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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "question about household "service"" 1 2 3 4 question about household "service" (37) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Wed 10 Dec 08, 11:07 PM 590-744-664 US(CA), 3 yrs Y! has anyone here ever been used as the entertainment for their master and his friends on a regular or semi-regular basis?such as being taken to other ppls places or have men brought to your place that you share with your m/ and told to make yourself available in any way they want you? I would very much like som feedback on this question both from a slaves perspective as well as a dom view.how did your slave react or if you r the slave how did u react and feel at the conclusion of an experience like this? 11 Dec 08, 1:07 AM little_linnet US, 6 yrs I looked at your other posts and my, you do have a commendably dedicated and focused interest in exploring the experiences and feelings of people who have been publicly humiliated or humiliated in a group. I would advise those who might post in this thread to take a peek at the OP's other posts as well before they do so. It might be enlightening. Krista You oppress me with your lack of interest in my exhibitionism and various fetishes! Edited 11 Dec 08, 1:08 AM by little_linnet 12 Dec 08, 10:11 PM 590-744-664 US(CA), 3 yrs Y! with all due respect to your comment you didn't offer anything resembling either an answer or a qualified comment to my posting.I ask these things because the man I am in contact with has expressed a sincere interest in using me in this way and I'm doing what I can to adaquatly prepare myself mentally for this exp. 12 Dec 08, 11:38 PM little_linnet US, 6 yrs Well, first of all, you don't get to decide what a qualified reply might be. Second of all, in my long observations of this and other boards, people who are struggling with the personal approach of humiliation or other scary things don't frame their questions like this. They DO ask "What should I do? IS this okay for him to do to me? Do you have any advice? Can I still be a slave if I don't like this idea? How will I get through it?" They say "I'm scared. I'm struggling with this. I don't know how I can do it." The focus of the question is on them and their feelings. They DON'T say "have you ever done this? How did you react at the conclusion of an experience like this?" or any other wording that sounds like an invitation, specifically, to relay a descriptive narrative of the experience in question. But I've observed that over and over again, those who are trolling for masturbatory material DO frame their questions in this way. They say "Tell me about being forced to do xyz. What would you do if someone asked you to do abc? How does it feel to do lmnop?" They make little to no reference to themselves or their feelings; they are the audience, not the focus of their question. They start threads that rehash the same basic question and don't tend to come back to their older threads. They bump up threads tangentially related to their fetish. I notice that you haven't had any replies, and I imagine that this is because you're setting off more wanker-alarms than just my own personal one. I may be wrong, in which case I apologize,but I doubt it. Krista You oppress me with your lack of interest in my exhibitionism and various fetishes! 13 Dec 08, 1:04 AM 590-744-664 US(CA), 3 yrs Y! fine then.I am really new to this and simply worded things in a fashion that was clearly unfamiliar to you or others. I am nervous,the man I'm going to live with has stated his intentions to use me in some ways I'm not totally comftorable with,but after a long period of talking to him I have come to trust this person.and yes I would like to know more about these things so I can be better prepared for the life that awaits me. 13 Dec 08, 2:14 AM Remoses US(PA), 6 yrs you know, I've been reading a lot recently and posting only a little. Part of the reason this is so is that posts like this make Me a little crazy. I want to think that we are not some little exclusive club and that we are open and receptive to all, newcomers and veterans, alike. How can we possibly be elitist?! We're a bunch of kinksters! you know, even if the opening poster is enacting some masturbatory fantasy, what the hell is wrong with that? Every one of us got started somewhere. I find it a little off-putting to read resposes that in effect call one poster or another unfit or unworthy. Even the old workhorses here (Myself) can gain something from reading the musings of newer participants. Why so angry? I am Remoses. little_linnet wrote: Well, first of all, you don't get to decide what a qualified reply might be. Second of all, in my long observations of this and other boards, people who are struggling with the personal approach of humiliation or other scary things don't frame their questions like this. They DO ask "What should I do? IS this okay for him to do to me? Do you have any advice? Can I still be a slave if I don't like this idea? How will I get through it?" They say "I'm scared. I'm struggling with this. I don't know how I can do it." The focus of the question is on them and their feelings. They DON'T say "have you ever done this? How did you react at the conclusion of an experience like this?" or any other wording that sounds like an invitation, specifically, to relay a descriptive narrative of the experience in question. But I've observed that over and over again, those who are trolling for masturbatory material DO frame their questions in this way. They say "Tell me about being forced to do xyz. What would you do if someone asked you to do abc? How does it feel to do lmnop?" They make little to no reference to themselves or their feelings; they are the audience, not the focus of their question. They start threads that rehash the same basic question and don't tend to come back to their older threads. They bump up threads tangentially related to their fetish. I notice that you haven't had any replies, and I imagine that this is because you're setting off more wanker-alarms than just my own personal one. I may be wrong, in which case I apologize,but I doubt it. Krista Just because it's inconvenient, doesn't mean it's not required. Quod principi placet legis habet vigorem (The pleasure of the prince has the force of law.) **Pronounce it: Ray-mosay.** 13 Dec 08, 2:42 AM 373-468-022 US(WA), 3 yrs Y! 590-744-664 wrote: with all due respect to your comment you didn't offer anything resembling either an answer or a qualified comment to my posting.I ask these things because the man I am in contact with has expressed a sincere interest in using me in this way and I'm doing what I can to adaquatly prepare myself mentally for this exp. It would be very difficult to explain how it may feel, as everyone is different. Some thrive on serving others, some run when it is mentioned. Others cope, because that is the best they can do. To prepare mentally would depend on you. i'd suggest focusing on the person in charge, in this case it appears to be a potential Master. If you think you can't mentally cope with such service, discuss it with him. Actually, he is probably the one to voice your concerns with. MGs slave "It's the submissives that show to others what type of Dom owns them." - Anonymous "If you want to kiss the sky, better learn how to kneel." Mysterious Ways- U2 13 Dec 08, 3:48 AM little_linnet US, 6 yrs Oh, yeah, Remoses, without you around I was forgetting that women with strong opinions who voice them confidently are angry. Good thing you popped in to remind me. Remoses wrote: I want to think that we are not some little exclusive club and that we are open and receptive to all, newcomers and veterans, alike. Right. Because telling someone "People here won't appreciate it if you're trolling for wank, and people tend not to answer if you look like you're trolling for wank" is completely the same as having the power to shut them out of the site. And of course, because the job of every kink site in existence is to be welcoming and accommodating to every single purpose and fetish. There are never any kinky sites intended for a specific focus and audience. you know, even if the opening poster is enacting some masturbatory fantasy, what the hell is wrong with that? Are you for serious? What's wrong with it is that there's other actual people here that a person is doing that is using. Without their consent. First, it's dishonest: it's one thing to say "Hey, let's share some sexy fantasies about XYZ" and another to lie so that other people will unwittingly do something that gets your rocks off. Second, it's massively disrespectful. People here share about their real lives with all the troubles and emotional ties therein. To reduce each of us to nothing more than a potential peep show? Is fucking sick. Third, how many damn times does it have to be explained: the boards do have a specific focus and that is real-life power exchange in relationships. This is not a complicated idea. Getting your rocks off over whipping feet, or having your fictitious mistress whip you, or trolling for titillating humiliation scenarios is so not a part of that focus. And as Tanos pays for and maintains the site, I really do think it's reasonable to expect that the focus HE intends for it be remembered. Krista You oppress me with your lack of interest in my exhibitionism and various fetishes! Edited 13 Dec 08, 3:49 AM by little_linnet 13 Dec 08, 5:38 AM 373-468-022 US(WA), 3 yrs Y! Personally, i don't get anything from his posts to lead me to believe the OP is doing anything more than asking questions. His profile states he is new to service, and trying to learn. Besides, i don't think a thing mentioned would lead to masturbation fodder. If that is what one seeks, there are many many sites they can watch free web cams. There are sites with erotica waiting, on nearly any subject one could think of. i don't know of many who would ask how to mentally prepare for something, hoping to get more than simple answers. i just think he should be given a chance, rather than assume something was said, that wasn't without creatively reading between the lines. i know a couple porn addicts..the posts on this site are NOT what most would look for. Respectfully, MGs "It's the submissives that show to others what type of Dom owns them." - Anonymous "If you want to kiss the sky, better learn how to kneel." Mysterious Ways- U2 13 Dec 08, 10:50 AM Mistress_Tiara 5 yrs Remoses wrote: How can we possibly be elitist?! We're a bunch of kinksters! you know, even if the opening poster is enacting some masturbatory fantasy, what the hell is wrong with that? Every one of us got started somewhere. Please note I'm responding to the questions asked by Remoses above, I'm not specifically discussing the OP. I find the idea that 'enacting masturabtory fantasy' on the board is fine as 'we all started somewhere' to be both insidious and missing the point. There is nothing wrong with having a good wank. I hope everyone here is having a lovely time in that department. There is nothing wrong with having kinky fantasies. There is nothing wrong with sharing them with people who choose to listen. I do find it objectionable however that because 'we all have fantasies/ started somewhere' etc it is ok for people to metaphorically empty their balls all over non consenting members of the boards field of vision. It makes people uncomfortable. It blocks the site up for a subject it's intended for. It makes people take part in something they havent chosen. And it's tacky. Say I woke up this morning and decided to bring myself off thinking about making you do arse to mouth (I didn't for the record, but run with it). I doubt you would appreciate it if I posted a detailed account of my fantasy here. This sort of stuff has no place here and it would make you feel uncomfortable. We may be 'kinksters' but this is not meant to be a board dedicated to pornography, but a site dedicated to M/s and D/s relationships. Admin's decision to make a specific sex and fetishes board so converstaions of that nature were contained, reflects the fact that this subject is a small niche area and not the main focus of the board. And even the S&F board is not meant to be for masturbatory chat. I am not suggesting that discussions relating to kinky or sex related subjects are necessarily a problem, it is a matter of context. There is a difference between saying 'I'm having problems fellating my Master as it hurts my jaw. Does anyone have any helpful tips to enable me to get over this problem and pleasure my Master better'? and saying 'I love nothing more than the feeling of a great big stiff cock rammed down my throat against my wishes, and being thrown naked into the street'. The first one is a question being asked in non salacious terms to aid service, the second one asks no question and would be a misuse of the board as it's simply a salacious outpouring that serves no purpose. Even if the token 'Does anyone else like this'? is added at the end there's still little point to it except to talk about what turns them on. There are better places for people to do that. This site is a rare resource. The internet is awash with BDSM sites and places to get your rocks off, but there is a scarcity of M/s sites. Most people here value having a place where they can come and discuss M/s, get advice, discover new things, learn and grow, and if the site gets over run by people writing masturbatory material it erodes the integrity of this valuable resource. Please Do Not Feed The Trolls. It's the best way to get our board back on track. 13 Dec 08, 12:38 PM Remoses US(PA), 6 yrs you know, a healthy discussion is always welcome. Invective and name-calling seldom is. I find the tendency towards creating an elitist club to be disturbing and distasteful. Making it seem that there is some style-police watching and cluck-clucking at those who DARE to post to these boards with an account or question that does not conform to someone's set of "approved" topics is disappointing. Also, we could always take some time to be humble and not assume we have the only orthodox views, and that any heterodoxy is indeed heretical. We are ALL a bunch of heretics! All of us! Why do we wish to exclude those of us who are not as evolved or advanced as We are? Where is the enlightened embracing of differing points of view? Yes, we are all a bunch of Kinsters, but I would suggest that these boards are not the exclusive domain of the few and the proud...Let us be more liberal in our acceptance of beginners and, yes, even wankers. We need not read and respond to EVERY posting? We can always simply ignore that which we find unworthy...think of this as the "Off Switch" on your radio or television! Great invention, that switch! I am Remoses. Just because it's inconvenient, doesn't mean it's not required. Quod principi placet legis habet vigorem (The pleasure of the prince has the force of law.) **Pronounce it: Ray-mosay.** Edited 13 Dec 08, 3:46 PM by Remoses Next page