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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "hw does it work when you CANT live together?" 1 2 hw does it work when you CANT live together? (16) This post is on the Other Topics web board. 7 Dec 08, 3:43 AM 373-468-022 US(WA), 3 yrs Y! property_of_MacCain wrote: little_linnet wrote: You haven't failed! i concur completely. When i look back at how miserably i failed at being a wife to my ex-husband, it makes me smile. If my marriage hadn't crashed and burned, i would not be in the blissful relationship i'm in now! Take it as a lesson learned. Master Right might be alusive, but he worth the wait. Trust me. p Sometimes things happen for a reason, as cliche as that sounds. i've had a few losers, there was a year i thought of selling my premium subscribtion to Losers R Us on ebay, but i didn't know where the card was. Apparently it expired cause i met MG. :D Please try to remember the reasons you loved him, and what he left with you. i know how hard this is when you hurt soooo bad. No matter what, you will learn and grow,and he will be part of who you are forever, it's best to keep the positive feelings, and trash the bad memories so you have a smile. Although many have offered contact info, please add me to the list. Memo if you need to talk, i wish you luck, and happiness. MGs slave "It's the submissives that show to others what type of Dom owns them." - Anonymous "If you want to kiss the sky, better learn how to kneel." Mysterious Ways- U2 8 Dec 08, 10:51 PM Morniel US, 4 yrs Uh... Whether or not this belongs here or belongs in the section dedicated to "online" relationships is kind of not the point. The point is, YES A RELATIONSHIP OF THIS KIND DOES WORK EVEN IF ONE PARTNER IS DEPLOYED, AT SEA, OR OTHERWISE UNDER ORDERS. Provided, of course, that the relationship was already strong and working beforehand, it doesn't matter if she gets sent to field training, he gets assigned to the Gulf, or anything else. Reason I know this works? My first husband, now deceased (no, not because of his military duties) and I had a solid working relationship, and BOTH of us were, at one point, on active duty, and therefore occasionally separated for anywhere from a week to a year. Second reason I know this works? My current partner, Soltic, cannot always live at home because of his job considerations. But, just remember, the key to a relationship that must involuntarily go through periodic separations -- is simply that the relationship has to be strong, the participants have to want to work, and keep working on it, and they must always communicate, in whatever fashion they can, be it telephone, internet, or surface mail. And in case it isn't very, very clear? YES, both my marriages have been 100 percent, 24/7 TPE, M/s, D/s, Whatever Our Phrase Is This Week types. Just because my husband travels on business, does not mean that he doesn't control every aspect of our lives, because guess what, he DOES. And *wink* Loving one another helps a lot too. Morniel's Special Place Edited 8 Dec 08, 10:54 PM by Morniel 8 Dec 08, 10:57 PM anjuli UK, 4 yrs Morniel wrote: Uh... Whether or not this belongs here or belongs in the section dedicated to "online" relationships is kind of not the point. I don't think anyone was making more of a point than it will get more attention and help from the right people if it's in the right place. Good answer tho. I hope the OP is still here and reading. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 11 Dec 08, 4:28 PM anjuli UK, 4 yrs tainted_desire wrote: I don't believe that living apart limits how far or how deep you can go, both my M/s relationships, my previous and my current have been LDR, and I consider both of them to have/be 24/7 TPE. I am as much my Masters slave living 200 odd miles away from him as i would be if we were living under the same roof, distance makes no difference in my opinion to the IE process, or how far you can take the power exchange, it only makes it more difficult to maintain, but not impossible! td little_linnet wrote: There's a board here specifically for discussing non-cohabiting relationships, I hope you can find some support there from people who know more about making that dynamic work than I do. Regardless of the reasons for living apart, though, living apart will limit how far the power exchange can go. Ultimately, if going beyond those limits is something you both feel is necessary, then you'll have to find a way to live together. Or be with someone you can live with. Krista I'm afraid that you will find that many here disagree. We think that distance does affect the dynamic and how extensive the power exchange can be. I personally have doubts that IE is possible long-distance altho I hope you will see that statement as it is... 'I have doubts'... not a definitive... 'It is not possible'! But clearly Tanos recognises that there are differences. That was the reasoning behind providing a separate board. I will repeat again that the only time this causes a real difficulty is when those in different circumstances - LDR... or particularly online relationships - offer definitive advice to those in resident 24/7 dynamics as though there were no difference. It is often seen as unhelpful by those asking for advice or help or seeking the support of people in similar circumstances to their own... that's all. So if we can keep that in mind and keep this in perspective hopefully we can maintain peaceful and amicable discussions. Thanks. anjuli ~~~ “I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.” - Anais Nin ~~~ 11 Dec 08, 11:35 PM Kitten341636 UK, 12 yrs [/quote] in my heart, and i feel it sinking as i type this, i kinda knew that would be the response..i'm between a rock and a hard place..i've always wanted a military man as i respect them on so many levels, of course due to the nature of His work we cannot live together..bringing me to my next question...does a military man have to settle for sub instead of slave?? ps..which board should i be seeking? i dont mean to sound ignorant. sorry.. [/quote] Hi i really feel your pain i to am seeking a live in D/s realtionship but so far have only found comfort in onlne Masters but its just not the same. I am currently dating someone in the army and although i love the time we spent together it can never be anything more as the power exchange is not there when he has gone .. its hard to expalin but i want to devote my self to someone who can be a Master to me 24/7 ideally .. if that makes sense k. You Cannot help but smile in the company of kittens 14 Jan 09, 2:54 PM unownedslave83 US(NJ), 6 yrs Its all about trust..I used to be in an online relationship with Master... and at first i didnt complete tasks like he wanted me too.. but eventually... i accepted him as the commanding force of my life and did jes like he said... First thing u need to do ... is make up your mind and submit wholly and completely to your Master and do as he says always.. If this your first time ... i would suggest using the virtual master online program... it would give u a good idea...on whats required for you to do.. take care... hope that helps