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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "What do you tell friends/family when questioned" 1 2 3 4 What do you tell friends/family when questioned (37) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 11 Mar 09, 4:09 AM anne_d 3 yrs you could say, "Hey, this works for U/us." Who could argue with that? 15 Mar 09, 7:41 PM NICOLI US(TN), 3 yrs Y! In response to your original question...If you really think about it a M/s relatioinship isnt that much diferent then a traitional relationship (In My opinion) other then a kinky sex life...Granted you have no control over your life other then what your master allows but if your family loves you, which most do but not all, then they will support you in i would be honest and open like i did with my family. It did however make them feal uneasy and uncomfortable at first but they understood that this is what makes me happy. They see i treat my slave better then any normal boyfriend could and my slaves treatment of me is unlike any other i have had from a regular girlfriend i say tell them show them how much you guys care for each other and take of each other and hopefully they will do as my family did and embrace it rather then reject it. just remember we as a species are curious so keep this in mind when they ask you questions. ~MASTER NICOLI~ Edited 15 Mar 09, 8:05 PM by NICOLI 15 Mar 09, 11:10 PM Mistress_Tiara 5 yrs NICOLI wrote: In response to your original question...If you really think about it a M/s relatioinship isnt that much diferent then a traitional relationship That rather depends on the nature of the M/s relationship. Even if you assume a hetero M/f M/s union, and rule out gay relationships, poly relationships, F/m relationships etc, and opt for the most standard M/f permeation, you have to also slaves kept chained in the home, slaves with speech restrictions, and the hundreds of other variables that can make many M/s unions quite drastically different to 'a traditional relationship'. I agree that while many M/s relationships are simply modelled on the paradigm of heterosexual vanilla marriages with old fashioned gender roles etc, there are so many that are not, and I think the process for handling questions like that raised by the OP would often fall outside this 'traditional' sphere of reference. 16 Mar 09, 12:38 AM Degenerate UK, 3 yrs I got sick of hiding in the closet about my interests and am 'out' now, to adult friends and family. I just keep it brief simple and truthful for those who would not understand, an tend to stick to only talking about what they ask about (except for theinterested/curious/slightly kinky ones). My family have accepted for about 16 years that I was not heterosexual and that I was not monogamous, it wasn't a huge leap from being 'typical' for me, which no doubt made it easier. The most important piece of information I need to keep reinforcing is informed consensuality.. no more than that, the joy of my partners - I think Master Odin said it best so am cutting and pasting him, same seems to work for me: Master_Odin wrote: The only cure is a beaming smile and sparkling eyes from their baby 17 Mar 09, 11:28 PM Oysterspearl US(VA), 3 yrs Thanks to all for bringing this thread back to life. It actually gives me a moment to give a quick update. i read all the comments when i did the post and took the advice to heart. Examples: answering questions without giving too much info. Dealing with questions with a little bit of humor are just some of things i have tried. Things have actually improved greatly in the last 2 months in regards to family and friends asking questions. i have used the advice of others and it has helped. We no longer get the questions that we were getting before. The last time my mother questioned me, i just explained that i'm very happy the happiest i've ever been and to just drop it. She got the point, it's never been brought up again. This has actually made me more comfortable with going out with family and friends. Yes we do still get the occasional odd look but overall it's been a very positive experience. i hope to one day be able to start telling some of our family about M/s, but for right now it's best not to. Thanks again to all those that responded!! 19 Mar 09, 12:41 AM Master_Odin US(KS), 3 yrs Oysterspearl wrote: The last time my mother questioned me, i just explained that i'm very happy the happiest i've ever been and to just drop it. She got the point, it's never been brought up again. Well done . Selah There is no authority, only responsibility. 22 Mar 09, 4:17 PM Degenerate UK, 3 yrs It's great to hear that things feel more comfortable now. 23 Mar 09, 4:47 PM 599-992-073 US, 3 yrs Posted with Masters Permission When family or friends ask questions like why i call Him Sir i say that i always have for 25 years or it's just a habit from the office. Some people i tell it's like a nickname, like he calls me baby. i have to call Master if I want to go somewhere or buy something. When they give me looks or ask why i call him all the time for things; i say that He likes it when i ask or that He likes to know what i'm up too. It saves Him from worrying is what i tell the people at work when i call Master. Sometimes i just tell the person that is the way W/we do things and that it works for U/us. It often depends what they are asking about and who is asking. 5 May 09, 1:24 PM MasterPJ UK, 3 yrs I'm pleased that things worked out well for the OP, I'm also pleased that people continue to post. I'm at the stage with things where I'm sick of being in the closet about what and who I am and what nika is to me. I'm looking for the right moment to come "out" to my friends and family... I suspect their reaction will be similar to that of De's folks... it's just typical me! nika's family are a whole different kettle of fish though. I really can't imagine them taking it well that their baby is my slave and that she passionately enjoys a good thrashing! Although nika is my property, I still don't want to make what is left of her vanilla life uncomfortable for her, or for me for that matter. I look forward to the day my friends and family know of our relationship, I dread with a passion the day that hers are aware... Owner of nika. She is mine and I love her dearly. 29 Nov 09, 4:03 PM OphiUchUS_Master US(NJ), 2 yrs Y! Before I read this, I look at all the answers that people gave, so you don't hear the same answer, but no one said what I going to say. Well here it is, when family and friends ask you questions like that or any question that you don't like, all you have to say is something from left field. What I mean is, that you have to answer it, like they are asking you a question about sports, weather, breaking news that you have heard. For example here is a common nosey ass family & friends question. "Why do you wear a collar with a lock on it?" because the Yankees won the world series or because it's sunny outside, or it brings me good luck, etc,etc,etc. It's funny to me how people can ask you questions they have no buisness asking you, so they are being rude, so you have to be rude but not be rude by just answering the question, but answering with your own answer, if you get my point. But don't laugh out loud, just laugh in your mind. If they ask again, you just repeat what you just said. If they say "what do you mean?" Or "I don't understand" you then say "Im sorry to hear that" and that will be the end of it! That what always works for us, it's great!!!! Try it and let me know how it went? Let me know how bad you wanted to laugh!!! OPHIUCHUS( {'} )MASTER Is waiting to become your Master. Next page