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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Younger Dominant - Older s type" 1 2 3 Younger Dominant - Older s type (25) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board (moved from Internal Enslavement). Fri 13 Feb 09, 4:29 PM Mistress_Tiaras_boy 5 yrs Most M/s and D/s relationships seem to have a Dominant who is older or of similar age to their s type. Some, however, have the reverse, where the Dominant is significantly younger than their s type, as is the case in my own relationship. I would be interested to hear if anyone has any thoughts on any differences on power exchange with this age dynamic ie: with a younger dominant and an older s-type. I look forward to your views. Best wishes n Mistress Tiara's beloved boy. 13 Feb 09, 10:06 PM 333-528-841 CA, 3 yrs I smiled when I read this as I am seven years older than my Master. I do not think it makes any difference at all in our power exchange. We are together because we are compatible, love each other and have a strong bond. A larger age difference may make a difference for some but one of the main reasons Master and I met and are together is because he is dominant and I am not. Our dynamic fills a need for us both and age is irrelevant to this. 13 Feb 09, 10:20 PM masters_little_toy UK, 6 yrs There is a 12 year difference between Gadget and myself, the only thing we noticed is that I score better the he does on buzz music and film trivia. ( this usually gets me into trouble 14 Feb 09, 2:49 AM slave_nebulina US(KS), 3 yrs Posted with Master Odin's permission. Master and i are only 4 years apart in age and it doesn't make any difference in O/our power exchange. Many people assume i am the younger, but as He puts it, “i robbed the cradle.” He is naturally dominant, while i am naturally submissive. O/our love has only grown stronger since He has placed His collar on me. i believe each couple/pairing will develop their own dynamic, which is as it should be in any relationship. life is not a cookie cutter, and one size doesn't fit all (thank goodness!) nebulina Tortured by pleasure, Pleasured by pain, liberated by enslavement. 15 Feb 09, 4:47 PM submissivesmartass US, 5 yrs Lovely topic my dear Owner is 16 years younger than myself. It is the first time i have been with a younger man. At first, the age difference did bother me on occassion..but now, He is Himself and i am myself. We are oddly compatiable and it works well....and besides...He fixes my ipod and computer and teaches me to play video games and stuff like that Seriously though, He is one of the most emotionally mature men i know and treats me better than anyone ever has. And mainly, it works well cuz He is my Dom and i am his sub. Age doesn't change that. The only issue it has caused is when we have tried age playing - i always liked having a Daddy-type Dom and i called my previous Dom "Daddy" all the time. We have done it a few times and only in play - it did seem to take a little while to get into it, but it was good once it got going. But, it is only for role play once in awhile and i couldnt see us doing it all the time. Now if i can only convince Him to be a naughty little boy once in awhile....lol (can you tell i have some switch in me?) In the end, i guess it comes down to the individuals. Age is just a number...what is more important is mutual respect, caring and having that wonderful Yin yang that exists in D/s relationships...and if you are interested in pursing a more ltr, that you are both looking for the same things in life. i am lucky to belong to Him *posted with permission* Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment - Ghandi Edited 15 Feb 09, 4:52 PM by submissivesmartass 18 Feb 09, 8:14 PM Morniel US, 4 yrs I'm 14 years older than my owner. It bothers his mother. We never actually even thought about it till she brought it up. Then we thought about it for a good six or seven minutes. Then we went back to being ourselves. Morniel's Special Place 19 Feb 09, 1:10 AM sassybutt UK, 4 yrs Hi, Master J is 34 and I am 45. Neither one of us notices the age differance to be quite honest. sassybutt~Property of Master J 19 Feb 09, 10:35 PM 201-997-618 3 yrs i'm 15 years older than Master and this bothered me a great deal when we first met mainly because of self esteem and insecurity issues. it definitely makes no difference to our M/s. We fill each others needs inside a loving and strong bond. truth be told, i feel like the much younger one, the little girl protected, encouraged and nurtured by Master. it still comes to mind sometimes when i look in the mirror or think about Him being born when i was already a teenager lol so i obediently repeat my given mantras at those times 20 Feb 09, 10:54 PM Mistress_Tiara 5 yrs Most people automatically assume that the F/m dynamic in our relationship is the main 'difference' between us and many other couples we come across, but I actually think the age dynamic is the biggest difference. While I do believe our age 'direction' makes a difference, I do not believe this is inherently negative, (or indeed inherently positive), just that it does make things slightly different. Many of the power exchange relationships we see here and elsewhere, seem to follow what I would loosely refer to as parent/ child archetype. By this I do not simply mean the more literalised versions we see such as 'Daddy's' and 'little girls' etc, but simply a basic model with an older, more 'worldly wise', strong, authority figure as the Dominant who will protect and take care of their younger s-type (I notice the phrases 'protect' and 'take care' recurring frequently in profiles and posts here. I 'protect' my boy in specific ways, but more general 'parental' style protection etc doesn't appeal to me). I can though see entirely why this is one of the most regularly occurring paradigms for power exchange. For us however, my boy is significantly older than me, and comes from a quite different cultural background, so he has plenty of life experiences I do not. We are also at different 'life stages' ie I am thirty five, still focussed on career matters, have a young child, and still have many things I wish to experience. My boy is retired from his career, and has already done many of the things I still wish to do. Our dynamic is mostly based on control, direction, guidance and motivation rather than 'protection' etc. We both have our respective strengths, experiences and weaknesses, and these largely fit well together. These complementary traits are something I specifically selected and enjoy. This gives me a whole extra set of skills borne of experience etc to direct and take advantage of, which I find to be a useful asset. I think our relative ages allows me to do this in a more defined way than I would otherwise do. 'If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these together ought to be able to turn it back and get it right side up again'. Sojourner Truth. 24 Feb 09, 6:31 PM Daniel SE, 3 yrs What an interesting topic. I'm 38 and I've thought that my slave's extra 14 years make us different. Apparently not. It's nice to see that there are others. Thank you all for the insight. M. Tiara, you said in the last sentence above: "I think our relative ages allows me to do this in a more defined way than I would otherwise do." What do you mean by "more defined way"? Would it be different if you were both the same age, but still with different sets of experience from dissimilar backgrounds? In what way does the age-difference in itself contribute? I'm curious as this is a question I've given a lot of thought, but not really got a grip on. /Regards ~Still going wrong~ 25 Feb 09, 9:41 PM Mistress_Tiara 5 yrs Daniel wrote: What an interesting topic. I'm 38 and I've thought that my slave's extra 14 years make us different. Apparently not. It's nice to see that there are others. Thank you all for the insight. M. Tiara, you said in the last sentence above: "I think our relative ages allows me to do this in a more defined way than I would otherwise do." What do you mean by "more defined way"? Would it be different if you were both the same age, but still with different sets of experience from dissimilar backgrounds? In what way does the age-difference in itself contribute? I'm curious as this is a question I've given a lot of thought, but not really got a grip on. /Regards Hi Daniel, What a good question! I think what I was trying to say was that as he's older and he's got lots of experiences I haven't, he has had time to process them in a different way, and thus I/ we can direct the outcome from them differently. It's partly to do with what the experiences mean to him too I think. He's not relying on them for any purpose in a way I think younger people tend to do - 'Oh I've done this, so I can now use it to achieve X in my career' or whatever. He's at a different life stage and as a result of this some of his needs are different to mine. The type of experiences he has are also different I think. There are some things that it just takes time to achieve/ experience. If he was the same age as me neither of us would probably have done them. If I was the same age as him I probably wouldn't want to use them for the purposes I do at my life stage. I feel I'm not explaining this very well. Does any of that make sense? If not I will happily try again 'If the first woman God ever made was strong enough to turn the world upside down all alone, these together ought to be able to turn it back and get it right side up again'. Sojourner Truth. Next page