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	TSR : Web boards : Internal Enslavement : "Veiws on earning trust and respect" Veiws on earning trust and respect (8) This post is on the Internal Enslavement web board. Tue 24 Mar 09, 3:04 PM Eclectic1 US(ID), 4 yrs The terms trust and respect are bantered about quit a bit here. I would like to ask a question from the slaves perspective. How does a dominate earn your trust and respect starting from here, online to an actual person to person meeting and continuing on from there? 24 Mar 09, 5:28 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs Call me a cynic... but i doubt it can be done online. It is too easy to doubt who is on the other side of the screen, to develop trust or respect. Please understand i've never had an online, or long distance relationship, because i do not trust people easily. Other people may have different experiences. i trust and respect MacCain because in the nearly two decades i've known him (all the while in real life) i've never known him to lie, or do anything dishonorable, or to be immoral. It was easy for me to surrender to him, because i already knew and respected him. To answer the question as to how to get from here to there... TIME. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither was trust. If you can prove yourself over time to deserve trust and respect, it will be given to you. p i breathe because He allows me, indulging Him indulges me. 24 Mar 09, 6:59 PM PuppyClaire UK, 3 yrs Eclectic1 wrote: Veiws on earning trust and respect How does a dominate earn your trust and respect starting from here, As a friend they'd earn it in exactly the same way as any other friend. Being honest, friendly, reliable and most of all by not doing anything hurtful. As a possible partner...that would be different. I could respect someone I never planned to meet but I would only meet someone who I respected and thought was compatible with me, exactly as I'd choose a vanilla partner.....but I want to emphesise that compatible doesn't mean letting me have my own way, it just means a similar moral or ethical code and at least a couple of things in common in respect of hobbies or kinks.. They'd convince me to meet them by letting me get to know them a bit. Claire 24 Mar 09, 8:43 PM Sklavos_mou_Kyriah 3 yrs property_of_MacCain wrote: Call me a cynic... but i doubt it can be done online. It is too easy to doubt who is on the other side of the screen, to develop trust or respect. You're probably right there p. I did things t'other way round. I have had a fairly long Platonic friendship with the woman who eventually became Lady Mistress. We entered into a M/s relationship when we were sure we could trust each other and initially gave each other an escape clause which has now been long since abandoned. We live at opposite ends of England so we are in an LDR of necessity. property_of_MacCain wrote: To answer the question as to how to get from here to there... TIME. Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither was trust. If you can prove yourself over time to deserve trust and respect, it will be given to you. p I entirely agree. It takes time to get to know someone. To be a true slave is to be truly free Slave/Sklavos 24 Mar 09, 8:59 PM 483-608-929 US(OH), 4 yrs Eclectic1 wrote: Veiws on earning trust and respect The terms trust and respect are bantered about quit a bit here. I would like to ask a question from the slaves perspective. How does a dominate earn your trust and respect starting from here, online to an actual person to person meeting and continuing on from there? While online is often questioned, in this world, it is a viable resource for meeting other people. It's a first step and, from there, real time takes over. A person can pass on details in messages and phone calls and pictures that help another decide if they want to go further and meet in person. In person is when the trust begins. It takes time and energy and work on both sides to achieve a strong bond. Out of that bond the respect grows. Anyone can call themselves a Dom/Domme but the truth comes out in Their actions and words. It's definitely in a slave's best interest to make sure the trust is placed in the correct place because the activities that we participate in can be a bit extreme at times. Written by it with its Owner's permission. Thank you SIR. Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom. Marilyn Ferguson Duct tape is like the force, it has a light side and a dark side and it holds the universe together 25 Mar 09, 6:48 PM Eclectic1 US(ID), 4 yrs Thanks all. The answers were as I hoped to read. Have a good day. 26 Mar 09, 9:41 AM Malkinius US(IL), 5 yrs Greetings Eclectic1..... Speaking as someone who has only once worked with someone, or collared someone I had not met first online, I can say it is very possible to develop enough trust to initiate a M/s relationship. Yes, being honest and having a verifiable track record and good reputation does help a lot. For instance, if someone has been reading your posts online for a number of years, as has happened in my case, the person already has a feeling of knowing me and what I believe and do. They feel like they already know me even if I don't know them. I know that not everyone wants to spend years building up such a reputation...or can do so. They want it NOW!!! Many people get caught in the trap of they can't do something until they have proven themselves and can't prove themselves until they do things. It is a hard trap to break out of but it is possible. Be well.... Malkinius 26 Mar 09, 2:17 PM Eclectic1 US(ID), 4 yrs "It is a hard trap to break out of but it is possible." Life is full of traps, the trick is to learn how to make them work for you in stead of engulfing you. Especially in these relationships time and patience are the best rule, sometimes it's just hard to implement. Thanks for the response. Have a good day. 27 Mar 09, 12:37 PM 201-997-618 3 yrs property_of_MacCain wrote: Call me a cynic... but i doubt it can be done online. It is too easy to doubt who is on the other side of the screen, to develop trust or respect. i'm sorry but this 'is' a very cynical statement. 30 years with a real life partner who in the end hasn't earned an ounce of trust - 7 year online friendship that has developed into total trust. i'm sure you wont take that seriously because you have no respect for people like me, being that the trust and respect we have is with each other and not with our real life partners but just to point out - i also do not trust people easily if at all but it most definitely can be done online given time. 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