”. I bought it through “ringof steel.net” it is stainless steel and will not rust or tarnish. No maintenance required. I had a neck collar of this same style on her but it caused her headaches since she was not used to it. I replaced the neck collar with the ankle one of the same style. My kajira wears hers 24 / 7 and is proud to wear it. It is a sign of commitment and unbreakable love. For those who worry about other issues, I ask but one question….. if you are truly a 24 / 7 slave and not the vanilla want to be then why do you care what others think or say. They are not in our life style, they have no understanding and much less character than those who are in fact in it 24 / 7. I can see if you wear one that says “slave” or something stamped on the collar, but to wear a sign of your commitment and unbreakable love should be done with PRIDE. My kajira is above all committed to US. The Gorean master desires more than a slave's submission, more than merely her body. A Gorean man is satisfied with nothing less than all of a slave. He will possess you, body and mind, heart and soul. Nothing less is acceptable. Next page