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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "jealously" 1 2 3 jealously (27) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 11 Nov 08, 2:59 AM Master_SL CA, 5 yrs meriaton wrote: 930-083-996 wrote: jealously how can i overcome my jealously of my master wanting to sleep with other women, i have been his slave for five months but have known him now for a yr in total i would really like some advice on this matter thankyou Please. Use punctuation. Thank you. Now, moving along - have you spoken to your Master about your jealousy? Being relatively new in this relationship, i would urge you to be completely honest with Him about this issue because of its effect on you. Talk to Him. He should be your first contact when you have problems, and this sounds like it's a problem. you. made. Me. chuckle! 11 Nov 08, 2:11 PM 930-083-996 UK, 3 yrs thankyou for that and everyones elses comments firstly id like to say that a condom is used everytime we sleep together myself and my master are very clean hygenic people, i know that i have to deal with this and i do talk to my master about it but its hard to discuss things because most of our conversation is on msn as he works abroad and is only in the uk for 10 days every 8 weeks and thats wen i see him. I am a jealous person anyway b 4 i got into this but only jealous wen i feel at threat, i would be grateful if you could give me some stories of how yours masters deal with certain matters, i still have alot to learn thankyou for all your replies they are very much appreciated. 11 Nov 08, 4:53 PM MasterDralor US(OH), 4 yrs meriaton wrote: 930-083-996 wrote: i have spoken to him about it but he just says i need to deal with it and if i cant then i need to do wats best for me, ive had a few disagreements with him laterly and hes being very distant with me and says if it happens again then he will cut contact with me, pls can u give me advice on how to be a good slave or some site i can visit because i feel without him in my life im worthless shud i feel like that i dont know wat to do anymore i'm sorry, but reading this just makes me feel nauseous. This is not the attitude of a Master; this is the attitude of a man who's using the term "Master" to get what jollies He wants without regard to the emotional, mental or physical health of the slave that He supposedly loves. i'm sorry, but were i in your place, i would indeed "do what's best for me" and tell him to go fuck someone else while a REAL Master is found who can give what is truly deserved. Slave or not, you're a human being who has needs. If he doesn't give a damn about your mental, emotional or physical well-being, then he's no Master. He's an abusive user. I'd have to agree with meriaton. If you knew going into the relationship, to put it bluntly, that you would be nothing more that a 'fuck toy' whenever he was in town that is one thing. But if you were expecting something more from the M/s, then it would seem to Me you are not getting what you need. I do not know if what you are feeling is 'jealously' or if you are feeling like you are being 'used', but as they others said, you need to sit down with yourself and realize what your own thoughts and emotions are. To Me, it sounds like he is not looking for any kind of commitment on his part and is simply using the M/s to insure that you are always available when he is in town. 12 Nov 08, 2:10 AM Ou_pais US, 5 yrs As i didn't spell it out bluntly beforehand: He does whatever He wants with whomever He wants; i do whatever He wants with whomever He wants; if i have trouble handling it i have standing orders to tell Him what's going on with me and we typically discuss what i'm doing already to try to handle it and He comforts and encourages me; if i still have trouble handling it i beg Him for help and He tries to figure out how to reassure me or how i could help myself handle it better while not curtailing what He wants to have happen. For me, plenty of talking lets me know that i'm worth it to Him to spend that much time & energy on dealing with my issues. Also, this works because we live together and He *has* that much time to spend on my issues. Some of the things i've done to try to deal with my jealousy include staying busy with other things (also *something* to do around here!); remembering His history of caring for me and being there for me; trying to think about how His happiness is so important to me. Writing down my feelings has not tended to be helpful because i just obsess about them more, but may work for some people. A lot of the skills i had as a free poly person don't work as well for me as a slave, unfortunately, but this article http://www.xeromag.com/fvpolyrefrigerator.html was helpful to me, and maybe you can extrapolate some of it to your situation. pais 12 Nov 08, 2:36 PM 930-083-996 UK, 3 yrs Thankyou so much for that link it really did make me understand that u have to find out where the jealousy is comin from it helped alot and there are other things on that website that look like they could help also thankyou so much. 13 Nov 08, 12:49 AM Ou_pais US, 5 yrs 930-083-996 wrote: Thankyou so much for that link it really did make me understand that u have to find out where the jealousy is comin from it helped alot and there are other things on that website that look like they could help also thankyou so much. You're very welcome! pais 13 Nov 08, 1:50 AM Damsel US, 3 yrs Well honestly you should tell him about your jealousy but the choice it ultimately up to him. Edited 13 Nov 08, 1:51 AM by Damsel