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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Issues with poly...aside from jealousy." 1 2 Issues with poly...aside from jealousy. (19) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 2 Apr 09, 5:18 PM 104-851-383 US(MI), 3 yrs £ Y! I,ve been thinking about a poly relationship, but my wife runs hot or cold on the matter,its in her make up that she dont see behind her own personal personality Vail that she has me for a slave ,Ive never been aloud to have friends out side of the marriage I'm her slave ,that pays for every thing,she learned it from her mother ,who produces third generation welfare grand children. But this is all masked under her judiao christian ( I'm rite and I,ll win the game persona) and she dosnt have the intelligence to see this,,,,and that's the problem with the world there holding on too something that isn't truth if you care to discus this with her its Jackie_48847 at yahoo dot com 2 Apr 09, 6:56 PM Nemesis_x UK, 4 yrs 104-851-383 - i don't understand most of what you have written... from what i gather, you are a slave and your wife is your Mistress? if this is the case, your attitude towards your her is foul. If we disregard any M/s tendencies that you think you share with your wife, it would be an awful thing to have such little respect for your vanilla partner. This is not a place where you come to complain that you are being treated as a slave or to complain about your relationship. If your wife doesn't want to introduce a third party, why don't you just respect that and move on with your life. You don't sound happy with the marriage, especially if you have to slag her off because as a Mistress she doesn't do what you want her to? A slave has no right to make such demands, or even, a husband has no right to demand that his wife let him have a girl/boyfriend if she doesn't want one. Now, if your Mistress wanted a poly relationship, as a slave, you keep silent and be happy with Her decisions. your post disgusted me. Please learn to respect those around you and be good to your wife. By the sound of it, your lucky to have one. 3 Apr 09, 8:19 AM Hawklord UK, 6 yrs No-one is perfect. No Master or Mistress are perfect or infallible. But when you make the commitment as a slave you put yourself under the control of this imperfect person. Right or wrong you follow Him/Her. You are a part of Him/Her as much as his/her right arm. You are pledged to obey Him/Her regardless of what you are told to do. In other words He/She is right even when they are wrong. If there is something you want to do but she does not then accept it. If you can't accept it then leave. As for your content it is ok for you to discuss an issue with the rest of us and seek opinions from us all but always with the aim of being a better slave. Criticising your Mistress publicly like this is totally disrespectful and out of order. My advice to you is to go to your Mistress and tell Her what you have done. Accept her punishment and corrections and ask her to discuss the issues with you. Hawklord 104-851-383 wrote: I,ve been thinking about a poly relationship, but my wife runs hot or cold on the matter,its in her make up that she dont see behind her own personal personality Vail that she has me for a slave ,Ive never been aloud to have friends out side of the marriage I'm her slave ,that pays for every thing,she learned it from her mother ,who produces third generation welfare grand children. But this is all masked under her judiao christian ( I'm rite and I,ll win the game persona) and she dosnt have the intelligence to see this,,,,and that's the problem with the world there holding on too something that isn't truth if you care to discus this with her its Jackie_48847 at yahoo dot com Sic volo. sic jubeo. stat pro ratione voluntas 3 Apr 09, 2:37 PM kitty_miaow 3 yrs Sounds like maybe you are a slave to a mistress who doesn't know she has one? Perhaps if she blows hot and cold that is a sign she is unsure and therefore doesn't want it. Many people don't want poly and tbh with all the politics that are involved with poly I don't blame her, seems she is more intelligent than you give credit... It just annoys me... people seem to believe poly is basically all about non stop orgies and threesomes... they see it as a truly sexual thing... If you have more than 2 in a relationship you increase the likelihood of potential problems. From experience poly when it works is great but it takes a lot of hard work and time... if a master has 2 slaves it isn't about twice as much sex, it is also about having two people to look after, nurture and take care of. 3 Apr 09, 5:17 PM allalone47 US(OH), 6 yrs Wouldn't it be easyer if all were in the D/s life and no vanila 6 Apr 09, 9:45 PM MPs_kat UK, 4 yrs I am in a poly relationship, my master is married & that is obviously his primary relationship. His wife is also a Domme & has 2 submissives of her own. We are all one big happy family! Really! Masters wife will give me orders sometimes but always with the knowledge of my master. Myself & her subs get on really well & whilst we spend alot of time trying to get each other in trouble in the most lighthearted way, we are always there for each other when one of us needs support. Yes, sometimes there is a little jellousy, we're only human. but we talk about it & understand we all get it sometimes. Masters wife is also a very good friend of mine & whenever I need support she is always there for me. Reading these sorts of threads makes me realise just how lucky I am. I only hope my post can give people hope that poly can & does work, without issues!! All the best to all, kat xx 30 Apr 09, 5:02 AM 982-976-369 US(IN), 5 yrs We are are a poly trio. Master and I are married and he has a sub who is also at this point in our relationship my best friend. This works for us very well. She and I in the last year have only had two minor disagreements and we discussed them like adults and it was done. We do from time to time have our share of jealousy issues, but we talk them out like adults. Our biggest issue is probably distance at the moment. She is almost 2 hours away from us for now. She will be moving here in about a month, we're all very excited because as of now we only get to see her on weekends. She does also because of the distance feel like the outsider, and we try to include her in as much of the day to day as we can. Actually Master is very generous in time talking with both of us making sure everyone is one the same page. He spends about an hour each morning on the phone with her and gives me a quick call to make sure i know about the important stuff they discussed, and he and I talk in the evenings and he fills her in over their morning conversation. She and i usually talk at least once during the day as well. Still there are times one or the other of us can feel left out of an important discussion. We usually play a lot of catch up on the weekends. We try to take at least a little time each week for open conversation time. The only other issue we've ever seemed to encounter as a problem Master usually creates himself by choice of words making either she or i feel ganged up on by the other 2. He has a habit of using the words we or us when, saying something like "we thought you were...." When actually he thought and he usually will do this when the other one isn't around to speak up and say no I never said that. So we end up having this long discussion and a phone call placed to the one not there to find out Master was mistaken. He's gotten better about that mistake and chooses his words more carefully now. I guess that's all I can think of at the moment Master's faith 30 Apr 09, 5:31 AM kaitlyn 4 yrs 982-976-369 wrote: We are are a poly trio. Master and I are married and he has a sub who is also at this point in our relationship my best friend. This works for us very well. She and I in the last year have only had two minor disagreements and we discussed them like adults and it was done. We do from time to time have our share of jealousy issues, but we talk them out like adults. Our biggest issue is probably distance at the moment. She is almost 2 hours away from us for now. She will be moving here in about a month, we're all very excited because as of now we only get to see her on weekends. She does also because of the distance feel like the outsider, and we try to include her in as much of the day to day as we can. Actually Master is very generous in time talking with both of us making sure everyone is one the same page. He spends about an hour each morning on the phone with her and gives me a quick call to make sure i know about the important stuff they discussed, and he and I talk in the evenings and he fills her in over their morning conversation. She and i usually talk at least once during the day as well. Still there are times one or the other of us can feel left out of an important discussion. We usually play a lot of catch up on the weekends. We try to take at least a little time each week for open conversation time. The only other issue we've ever seemed to encounter as a problem Master usually creates himself by choice of words making either she or i feel ganged up on by the other 2. He has a habit of using the words we or us when, saying something like "we thought you were...." When actually he thought and he usually will do this when the other one isn't around to speak up and say no I never said that. So we end up having this long discussion and a phone call placed to the one not there to find out Master was mistaken. He's gotten better about that mistake and chooses his words more carefully now. I guess that's all I can think of at the moment Master's faith sounds like u need three-way calling 1 May 09, 3:51 AM 661-897-459 US, 3 yrs Written with permission: I am master's very first slave, and he tells me that when another comes that it is my choosing that matters. He wants me to be happy, and He wants me to be taken care of the way I should. We both have children so during the day it is a discreet thing, much like a secret, and at night I am his dirty whore who must pay for the discrepancies of the day. We have not had any luck finding a third, but, we are both so ready for one and we are both trying hard. He is only trying to find someone to play with, I am trying to find someone that might be permanent, so much so that they may even live with us one day. Master understands me very well, often more than I even understand myself, and He knows that I will pick someone that will meet His needs, but, also trusts that I am responsible for meeting my own needs, to an extent. It is my job to choose the third, although He has final say, of course, as a master rightly should.