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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Mental Punishments" 1 2 3 Mental Punishments (26) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 8 Apr 09, 5:20 PM 700-548-700 US, 2 yrs 693-874-541 wrote: I (Luckily) have never had a mental punishment but the worst one that I can think of is my Master not paying any attention to me. Just sitting me in a corner and ignoring me. That would drive me mad. At least with the physical punishments it is some form of physical contact, as well as my Master always explains to me that he doesn't want to cause me pain but I have to learn not to do (what ever miss-deed) that again. Quite right! i sickens me to even think of Goddess Mistress DivineThing being displeased with Her property in any way. 10 Apr 09, 9:05 PM see_Jack_top US(NY), 2 yrs It took me a while - I'm still finding my way in all this - to mentally separate physical acts (beating, spanking, what-have-you) from the concept of punishment. This used to give me a lot of trouble, as my boy is both well-behaved and an incurable masochist...so he would resort to acting up just to get "punished", and neither of us felt good about the punishment itself. I mentioned this to him recently (after I'd come to the understanding that it made more sense to keep kinky violence and actual discipline separate) and he agreed that the worst punishment, for him, is knowing that I'm disappointed. 19 Apr 09, 11:13 PM bastinadolover UK, 2 yrs I totally agree with many of the views above, I find getting the silent treatment absolutely horrendous. When my previous Mistress used to give me the silent treatment, I used to feel incredibly alone and to a large extent at a complete loss. All I wanted to do is to submit and show my devotion to her, and the very fact that she wouldn't allow me to do that would emotionally tear me apart. It wasn't just getting the silent treatment, it was the fact that she wouldn't allow me to crawl underneath her feet, so that she could rest her feet on my back whilst watching television, etc., instead I would be banished to the kitchen. The psychological and emotional loneliness that this form of punishment would create, I would sometimes find unbearable to the point of tears. I would rather receive a beating anyday. However, getting the silent treatment did work, because I would go out of my way not to be disobedient or disappoint her again. The only other form of mental punishment I would find worse than this would be the threat of being released from my servitude to her. 20 Apr 09, 4:08 PM blue_girl 2 yrs i agree that disappointing my Owner is deeply upsetting, but i don't necessarily agree with those of you who take the "i punish myself so s/he doesn't have to" line. When M. knows i'm upset and anxious over disappointing Him in some way, His attitude is "As well you should be..." and it doesn't prevent me from being punished. For that, though, i'm thankful: if He didn't punish and then discuss my behavior and His expectations with me, i would have a difficult time giving up the guilt i feel each time i let Him down. Punishment is part of the process of closure--and it does work as a strong deterrent...at least in my case. ~blue~ Edited for clarity. "I was being called to surrender the very citadel of my self. I was completely in the dark. I did not really know what repentance was or what I was required to repent of. It was indeed the turning point of my life." --Bede Griffiths Edited 20 Apr 09, 4:09 PM by blue_girl 30 Apr 09, 5:14 AM 982-976-369 US(IN), 5 yrs blue_girl wrote: When M. knows i'm upset and anxious over disappointing Him in some way, His attitude is "As well you should be..." and it doesn't prevent me from being punished. For that, though, i'm thankful: if He didn't punish and then discuss my behavior and His expectations with me, i would have a difficult time giving up the guilt i feel each time i let Him down. Punishment is part of the process of closure--and it does work as a strong deterrent...at least in my case. This works for me too, the punishment for me is the closure I need to move beyond the infraction. It's the end to the whole ordeal for me, because of this, for the mental side sometimes he will make me wait. Sometimes my punishment is not being able to serve, so that I might see how important it is to me to be able to serve. He also has a submissive and she forgot about something important he had asked her to do, she had to spend the night with his name written on the bottom of her feet. He told her if he didn't matter that much to her she could walk all over him like a common person and not his treasure, she was devastated, but neither of us has forgotten anything he has asked since then. I guess he's fortunate there when it comes to punishment, she and I care about each other a great deal and it's very hard to see the other one in trouble, which doesn't happen often, but when it does, it's usually over something pretty big and we both feel it even if only one of us did something wrong. So essentially we both almost feel punished, so it's like a pre punishment for the one not really in trouble and usually cuts down on the punishments for Master, which he doesn't enjoy either. Master's faith 30 Apr 09, 5:40 AM kaitlyn 3 yrs I agree completely with it bringing a sense of closure. I tend to keep beating myself up over things until i really know it's in the past, and for me that usually means some sort of punishment. :-/ 2 May 09, 10:55 AM kyttenM9 US(WA), 3 yrs Mental punishment is a whole lot worse than the physical punishments. i myself rather have the physical punishment because at least it reinforces you. with my Master, He has also used mental punishment on me as He would be on and i would try to talk to Him and He wouldnt answer for over a week at one time. its very hard to be denied to talk to your Master for that long. but during that time He had left me in the stocks and wanted me to think of what i did wrong to displease Him and to what i would do to correct it. after that He came back after i realized what i did wrong and got into more trouble again after He let the stocks up i thought He wanted me to crawl to Him but He didnt say exactly to and had to go back to the stocks and stay til He came back with a shock collar and a shock chastity belt. took the other ones off and placed the shock collar and shock chastity belt on. then i was dragged and put into my cage locked down and cage covered up. and just today my Master told me He had done some thinking and He is keeping me in suspense on it and wont tell me what it is. to me that is the worst mental punishment you can ever have done to you, when your Master tells you that He has been thinking of what He is going to do to you and then tells you that He will not tell you what it is. as i am in suspense right now i think different things wondering what other punishment i am going to be enduring. but if you ask me the worst mental punishment you can endure is that of which the Master denies you the pleasure of being with Him, speaking to Him, and making you watch what He does to others. i am not perfect by all means i do get all kinds of punishments and a marking, which i rather have those anytime over having the mental punishments where i am denied talking, interacting, or whatever else with my Master. with all this being said, i have learned that no matter what my Master does or how He punishes me i still will serve honor and obey Him. if you would like to know more feel free to send me a memo and i will answer anything you have to ask to the best of my knowledge. 3 May 09, 2:28 PM SlaveNika NL, 3 yrs For me there is no harder punishment than my Master being VERY upset and dissapointed at me. It really breaks my heart if i see Him like that and at those times i wish i could turn back time and make it all better. Master does usually combine it with physical punishment and after the physical punishment for Him it's over and done with. He forgives and forgets, which i'm very happy about. But for me the time between Him telling me how very dissapointed He is and the physical punishment is the worst. No whipping can beat that. After the punishment i forget the whipping pretty quickly (it helps that i love whippings, although the punishment whippings are a lot harscher ) but His dissapointment is a much longer reminder of His punishment to me. ~ My Master introduced me into the world of slavery. A world i have always searched for, but i never knew where it was. Now my heart belongs to Him and His world forever and ever ~ 3 May 09, 2:39 PM slaveanne US, 4 yrs For me the worst mental punishment is when my Master makes me decide what physical punishment i will be subjected to. As a certified masochist i crave physical pain so the mental part is, to me, the worst of the two. When i am directed to select the physical punishment, i may or may not be told the specific infraction that resulted in my being punished. (As opposed to being subjected to pain because i crave it and it makes me cum!) Punishment for an infraction, although giving me the pain i crave, often does not give me the arousal because in my mind i know i have done something wrong. That mental part in reality denies me the pleasure release i might otherwise get from pain. When i have to select the punishment, there is also the fear, again mental, that i might pick the wrong one, or the wrong amount and will then displease my Master, which in itself is a kind of mental punishment. i.e. i have failed my Master or His expectations in some way. For whatever reason my Master has never subjected me to what i would call "silence" punishment. He has never refused to speak to me nor refused to let me speak. There are times when He places me in a mental restraint, where i must first ask permission to say something. In that case i suppose i might be prohibited from speaking, but i am not subjected to total silence where i cannot even ask to speak. Sorry to ramble on so...but it's one of those subjects that seems to have many different facets. 16 Jun 09, 3:38 AM slave_of_The_Tesh US(FL), 2 yrs MastersBaby wrote: Mental Punishments slaves/subs: what was the worst mental punishment you have ever received. A/all: how did this experience help Y/you. Was it worse then a physical one. Or did it help you realize your mistakes easier then physical punishments do? The worst punishment was never intended to be a punishment at all. It was, quite literally, all in my head. Last Thursday, W/we were out to breakfast for my 24th birthday, and a friend dropped by at the restaurant to visit. O/our three and a half year old son (I'll call him Kidlet for privacy's sake) was fussing and crying and wouldn't settle, not for me or for Master. So the friend took him, and Master got offended because He felt that she thought He wasn't good enough at His job as a parent. When He gets offended, EVERYbody catches hell. I took Kidlet to change his diaper, and when I got back Master told me what was wrong in a manner that made it seem like He was upset with me. I took the bags and the baby and went outside. Well, see, I have this disappointment complex. I HATE disappointing people. Disappointing Master paralyzes me. Thinking I had done so did the same thing to me. I couldn't breathe. I couldn't speak. I couldn't move. Even after He took Kidlet from me, it took a tremendous amount of effort to get off the bench I was sitting on. I didn't have much of a voice for the entire drive back to His house. And we were at the stop sign about to turn to park in front of the house when it felt like my lungs were collapsing and my heart was beating far too fast, and that hurt like hell. I scared Him half to death because I couldn't stop myself from crying and I couldn't breathe. But once He talked me down and reassured me that He had never been angry with me, but only with O/our friend, I calmed down and everything was fine again. That experience was a thousand times worse than any physical punishment - which doesn't happen often, since we're still working our way around the ropes here. He's far more experienced than I am; this is my first M/s relationship, and W/we waited until after we had gotten serious (meaning seriously discussing engagement and marriage) in our vanilla relationship to start that. It's difficult trying to work around my hyper-protective friends and family and O/our toddler. Basically He's "breaking me in" slowly. Sarah This post probably edited for spelling/grammar because I'm weird like that. Edited 17 Jun 09, 1:03 AM by slave_of_The_Tesh Next page