Sat 14 Mar 09, 2:39 AM
MastersBaby
US, 18 mths |
i deeply upset Master a couple of days ago. He said next time we met He was going to punish me worse then He had before. this time however He said it would be mental instead of physical.
i was just curious
slaves/subs:
what was the worst mental punishment you have ever received.
Masters:
what was the worst mental punishment you have ever given.
was it more effective to teach your slaves/subs the lesson you wanted them to lean??
A/all:
how did this experience help Y/you. Was it worse then a physical one. Or did it help you realize your mistakes easier then physical punishments do?
thank Y/you all ahead of time.
~MastersBaby~ |
14 Mar 09, 11:58 AM
Oysterman
US(VA), 21 mths
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You are experiencing the mental punishment now. This was something you did to upset him a couple of days ago and he told you that you were going to be mentally punished. So now you have spent the last couple of days dwelling on what you did to displease him and what your punishment might be. I think that was what he was aiming for in terms of mental punishment. |
16 Mar 09, 11:35 AM
amatae
UK, 23 mths |
My Mistress sometimes uses mental punishments. The one that always stands out the most is the time that she wouldn't hug me or kiss me before I went to bed. I remember lying at her feet desperately hoping she would just allow me the smallest of affectionate touches but she didn't. I had to go and sob in the bathroom for a while so as not to disturb my son when I went to bed! I still remember exactly what the punishment was for and it did make me more mindful.
Once a month we go out to a BDSM club and it's something I look forward to so much mostly because it is our only night out together. We often use it as an opportunity to catch up with punishments I have accrued over the past month. This month my Mistress decided that my punishment would be mostly a mental one and chose to give her other partner a beating instead while I had to wait nearby. That one got the tears flowing too. Beatings don't make me cry but these punishments do so they certainly stick in my mind. |
16 Mar 09, 3:31 PM
367-600-155
US(IN), 2 yrs
Y! |
I think mental punishment is worse than physical. Master normally uses physical, but the one that stands out the most is the mental one. we live apart but talk several times everyday on the phone and through text.when i was being very bratty and wouldn't listen to Master, he told me i couldn't call or contact him for 24 hrs. that was my punishment. it was worse than being whipped. i thought bout him the whole time i was being punished. that 24 hrs was the longest time in my life. when i get in trouble now, if asked, i prefer a spanking over no communication. even though we live apart, we see each other at least once a week. so talking is my lifeline to Master when i'm not with him.
i agree that your punishment has already started. thinking bout what can be done and getting all worked up about it is another mental punishment. Master has used this as well. as well as asking what he should do mentally to me. |
17 Mar 09, 11:15 PM
905-410-154
US(PA), 18 mths |
My submissiveness is all done in cyberspace so every act is mental not physical. I remember once watching another submissive make love to my Mistress while I was caged up. My Mistress always withheld herself from me so seeing another sub get to perform orakl sex on her was particularly painful |
31 Mar 09, 10:07 PM
MastersBaby
US, 18 mths |
Master has decided since its im in training all punishments but a few will be mental.
so far their are 2 He will use most regularly
1. having me repeat certian phrases like "i dont deserve you Master."
2. no talking to each other for as long as He sees fit.
so far ive only had to do the first one and it was terriable, ive just started training and it was hard to say things like that to Him, it really made me not want to break any rules ever again.
and i agree. the threat of the punishment was part of it. and i was up all night trying to figure out what He was going to do.
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31 Mar 09, 11:36 PM
EvaMaria
US(CA), 2 yrs
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MastersBaby wrote:
1. having me repeat certian phrases like "i dont deserve you Master."
so far ive only had to do the first one and it was terriable, ive just started training and it was hard to say things like that to Him, it really made me not want to break any rules ever again.
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Was his purpose in choosing the phrase to show you can be forced to repeat something you don't believe, to remind you of a thing you do believe or to influence your current belief of yourself? As in was this to be positive as well as negative reinforcement?
If this is so, was it effective?
Eva (The property formerly known as Camille  )
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4 Apr 09, 3:26 AM
MastersBaby
US, 18 mths |
very affective.
it reminded me about how i was competely His and that it could be taken away if He chooses.
it was hard to say and it made me realize how i dont really have a choice about U/us. He could decide its over tomorrow. and id have to follow.
as to positive or negative
lets just say i never want to break His rules and do that again.
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5 Apr 09, 5:02 AM
693-874-541
US(CA), 2 yrs
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I (Luckily) have never had a mental punishment but the worst one that I can think of is my Master not paying any attention to me. Just sitting me in a corner and ignoring me. That would drive me mad. At least with the physical punishments it is some form of physical contact, as well as my Master always explains to me that he doesn't want to cause me pain but I have to learn not to do (what ever miss-deed) that again. |
7 Apr 09, 10:29 PM
504-706-726
US(VA), 17 mths
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Mental punishments are horrible. i feel they are much worse than any physical punishment. When i've done something wrong, granted my Master will use physical punishment from time to time but He most times uses the mental aspect of it. One time that i can remember is that He just wouldn't say anything. Kept quiet and the look in His eyes was enough to make me want to cry. When He finally did say something, though His voice was soft almost tender i knew in an instant that i had not only failed to be pleasing to Him but that i had disapointed Him. That hurt me worse than i ever thought it could. One of the things about 24/7 M/s relationships is that it means more when He punishes me mentally because i'm a mental creature. Meaning i think more with my mind than my own body. Though i react to His teasing me...which He does all the time. When He gets into my head and is able to know exactly how to put me back in my place subserviently well though it hurts to be punished in this way it for me is the ultimate show that He truly cares enough to let me know what i have done wrong. |
8 Apr 09, 12:25 AM
amatae
UK, 23 mths |
693-874-541 wrote:
I (Luckily) have never had a mental punishment but the worst one that I can think of is my Master not paying any attention to me. Just sitting me in a corner and ignoring me. That would drive me mad. At least with the physical punishments it is some form of physical contact, as well as my Master always explains to me that he doesn't want to cause me pain but I have to learn not to do (what ever miss-deed) that again.
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Is that really the worst you can imagine? I feel let off lightly on the occasions when I am sent to sit in the corner because at least I am in the same room as my Mistress. I can feel her presence to some extent and still enjoy being in her space. It is worse when she leaves the room and goes to do other things, but even then I know she will be back eventually and I take comfort from that.
The worst ones for me are when my Mistress sends me to bed or sends me away, totally removing me from her presence. I was torn recently when my Mistress told me she was so disappointed in me that she didn't want me in her presence. She said that ideally she would just send me away but she felt that giving me the punishment caning I was owed would help me be more mindful.
I was so afraid to take that caning, I was a begging wreck before it even started and yet the thought of being sent away instead was unbearable. In the end I actually suffered both as she caned me and then sent me away. I did deserve it and I am being a lot more careful not to make the same mistakes.
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