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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "criteria for finding a master/slave" 1 2 3 criteria for finding a master/slave (29) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 31 May 09, 4:36 AM Master_SL CA, 5 yrs 000-874-172 wrote: BlakLthr wrote: I have some things - Prerequisites as I call them - that are without doubt required. As that I am in a polyamorous relationship, I use the term Family. As such, being able to get along with just ME is just not enough. Note that I am a gay male, and as a Master, I seek a gay male slave. YMMV! -- Prerequisites - All are required - In no particular order 1. Honesty. 2. Have a brain and not stop using it. 3. Continue to learn and a willingness to try new things. Must be willing to adapt to insure the efficient and effective running of the House. 4. A basic understanding, appreciation, and respect for the MASTER/slave relationship. Must be willing to live in accordance with, Master's interpretation of Old School Leather and Old Guard Leather. Additionally, at least a minimal amount of actual experience in a MASTER / slave or like situation. 5. A desire to participate as a member of a Leather Family; a desire to cooperate in a poly-amorous environment. 6. Must have sufficient social and emotional maturity to live in a Mature Leather Family (ages 52 to 61). Prefer candidates in the age range of 23 - 46. Minimum age about 21. Maximum age about 47-49. 7. Masculine in appearance and attitude and seeking the same. 8. Pet tolerant (dog and cat). 9. Drug free (Abuse of chemicals, drugs, or alcohol, while In Servitude is grounds for immediate dismissal). 10. Must have no body preference (i.e. cut/uncut, piercings, tattoos, ages up to 61, bear types). 11. Exercise personal financial responsibility. (Have debt and anticipated expenses in line with assets and current / expected income) 12. A candidate that would seek to serve with his entire being: heart, mind and body. 13. Must be male / must be more homosexual than either heterosexual, or bisexual. 14. Must be able to remain USA and work in USA. 15. A sense of slavehood so strong that it appears to be inbred. A newbie will be judged the same as a 13 year veteran. -- Apart from that I have a few (dozens) *preferences* Master Robert / BlakLthr Columbus Ohio -R- Hi, This discussion was about what criteria people look for in their subs/slaves, or would look for if they didn't have one already, not as a board for actual personal adverts; as such, I've reported your post to be (re)moved because there's a section for that. Enjoy your day, Sean. sean, I finally figured it out...you were a hall monitor in high school werent you. I was pleasantly reading this post until I happened upon your comments which again have nothing to do with the thread but have everything to do with your "proof reading" and making sure everyone is within their boundries that you have seemingly set as carte blanche. Is it possible you could dismount from your high horse and just post an opinion without worrying about everyone else? Regards, Master_SL 31 May 09, 6:50 PM callifox UK, 3 yrs I have to admit I have been using the personal ad board and found with the sexual criteria that quite a few people who respond are asking straight away about the sexual kinks which I found off putting. From this my list for what I look for in a Dom is someone who reach out to talk to slave about a variety of topics. Someone who can take control of a situation and who is honest 11 Jun 09, 8:36 PM Lassiter AT, 2 yrs Y! Every relationship no matter if vanilla or bdsm related requires a healthy sex life as well to be happy and satisfied ! Why do so many people make a fuss about when someone is looking for sexual sub's or slave's ??? It's tough enough for both sex !!! Many,many males have problems with their stamina and on the other hand side it looks like that lots of females 'escape' in the bdsm lifestyle cause they got simply, excuse my french, too FAT and can NOT perform as well !!! Live and let live, let everyone make his/her own decision and if that is not you, just ignore it! Just my humble opinion JAY 13 Jun 09, 2:57 AM M_o_r_g US, 4 yrs Lassiter wrote: it looks like that lots of females 'escape' in the bdsm lifestyle cause they got simply, excuse my french, too FAT and can NOT perform as well !!! Live and let live, let everyone make his/her own decision and if that is not you, just ignore it! Just my humble opinion JAY Jay I disagree with your comment, maybe those that you refer to are the only ones you can get to. But to say that a female goes into BDSM because they are fat is wrong. The BDSM lifestyle is not something you escape into,it is a natural desire. If those you refer to escape into BDSM because they can not preform outside then how can they preform any better inside ? I have a slave who is pleasantly plump and she can out preform any that I have ever seen fit or not. To make such a general statement such as that is wrong. I have met a lot of females in the BDSM lifestyle that are actually very physically fit as well. Unless of course you are referring to those vanilla folks who PLAY with BDSM. The Gorean master desires more than a slave's submission, more than merely her body. A Gorean man is satisfied with nothing less than all of a slave. He will possess you, body and mind, heart and soul. Nothing less is acceptable. 16 Jun 09, 6:25 PM M_o_r_g US, 4 yrs Well the West Coast may be different than the East Coast in that regard I do not know. However I was referring to the GENERAL CHARACTERIZATION you made. I also wonder why you are only on the board for the last 17 days if you have been in the life for the last 15 years. By health standards over 85% of all Americans are overweight so I will conceded that fact. But not the can not preform or escape theory. I have to disagree on those points. M/s or D/s is a lifestyle that one chooses and while some do in fact PLAY it as role play.... Most here are 100% in the lifestyle. I am glad you found our site / board and welcome you to it. The Gorean master desires more than a slave's submission, more than merely her body. A Gorean man is satisfied with nothing less than all of a slave. He will possess you, body and mind, heart and soul. Nothing less is acceptable. 5 Aug 09, 4:36 AM slave_kara 2 yrs i agree that the desire has to be natural. i never realized how much i "fit" in this lifestyle with my Master. i am nothing without His love and could never go back to how life was before He came into my life. Everything in my aching, yearning body wants to satisfy the very essence of my Master's being. It is my innermost desire to fully please every nanometer of His body, mind, heart and soul. i hope to satiate His every desire fulfilling the destiny of delighting and gratifying Master. i am my Master's forever. Edited 6 Aug 09, 12:41 PM by slave_kara 28 Sep 09, 4:44 PM 794-126-648 US(PA), 2 yrs i agree that most in the lifestyle find the sexual gratification they get more important than other aspects, but i think that is because they either don't know there is a much deeper satisfaction to be had or that's just all they're looking for. personally, i think it's the latter. my search has always been for that unique, magical mental connection two people find together. a spark, at first, physical attraction(of course), common interests, but the desire to create a strong bond that only comes with time and effort by both. it has nothing, whatsoever, to do with sex, tho it does create the desire for it. when, and if, it enters into the relationship is up to the dominant partner. sex is not a part of my current relationship ... 4 months and i can barely stand it! criteria? He has to be a good Man, morals, values, honor. respect and care for others. a Man that earns my trust and respect, not only within the lifestyle, but by the way He lives His life. i need to find out what he needs and if that is even close to what i need, i'll give it a shot. if he starts with talk of sex, or wanting more pics than i provide on the website .... i know we have nothing to build upon. i have found that too few men know what they need, or have to give me .... but they expect the world from me. The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls. - Elizabeth Cady Stanton 14 Oct 09, 10:09 PM SirJames1959 UK, 2 yrs Y! interesting question my main requirement is HONESTY. Without that all you are talking about is purely based on sex, nothing on an emotional level. If you want to dominate or submit on just a sexual level then fine. For me, I need an emotional involvement. I think my signature sums it up. I have total RESPONSIBILITY for my slave. And I take that very seriously, maybe that's why she is comfortable in our relationship. Actually, I do know it's precisely why she is comfortable. Slave 4187 belongs to me, I am totally responsible for her well-being 15 Oct 09, 12:12 PM De_Luxe UK, 4 yrs The criteria I would refer to are those that you would want in any kind of relationship but with the addition of a natural flow of dominance or submission not driven just by sexual desire but from wanting, nay needing, to be themselves openly and honestly in a relationship. Additional criteria I would look for would be the desire, determination and ability to make effort to maintain the M/s or D/s relationship and keep both growing and thriving. In a Master/Owner particularly a high degree of self knowledge and to self control. The ability to communicate bravely and effectively, and in the dominant one to create the environment for this, is a plus. Since perfection is impossible the ability to be realistic about what is, or may be possible, as well as desirable, plus loyalty in adversity would be my criteria also.