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	TSR : Web boards : M/s and D/s : "Collared in public." 1 2 3 Collared in public. (27) Thu 26 Mar 09, 3:44 PM 775-532-284 UK, 16 mths I have started wearing my collar in the house more frequently for longer periods of time. Yesterday I had to go out. I wore the collar in the car but Master let me take it off when we arrived at the supermarket. I am disappointed in myself that I failed to please him. Does anyone have any ideas of how to cope with this type of stressor? 26 Mar 09, 8:43 PM property_of_MacCain 2 yrs Do you know why you think it is stressful? Is it because you're afraid people will think less of you? Is it because you're afraid they'll point? The truth is the vast majority of people won't notice, those who do will already at least know a little of the lifestyle. i promise no-one will laugh or point. The only way to prove this is to wear it in public. You'll see, as long as you don't act like it is there, no-one else will. All the worry is in your head. p i breathe because He allows me, indulging Him indulges me. 26 Mar 09, 9:41 PM kitty_miaow 18 mths I think most people don't really care or give a monkeys.... I never get any looks.... now if I wore bright pink trousers and yellow wellies.... I may Just relax and try not to obsess about what other people think, they probably just want to do their shopping asap like everyone else.... 27 Mar 09, 2:11 AM DaddySirs_princess US(CA), 17 mths i feel ya. i wore mine in public for the first time recently, no one said anything and asked. Plus it kept me in a great sub-space type euphoria. ^_^ Ohai. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VU_rTX23V7Q Not because of who i am, But because of what You've done. Not because of what i've done, But because of who You are. And You've told me who i am. i am Yours, i am Yours. 27 Mar 09, 2:55 AM Hisjoy US, 22 mths i had similar anxieties about wearing a collar in public. i was afraid that people would stare at me, laugh at me or -gasp- ask me what that thing was around my neck! i am accustomed to wearing ribbons around my neck (my job wouldnt allow for me to wear a full on collar) and i feel in the long run this has helped me become a little more comfortable with His collar around my neck when i am in public. Also, i am now known at "that girl with the ribbons" where i work and alot of people joke that if they untied the ribbon my head would fall off...the ironic part is that they will never know how close to the truth they are i went to the doctors the other day, i had to have a physical, and Mr. Oliver decided that i was to wear His collar out that day...i was a little nervous, and as i walked into the Dr.'s office i would have SWORN that all eyes would be on me. Alas, i realized that i am really not all that important in the life of others...most glanced at it (like most glace at the ribbons) and then adverted their eyes. To some disappointment there were no sniggers, to whispers behind hands...nothing. my nurse too the liberty of switching her eyes back and forth from the d-ring back to my eyes, and it made me hold my head higher and a great smile appeared on my lips, like i was daring, hoping for her to say something. The Dr. even felt around the collar when he was examining my neck and lymph nodes and he didnt say anything. Moreso, this is an insecurity withing ourselves, and once it is faced and dealt with i bet that you will look forward to proudly displaying your Masters collar around your neck Trust me, or better yet, trust your Master. He would not lead you astray... <3joy :: Quod me nutrit, me destruit :: 27 Mar 09, 12:06 PM property_of_MacCain 2 yrs You know, it occurred to me we don't know what your collar looks like. Is the embarrassment because the collar is something you find embarrassing? Do you find it too large, or bright or something? Before MacCain collared me with a permanent collar he had me wear the one in the picture around the house. It was very large and heavy and he did not require me to wear it when out and about. Don't get me wrong, i loved the heft of it, but it is the Darby type and the locking mechanism was huge. When MacCain collared me with a permanent collar, like this one HERE, he locked it in place and it hasn't been off since. That was more than a year ago... Really, i had a crash course in how little people cared what i wore. i've seen doctors, lawyers, gone to parent teacher conferences, seen family, gone to the grocery, taken the kids to parks and pools, taken my kids to birthday parties and all the while the collar was in full view. Ya know how many comments i got? THREE. Mom asked were i got it, i told her it was MacCain's. A woman in the apartment complex we live in asked if i ever took it off, i said no. A store clerk asked if it had a special meaning, i said yes. And ya know what? Life moved on. It wasn't the end of the world that someone noticed it, same as it isn't the end of the world if someone notices a wedding band. The collar has meaning to you, the rest of the world is just too busy to care. p i breathe because He allows me, indulging Him indulges me. 17 May 09, 4:26 AM MasterSmashed UK, 2 yrs When people learn to drive they have a great big "L" stuck on the car, indicating they're learning. As a learner driver you obsess that everyone is looking at you and judging you. I can see the same might apply here, although wearing a collar is different from learning to drive. However, most people will look once, and carry on with what they were doing. I read a post by a slave who always wore her collar in public and got asked very few questions. One day someone said to her "Is that a dog collar you're wearing?". She replied "No it's not, it's something very special to me" which instantly ended the conversation and questions. Hope there is a modicum of help/reassurance there for you. 18 May 09, 12:16 AM 361-703-869 US(FL), 2 yrs my Master allows me to wear my heavy collar on weekends and to sleep - He's fine with me wearing it out and around O/our friends who understand (or at least TRY) to understand this type of relationship). At all times i wear a thin silver necklace with a padlock. i can understand the sense of disappointment, and fear that He removed it because of His displeasure. However, did He indicate that He was displeased to you? If not, perhaps He removed it because He didn't want it seen on you in the supermarket at that time. If you can question, maybe doing so and determining why it was removed will put your mind at ease. luthien of Beren 18 May 09, 4:12 AM 000-638-705 US, 4 yrs 24/7 slave he known as slave james or 000-638-705 and have worn collars out in public before just don't worry a bought it and let it go people wont care and if they do so what what! the main thing you should be concerned a bought is making your Master happy any way hope I was able to help slave james 18 May 09, 10:02 AM Sklavos_mou_Kyriah CY, 21 mths As Sherlock Holmes is reputed to have said, "People see but do not observe". I can only speak for living in the UK and Cyprus but for what its worth, if you look around you, you'll see there are many people who present themselves in different and dare I say it, - bizzare ways. Painted faces, garishly dyed hair, men in quasi-feminine clothing and vice-versa, the list goes on. Try spending some time sitting in an al-fresco cafe watching the world go by and see what's there, - observe (as Holmes would have said). That is something you and Master can enjoy doing together. Oh, and wear your collar anyway. To be a true slave is to be truly free Slave/Sklavos 7 Jun 09, 3:16 AM 077-550-955 4 yrs My advice is from my experience. When I took my slave full time, I made her wear a small petite leather lace tied in the back of the neck. Soon she went to a little wider strap. Now (4 years later) she wears a 3/4" wide leather collar with a snap in the back (I make all our leather gear). I never gave her the option of not wearing it full time. 2 years into our relationship, I made small steel chains for her ankles. These are not jewelry, these are a dog lead cut and secured with small pad locks on each ankle. (I use them for easy securing when and where ever, IE: in the car and are worn 24/7 for the last 2 years). I use to own my own over the road truck and we were in many places for 2 years and several people made comments about her collar or her ankle chains. They were all very polite comments, mostly showing an interest in the design or style. Never had anyone laugh, some just gave a "knowing" look. If anyone asked directly what they were for, I told them. She is never alone, she is by my side 24/7 and is not allowed to speak for her self. Her not having the option to take it off when going out (even in the company of her grown family) made the transition easier I think, it also helped her gain the understanding of who is in control. She was novice when we met. I say, wear it, you are there to please your Master, not the world! she even wears her collar and chains to church every week! Next page