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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "my master has stopped playing any suggestions" my master has stopped playing any suggestions (8) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Sun 30 Nov 08, 12:24 AM 227-046-000 UK, 5 yrs my Master as Wonderful as He is has stopped using me as He in any way shape or form any ideas what to do??? 30 Nov 08, 12:30 AM 662-935-655 5 yrs 227-046-000 wrote: my master has stopped playing any suggestions my Master as Wonderful as He is has stopped using me as He in any way shape or form any ideas what to do??? When my late Master - when He was my vanilla husband, pre-collaring - went through a space like that, struggling with impotence issues due to heart meds. post M.I. which seems to do bad things to a man;s head. No sexual contact at all and He seemed to blame it on me although He denied it - but later apologized for it. As for other play - not sex - He had to stop at one point due to His health getting so bad, but that did not in any way change the dynamics that He was BOSS - period. if you are in a position where you are allowed to ask questions, might i suggest the best one to ask this question of would be HIM - in a very gentle way as if it's physical, He's already feeling bad enough about it. We found toys worked for me and my tounge gave Him some pleasure - with wet dreams relieving the built up tension when need be. One thing i loved about being collared is it allowed U/us - in O/our case - to talk about things like that which W/we'd never been able to discuss in a no-fault way before that. j/L Papa's owned always: still proudly wearing His Collar and Ring, rest in peace Beloved Master/Husband! alias "granny" matrika ye olde crone, blessed be! 30 Nov 08, 12:33 AM morgan US(WA), 4 yrs Y! as another poster stated, are you in a position to speak freely and ask questions to him about what is going on? if so i may sugest talking to eachother and see if you can find out what's going on and why. even in realtions like this and in any other seeing if yo can talk about it is a worthwhile venture so maybe something can get sorted out. wishing you the best 30 Nov 08, 12:55 AM 227-046-000 UK, 5 yrs yes we do talk very intimately but at times i am worried about sounding like a nagging harridian over my sexual needs, even though He has not said anything of the sort, He was married and had lots of problems(His ex wife got herself pregnant to someone else) within His marriage but although i am His sub i don't want my sex life to be over at 32, or His for fear of an unwanted baby or cheating!!! xxx's nickspony 30 Nov 08, 6:44 AM EvaMaria US(CA), 3 yrs When you spoke with him, what reason did he give for his lack of interest? Camille 1 Dec 08, 2:59 AM 682-645-503 UK, 3 yrs £ 227-046-000 wrote: although i am His sub i don't want my sex life to be over at 32, or His for fear of an unwanted baby or cheating!!! xxx's nickspony this girl wonders if the issues are more to do with Him worrying about you following in his ex's footsteps... or you worrying Him, that you think that He thinks you will.. (make sense??) when Master and i got together we were both worried about the chances of me getting pregnant and girl solved that by saying to Master that she would do whatever He decided she should to avoid pregnancy at that point (sterilisation was not an option to be discussed since we both want a family together eventually)... despite this girls younge age she has been living in this lifestyle quite a long time and had a previous Dom who would periodically just not feel like playing or anything like that.. sometimes its just that life gets in the way. Stress, pain (physical or emotional) and all sorts of things can stop someone M-type or s-type from feeling like scening/playing. if you can request permission to speak freely and ask Him if there's anything you can do to help.. one cheeky thing you can do.. just to check whether its a complete no-go (if theres any life in..erm..percy at all) is when He is asleep, really sound asleep play with Him and tease Him gently..you should find that there is an automatic reaction. Eventually (over a week or so) you should be able to get the same reaction with Him not so asleep... the other option is to take all pressure to perform off Him.. let Him know that all you really want to do is snuggle and be near Him. Spend some time on your knees at His feet, rest your head in His lap and when you both lay together just tell Him its nice to know He is there.. (sometimes wriggling your butt close into His pelvic region can help, let Him think that you're after something..and and before it gets too far, just say it was nice to know He was there). these are only girls humble ideas.. some have worked for her when she had a different Dom, others have been suggested to her by other friends who have had similar difficulties. please feel free to disregard anything/all that this girl wrote but hope it helps a little. please forgive the length of this post, girl didn't realise that she'd be re-writing war and peace. ~edited to take out 3am typo's "May the wind always be at your back, and the sun always upon your face, and may the wings of destiny carry you aloft to dance with the stars." ~ unknown origin Property of Master Nid, girl is slave - her purpose is to please and be pleasing. Edited 1 Dec 08, 3:01 AM by 682-645-503 4 Dec 08, 10:01 PM TheCaptain IE, 7 yrs For fear of pregnancy ... have you considered an implant ? Hopefully, the "no play" period has been resolved. S. 6 Dec 08, 7:37 AM whipkicksmai UK, 9 yrs Y! Sounds like he is insecure. but neither of the reasons given explains why he won't play, you can get around the no preganancy by having provera injections, implants, the pill or using a condom. cheating, he has insecurity issues which can be understood if someone has cheated on him before, you just need to reassure him, that you are not going to cheat on him. speak freely and tell him you can't live without play and sex. It may take a while for this to sink in, but eventually it will. I was having the similar issues with my Master until recently when we re invented our M/s relationship and for the past few weeks I have been the happiest i've been in 3 years. you may have to let things run the course but remember communication is the key. 11 Jan 09, 3:47 AM 227-046-000 UK, 5 yrs thank you all sorry it been a while since i posted but all is well now in my Masters house i showed him what you all said we had big talks thankfully all damage from evil ex thank you all xxx's nickspony