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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Keeping a sense of humour" 1 2 3 Keeping a sense of humour (22) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 11 Jan 09, 6:07 PM Master_Odin US(KS), 3 yrs ClairesCO wrote: <snip> and that there is too much good about our relationship to throw away the stuff that's always worked for us, we should be complimenting that, not discarding it. Will Words to live by Selah. There is no authority, only responsibility. 11 Jan 09, 7:00 PM 119-812-164 US, 3 yrs i have a pretty dry sense of humor as well, which doesn't translate well in writing. it never has, which is why i had to re-read _Tom Jones_ twice before really chuckling out loud once ... but assure claire, there is much laughter to be had. Master and i take our practice together very seriously, honor very seriously, service very seriously ... but that doesn't mean when He hails me in the morning that i'm not as apt to get a 'good morning mz booty' as often as i get a 'out of bed, slave' ... last week, i asked permission to speak freely and then asked if Master had ever sung in front of a mirror with a hairbrush when He was a kid. He laughed so hard He almost cried ... smiles, grl The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.-- Alfred Lord Tennyson To live a creative life we must lose our fear of being wrong. --Joseph Chilton Pearce 11 Jan 09, 8:38 PM little_linnet US, 6 yrs Sometimes I get really serious too. Mr L used to worry about this a bit and express concern that being owned was damaging my playful nature. These days, though, he's more at ease with it because he's seen that I move back and forth from a serious mood to a cheeky one. I offer a different interpretation of what's going on with Claire: it could be that rather than being stifled, for the first time she's feeling *free* to express this side of her, and to act out how very seriously she takes you and her relationship with you. I gradually came to understand that this was the case with me -- for years it was safer for me to be on the cheeky, sarcastic side of things because it was safer than giving rein to the deep, completely serious devotion I wanted to feel for someone. Mr L has always enjoyed laughing and being silly and shows for me by example that it's an important part of my life with him, so I always feel free to be ridiculous with him. But now I also feel free to drop into my serious, focused, vulnerable moods. Krista The majority here come here because it is a place to exchange ideas, not to release fluids. 11 Jan 09, 9:14 PM ClairesCO UK, 3 yrs little_linnet wrote: I offer a different interpretation of what's going on with Claire: it could be that rather than being stifled, for the first time she's feeling *free* to express this side of her, and to act out how very seriously she takes you and her relationship with you. Krista Krista, thank you, that's certainly something for me to think about. Claire has so many aspects to her that attact me to her, she can be thoughtful and quiet and enthusiastic and so much more. I wouldn't want to lose anything. I think what concerned me was Claire apologising for a joke she'd made. She's tried to explain it as feeling as though she was undermining me. She wasn't, but she brooded on it for a couple of days and that's not good. If she wants to be quiet then that's ok, if she wants to be serious, that's ok, but if she wants to make a joke then she should and she shouldn't then overthink it and end up feeling bad about it. Anyway, work calls and I've delayed as long as I possibly can. This is my last contibution to the thread until next weekend so any replies to pearls of wisdom will have to wait until then. Will 11 Jan 09, 10:26 PM Andrin DE, 3 yrs Also see the thread on Laugther and Humor Andrin 12 Jan 09, 7:05 PM PuppyClaire UK, 3 yrs Thank You Krista (and everyone), I think you're closest to describing how I feel. I'm just in a different place than I was. A happier one. It's funny to be feeling so much happier and described as "more serious", perhaps it's a zen thing, a state of inner peace. Perhaps that's a better way of describing myself than "happy" right now. I was worrying though, especially about the joke I made about Will. I made it on a thread where he was talking about feeling insecure about being dominant and then I went and made a joke that made light of that. I think I was right to apologise, but I didn't mean it as apologising for having a sense of humour, just for that joke. Anyway, if Will comes anywhere near me with a pirate hat he is going to be sorry...submissive or not. Claire 12 Jan 09, 8:21 PM LillyMoon UK, 6 yrs Mistress_Tiara wrote: ........ I wonder if Claire may be confusing the internet with real life? There are a lot of 'internet-isms' that realistically play little part in most M/s relationships, and as such confusing the two (which is very easy to do) is best avoided.... I hear what your saying, but sadly it isn't just on the internet...some people see humour in M/s as not being "twue" enough. Some time ago I was asked by a friend how I could let my boy be so disrespectful to me after he had made a joke. It seems that because she lacked the "gene" for sarcasm/dry humour she didn't get his joke...I on the other hand found it funny and told him (also jokingly) "I would deal with him later for that". Humour is an important part of our relationship, and our loving relationship is what makes our M/s dynamic work. Remove the humour and all you have is an extended roleplay IMO. Personally I can't think of anything worse than living with someone who is serious all the time so I agree with MT, let Clare know you like her making jokes...heck make it one of her tasks to keep you smiling if that helps her still feel "suitably submissive". 13 Jan 09, 1:03 AM Domones_pussy_Kat 3 yrs LillyMoon wrote: Remove the humour and all you have is an extended roleplay IMO. In our opinion, that sums it up in one sentence. 13 Jan 09, 2:35 PM Wilhemina 3 yrs Sir's sense of humour has never been the same since I called him a nurk, or in my parlance, an idiot. More than that, I actually called him a 'great spotted stripy nurk'. Only he thought it was a species. I'm not entirely sure he knows they don't exist. His response (and yes, we are LRD, so we're all about IM/Skype/Y!M, etc) was : "Snarfle snarfle *honk*" Me: OMG! Run for the hills! It's a great Spotted Stripey Nurk! Sir: Snarfle? Me: Eeeek! Run for your lives! Where's Sarah Palin when you need her? Sir: *pounce* Snarfle! *lick, lick, lick* Me: Oh great. List my demise as being one of the most ignoble in history. I'm going to live my last moments being licked to death by a Great Spotted Stripy Nurk. Of course, this led to one or two drawings of what exactly a spotted stripey nurk should look like, etc, a few poems, and a total and utter moment of hilarity when I logged into chat one day and heard a howl down the line. It sounded like a cross between the mating cry of a moose and a rather abrupt car alarm. "Snarfle snarfle *hooooooooonk*" There really aren't enough words to say how mugh I love Sir. Except, maybe, 'Snarfle'. 'The three most dangerous things in the world are a programmer with a soldering iron, a hardware engineer with a software patch, and a user with an idea' - Rick Cook 13 Jan 09, 11:02 PM 662-935-655 5 yrs In my late Master's household, i either had a sense of humor or i'd be told in no uncertain terms to lighten up. As W/we were/are B/both in Alcoholics Anonymous - AA - He'd usually put it as "remember rule 62". When AA first got going all the groups had different rules about what one had to do to be an AA member. So the NY office decided to get these and try to compile a list. The only problem is they got 61 contradictory rules. SOOOO... one of our cofounders, the famous or infamous, Bill W. made up rule 62, Thou shalt not take thyself too seriously. Master enforced that! Thanks for the fond memories! j/L Papa's owned always: still proudly wearing His Collar and Ring, rest in peace Beloved Master/Husband! alias "granny" matrika ye olde crone, blessed be! Next page