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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "is this all an illusion?" 1 2 3 4 is this all an illusion? (32) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 14 Feb 09, 8:08 PM Damsel US, 3 yrs I'm sorry to hear about what has happened to you. It is not your fault if you did your best then it can't be. I do however think its very cruel for this man to release you after having you for so long. It is sadly something that can happen I suppose and that we have to deal with as slaves I guess. I will send you good thoughts and hope you will be better in time. 14 Feb 09, 10:00 PM cheykitty 3 yrs Thank you for all the new people that posted. I will however give an update. A great man saw my post and sent me an instant message to let me just talk. Very sweet Master and Daddy. while we are taking this slow, maybe something great will come from this horrible ending. In addition to that great news, i talked to the original "Master" (???? very generous on the term) today and told him that I had met someone and was talking, and he was hurt and upset. Funny how the tables turn huh? kitty 16 Feb 09, 2:46 PM Hesperus US(CT), 3 yrs Y! Hang in there! Better he left now then to waste anymore of your time. The best advice I can give you seem to already know. It still bears repeating though... Never, ever go back. There is no rewind button on life, move forward when you are ready and resist any temptation to go in reverse. Keep us posted on how your doing!!!! I hope you find a great Owner that appreciates what a great slave you can be. Take care and all the best. 16 Feb 09, 4:35 PM anjuli UK, 4 yrs Good to hear you're feeling better kitty but can I be boring and say take your time too? I have no doubt that the man you're talking to will tell you the same thing. Talk, talk, talk and talk some more before you leap in again. The better you know the person before you do the less likely you are to pick the wrong one and be here again in a little while. I am sure any responsible dominant will be giving you the same message... as we see from other threads, it's not just the submissives who get a raw deal on that one. Take time to analyse what went wrong and see what you could change to protect yourself. It's sometimes easier to brush that bit aside and just look at the other side. But who was it who said that the definition of madness is to do the same thing over and over and expect to get different results? Perhaps the result of the introspection is no, I did everything possible but at least you'll be sure you did all you can to learn. Take time to heal and be whole and open-hearted again... but be sure before you commit next time because the answer to your question is no... for those of us for whom this is the right choice (and who are lucky enough to meet the right people sure) it's not an illusion, it's an amazing and miraculous everyday reality. Good luck and take care. anjuli *** The quality of strength lined with tenderness is an unbeatable combination, as are intelligence and necessity when unblunted by formal education. *** Maya Angelou *** Edited 16 Feb 09, 4:37 PM by anjuli 16 Feb 09, 6:16 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs Things that come easily tend to leave just as easily. Be careful. Although things can be very real, it is very easy to rush into an illusion. Two things come to mind when reading your last update. First, an M-type contacting an s-type right after a release might appear to be predatory. Second, an s-type so eager to jump back on the saddle so quickly might be giving off signals that are less than flattering as well. Best to tread carefully and quietly for awhile, you wouldn't want to damage yourself or your reputation by acting rashly. p i breathe because He allows me, indulging Him indulges me. 16 Feb 09, 6:37 PM cheykitty 3 yrs Well.... it matters not, i suppose. For the man i spoke of seems to be some figment of my imagination seeing he has disappeared. He hasn't been online since the day before i wrote my last update, and no phone calls. I am so close to just being done. I have a page on collarme.com and seems to me that I only find men that want me to get naked on cam. like WTF. and when i don't they tell me i am disrespectful and need to be trained blah blah. Thank you all for your kind words, it is nice for people to understand who i am, and what I want. 16 Feb 09, 7:05 PM PuppyClaire UK, 3 yrs cheykitty wrote: I am so close to just being done. I have a page on collarme.com and seems to me that I only find men that want me to get naked on cam. like WTF. and when i don't they tell me i am disrespectful and need to be trained blah blah. Hi Chey, I really feel for what you''re going through, but I think everyone is giving really good advice. Finding the right partner for a D/s relationship is as difficult, if not moreso, than finding the right person for any relationship. Will and I laugh about our different experiences on the board. Although there are a lot of absolutely lovely people posting here, there is a big iceberg and the people who post a lot are only the visible tip. I've had well over 3000 views of my profile. Will has barely managed 700. I've had around 15 random propositions, despite my profile making it absolutely clear that Will is the only person for me. Will has had one person contact him just to be friends because she liked the way he comes off when he posts. Will has had a couple of memos informing him of my faults, and suggesting how I should be treated. Anyone talking to me about Will has been someone I've already considered a friend. We suspect that the the invisible iceberg of women are generally quite quiet and respectful, but the invisible iceberg of men contains quite a few we wouldn't get along with. We suspect there are far more men than women, and so the percentage of serious men on the internet is smaller, but the good ones amongst them are very good. Will's been getting some advice from a great guy who contacted him just because their experiences seemed similar and wanting to let him know he wasn't alone. Finding the right person is hard, but it took me almost 10 years of dating to find Will. If I'd given up after a few bad dates I'd have missed out on so much. Who knows where I'd be if I'd given up after one date thought that a quick trip to a fast food chain gave him the right to explore wherever he wanted at the cinema on our first (and very definately last) date. I still don't know how that film ends If you recognise that it might take time, but that the right person is out there, then they will rise to the surface when you meet them. Claire Edited 16 Feb 09, 7:07 PM by PuppyClaire 17 Feb 09, 11:04 AM humananimaltrainer 3 yrs This is exactly what I DESPISE about the D&S community. S.S.C. basic guidelines state clearly that a submissive should be placed into the care of another should the dynamic be dissolved. I get fucken pissed, when I read yet another story like this. This is the result of a lack of education and understanding both on the doms part and yours. 17 Feb 09, 12:04 PM SixThreeFive SE, 5 yrs humananimaltrainer wrote: S.S.C. basic guidelines state clearly that a submissive should be placed into the care of another should the dynamic be dissolved. What? Where? I've never seen those guidelines. Perhaps you should do a search on the board, for SSC (which I assume stands for Safe, Sane and Consensual). We've had many debates on the topic. Smile, it confuses people. 17 Feb 09, 12:57 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs HumanAnimalTrainer, OK, i'm not sure what safe sane and consensual has to do with placing a released slave in the care of another Master. i've done a google search and came up with nothing except the definition of S.S.C.. Could you possibly post a link that states what your referring to? In a perfect world no one would be released and all Masters would have the ability to maintain thier slaves... but as we see time and time again here, people jump into power exchange relationships before they are ready and things are doomed to fall apart. It is not realistic for even an experienced Master to place a slave in someone-else's charge if they feel the "slave" is not really slave material. That would be just as irresponsible as not placing a completely dependant slave in someone-else's care. Each situation requires a different solution. If i were to be tossed out on my ear it would be very different from the story of even the OP. i have no income, or possessions. i would not have anyway to post here about my troubles because i would have no computer or internet access. The OP obviously maintained some sort of independence. She can and will go on with her life... most likely to find an even better situation than she had prior. i'm not very sure by her description of her M she would approve of any one he choose for her anyway. p i breathe because He allows me, indulging Him indulges me. Next page