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	TSR : Web boards : Other Topics : "fantazies v/s reality " fantazies v/s reality (8) This post is on the Other Topics web board. Sun 26 Oct 08, 8:36 PM surrendered_slave JO, 3 yrs Hello all, I am new in the lifestyle. I am a slave online to Master Lover_owner. He loves me and i love him and we are planning to get married. we had a lot of discussions about bdsm, what he likes and what he expects from me in real life as his slave; he is a very caring and loving Master, he is introducing me slowly in the lifestyle, respecting the fact that i am new, giving me time to learn. When we discuss together about the lifestyle, or when he tells me how he will use me (Bondage, caning, flogging, leash, caging...) i become very excited and feel the burn of slavery in my heart, my soul and mind. My question is : How to know that i will be able to be in the lifestyle as a slave in real life, what if all what i think or feel are only fantasies !!! I am very confused; I alread discussed this problem with my Master, it hurts him but he understands my fear. He gave me time to think and to take a decision. Is there anyone who can help me to see clear ! Thank you. Please forgive my english , my education is french surrenderedslave owned my Master Lover Owner 26 Oct 08, 10:59 PM Meritaten US(TN), 6 yrs Without trying to sound rude, i would suggest that you and your Master actually meet and "be" 24/7 M/s for a while BEFORE you commit to marriage or to serve Him. i understand LDR, but at the same time, it's very difficult to, (at least for me), separate the reality from the fantasy of BDSM and M/s relationships. If you've never had the experience of hands-on, then how do you know that you're going to enjoy the reality, no matter how much the fantasy gets you hot? i wish you well. meriaton - slave of Akhenaton http://meriaton.byethost12.com/blog/blog4.php Sometimes a sense of humor is the only sense i have! 26 Oct 08, 11:45 PM SlaveNika NL, 3 yrs I know exactly what you mean and went through it myself. I too met a Master online and i was His online slave for a long time. During that time i often asked myself the same question: would it really be so good in real life? And i prepared my Master by telling Him that i really didn't know if i would feel the same when we actually met. Luckily He totally understood. We lived in different countries so it wasn't that easy to see each other and try it out. Till one day my Master asked me to come over to Him for a few days. I was pretty nervous but i trusted my Master completely and i knew that this was it. I had to go there to find out if my feelings were for real. So i went and i had the best time ever!! Everything what aroused me online was just as good or even better in real life! Now i can imagine that this might not be the same for everybody. Maybe some people do find out that it's not that great in real life. But if your desire to find out is strong and you trust Your Master completely (that is very important!) then i would say "try it out, that's the only way to know for sure". But i want to advise you too not to get married first, but start slowly. It's just like any other relationship...you don't start with getting married, you start with getting to know each other (not just online, but for real) and explore if you make a good match. I think that especially in bdsm it's very important to find the right match and to explore together. So i hope you can see your Master and i hope you will have a great time and find out that bdsm in real life is even better than online. Just like i the first time i met my Master. We now live together and things are going great, but I'm really glad I started off slowly, it could have turned out so differently. Feel free to contact me if you have any other questions. Wish you all the best. Greetings from Slave nika. Edited 27 Oct 08, 10:39 AM by SlaveNika 27 Oct 08, 5:20 AM bratitude US(AZ), 4 yrs i would have to agree that you don't want to just "leap" into something of this nature. my Sir and i are in a LDR relationship right now and have agreed to take things slow for various different reasons. i would also suggest getting to know each other first and your level of true compatibility in each other's presence before making that commitment of marriage. i'm not saing that you don't already "know" but its always better to be "sure" or at least as sure as you can be. Not to mention bringing M/s into the element adds a different dimension to everything if it is something you've never experienced in a real-time/real-life environment... either of Y/you. i don't know if this helps but it never hurts to take small steps towards something that will mean a world of pleasure in the long run. Cryptic1's devoted bratitude "...The sweetest infection of body and mind; Sweetest injection of any kind..." Depeche Mode 28 Oct 08, 1:35 AM crystalredroze US(OH), 4 yrs Y! Master and i talked about this one together and here is how W/we feel on this one. It is of utmost importance that you spend some real-life time in the lifestyle before you make any decisions. While it sounds like your online Master is very caring and concerned for your well being there are many horror stories that happen when someone not experienced choses to dedicate themselves to someone without knowing what its like to serve in real-life. Personally i met someone from the lifestyle online and learned alot from him. We did not work out but i continued in the lifestyle and found the wonderful Master that i now have online too So please dont think i'm trying to discourage you in any way because i'm not. i just think that experience would be best and help you make your decision. Of course joining here is a good thing too, its full of many well informed people in the lifestyle that going from what ive read on here give pretty sound advice. completely devoted to Master 30 Oct 08, 5:01 PM surrendered_slave JO, 3 yrs thank you for your reply. surrenderedslave owned my Master Lover Owner 30 Oct 08, 5:07 PM surrendered_slave JO, 3 yrs Thank you very much for your reply. I realy understand what you are sayin.But i live in a very traditional society,a woman can't live with a man without marriage. i trust my Master, and i am sure he will be very patient with me. Thanks again for your concern. surrenderedslave owned my Master Lover Owner 30 Oct 08, 5:12 PM surrendered_slave JO, 3 yrs I am sure that my Master is a nice person. He will do nothing to hurt me or harm me. He realy understands and knows my limits and weakness. He is very patient with me. As i said in my previous posts, i live in a very traditional society, a woman can't live with a man wihtout marriage. With my Master i will take the risk because i trust him totally. Thank you for your reply. Thank you and Thank your Master for your concern. I will be pleased to stay in touch. Regards. surrenderedslave owned my Master Lover Owner 16 Nov 08, 3:41 AM 119-812-164 US, 3 yrs surrendered_slave wrote: Thank you very much for your reply. I realy understand what you are sayin.But i live in a very traditional society,a woman can't live with a man without marriage. i trust my Master, and i am sure he will be very patient with me. Thanks again for your concern. it seems a bit of a contradiction that you cannot live with a man outside of marriage because of your traditional society, but you will be his slave 24/7 without having spent much real time with him. i'm not sure if we can offer you much advice that 'can' help with those limitations. my good energy and thoughts are with you ... your dilemma puzzles me. good luck and all best ... The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.-- Alfred Lord Tennyson (1809 - 1892)