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	TSR : Web boards : Internal Enslavement : "Slavery and Ageing." 1 2 3 4 5 Slavery and Ageing. (42) This post is on the Internal Enslavement web board. Fri 16 Jan 09, 8:54 PM Mistress_Tiaras_boy 5 yrs Hi, i am interested in finding out how other people in M/s relationships consider the subject of 'ageing' and how it has either affected their relationship or how they perceive it is likely to affect their relationships as they get older. As we get older, we seem to undertake many changes, some of these are physical others are psychological. my physical abilities in some aspects are less then when i was younger, how much will i have in 10, 15 or 20 years time ? how will this affect our M/s relationship ? whilst i have a very loving Owner, i feel worried that i will be unable to fulfil Her needs in that arena? i wonder how will She feel about it, what will She do about it and how will all of that make me feel? Will i feel less like a slave as i become less able to deal with the physical side (this includes service, sexual, ritual requirements, sleeping, discipline and physical control)? There are bound to be a lot of psychological issues, as i find my M/s relationship to be far deeper emotionally and psychologically than previous vanilla ones. i look forward to hearing your views/opinions and experiences although i am sure most of you are all far too young to have experience of becoming 'old'. If possible, it would be helpful to not include illnesses as these have an impact at any age. Best wishes. slave 890-712-189. 16 Jan 09, 9:22 PM boston UK, 12 yrs Mistress_Tiaras_boy wrote: although i am sure most of you are all far too young to have experience of becoming 'old'. Charming boy LOLOL! From my perspective it has already happened ... Lots of things have changed but I try to say I am not old, I have just lived a lot. The advantage is that you have a lot of experience to fall back on. It doesn't always make it easier though, I can assure you. I still worry about being even older - at the present I am able to do most things my owner wants, and he is very understanding of those things I find difficult physically. I worry that increasing age will bring mental infirmity but there is little I can do to prevent that and I know that S will take care of me in an appropriate fashion (and vice versa of course). Same for physical problems and illness and all are a two way thing - at least they are in our relationship even if the "appropriate fashions" are different. Part of the trouble with getting old is that your brain doesn't think it is. I just try, therefore, to concentrate on achieving the stuff I have to do and doing it as well as I am able at the time. No use worrying about what you cant do anything about! 16 Jan 09, 9:39 PM anjuli UK, 4 yrs boston wrote: Mistress_Tiaras_boy wrote: although i am sure most of you are all far too young to have experience of becoming 'old'. Charming boy LOLOL! From my perspective it has already happened ... Lots of things have changed but I try to say I am not old, I have just lived a lot. <snip> J just wanted me to say to you both... 'Don't worry about the age, check the mileage!' Excellent thread n. J wanted to express a view from the ownership side to say that he doesn't believe it does affect the dynamic if you're in a stable and loving M/s relationship. Your dynamic fluctuates and adapts anyway to all sorts of outside influences and it will continue to change and develop as you grow, learn (and grow older) together. But he also believes that a lot of the coping mechanisms and changes are in the hands of the D/O/M as part of the continual pattern of watching and reacting to changing abilities and needs for you both. Actually he believes growing older is probably easier for an M/s couple because of the intimacy and communication structures that are in place. Nothing should be off limits or an insoluble problem to a good M/s pairing. anjuli - for J *** ¡§I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.¡¨ Anais Nin *** 16 Jan 09, 9:51 PM Domone65 UK, 3 yrs Y! anjuli wrote: boston wrote: Mistress_Tiaras_boy wrote: although i am sure most of you are all far too young to have experience of becoming 'old'. Charming boy LOLOL! From my perspective it has already happened ... Lots of things have changed but I try to say I am not old, I have just lived a lot. <snip> J just wanted me to say to you both... 'Don't worry about the age, check the mileage!' Excellent thread n. J wanted to express a view from the ownership side to say that he doesn't believe it does affect the dynamic if you're in a stable and loving M/s relationship. Your dynamic fluctuates and adapts anyway to all sorts of outside influences and it will continue to change and develop as you grow, learn (and grow older) together. But he also believes that a lot of the coping mechanisms and changes are in the hands of the D/O/M as part of the continual pattern of watching and reacting to changing abilities and needs for you both. Actually he believes growing older is probably easier for an M/s couple because of the intimacy and communication structures that are in place. Nothing should be off limits or an insoluble problem to a good M/s pairing. anjuli - for J Could'nt agree more , we love and respect each other and will grow old disgracefully together come what may! Rick Edited 16 Jan 09, 10:32 PM by Domone65 16 Jan 09, 10:03 PM boston UK, 12 yrs Domone65 wrote: [ Could'nt agree more , we love and respect each other and will grow old disgacefully together come what may! Rick Excellent! And welcome, btw. b^ 16 Jan 09, 10:06 PM property_of_MacCain 4 yrs i am so glad that W/we are aging together, growing together, changing together. W/we are not the same people W/we were when W/we met in 1991, and thank god for that! Age has made O/our expectations realistic, and O/our experience lovely... O/our dynamic only becomes tighter. i see only positive changes as W/we progress together! p i breathe because He allows me, indulging Him indulges me. 16 Jan 09, 10:36 PM Domone65 UK, 3 yrs Y! boston wrote: Domone65 wrote: [ Could'nt agree more , we love and respect each other and will grow old disgacefully together come what may! Rick Excellent! And welcome, btw. b^ Thanks for the welcome, although i will warn you now i am a serial poster! Rick 16 Jan 09, 10:43 PM Damsel US, 3 yrs I worry about this too. My family has history of joint problems and dementia I really don't want my master ending having to take care of me in my old age. 16 Jan 09, 11:11 PM Domone65 UK, 3 yrs Y! Damsel wrote: I worry about this too. My family has history of joint problems and dementia I really don't want my master ending having to take care of me in my old age. IMHO life is way too short to worry about it... there are absolutely no guarantees, it could be either of you that fall ill. In most cases its almost a certainty neither of you will hit old age without a health problem of some description. So enjoy the health you have whilst you have it and worry about tommorow when it comes. Rick 16 Jan 09, 11:30 PM Lord_Laraby US(NY), 6 yrs Y! I may be 51 and my angel only 40, but as I see it I have at least a good 25-30 years left on these bones. My brain hasn't even begun to absorb the knowledge and wisdom it is capable of, so I recon I'll keep learning and growing in some ways. Maybe I'm not capable of the all out distant run that I was at 21, but I won't be giving in to a walker anytime soon. I refuse to even consider stopping my sadistic and sexual activiies for at least 15 years. And as long as I can still use my take-downs (military and matrial arts) and have what strength is left to handle my angel, I'll remain a happy Master. It's not just about strength and youth. That will eventually flee. It's about the relationship we share. It has little need for the hyper-physical stuff. Sure it's a fun part of it, but if that part ended today, we would still remain Master and slave and happily so. Just my feelings on it, yours are yours to express. Call me LL 17 Jan 09, 5:04 PM Mistress_Tiaras_boy 5 yrs boston wrote: Mistress_Tiaras_boy wrote: although i am sure most of you are all far too young to have experience of becoming 'old'. Charming boy LOLOL! From my perspective it has already happened ... Lots of things have changed but I try to say I am not old, I have just lived a lot. The advantage is that you have a lot of experience to fall back on. It doesn't always make it easier though, I can assure you. I still worry about being even older - at the present I am able to do most things my owner wants, and he is very understanding of those things I find difficult physically. I worry that increasing age will bring mental infirmity but there is little I can do to prevent that and I know that S will take care of me in an appropriate fashion (and vice versa of course). Same for physical problems and illness and all are a two way thing - at least they are in our relationship even if the "appropriate fashions" are different. Part of the trouble with getting old is that your brain doesn't think it is. I just try, therefore, to concentrate on achieving the stuff I have to do and doing it as well as I am able at the time. No use worrying about what you cant do anything about! Thankyou Boston, that was a nice response. Part of our relationship involves a wide range of physical activities which can get quite demanding and painful. i sometimes wonder if my body will be able to cope with the this as i get older. Mistress enjoys delivering the physical side, it is one of the things that pleases Her. i know that if i was unable to fulfill this need She could use someone else but i am fairly certain this would cause me some psychological upset as it is something i like to give Her. Being honest, although i find some of the physical things humiliating or excruciatingly painful, they do form an integral part of my enslavement and in that way they are very important to me. i also feel that i will be likely to feel as though i will be letting Her down if or when i am unable to meet all of Her needs. i also hope my mind stays sharp (well as sharp as it is, maybe sharp wasnt the best description !) as i know Mistress enjoys this side of me. As my Mother had Altzheimers at a very early age i worry about that also. i do not worry very much about my IE as i do not expect this to change. As time passes, i feel this deepening within me. i hope to respond to other replies as soon as i can but please forgive me if i do not respond to everyone. Mistress keeps me quite busy. slave 890-712-189. Next page