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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "An ex slave?" 1 2 3 An ex slave? (21) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 22 Oct 08, 6:32 PM CherieMarie US(MO), 3 yrs Eclectic1 wrote: I think what you may be running into is someone who cannot reach your owner. Ultimately what she is trying (I think) is to try and make you miserable so that if she cannot have him making sure you will be at least equally as unhappy as she is. This said, I would say totally ignore her. Keep her out of your mind and conversations. Every time you think or talk about her she is getting her way. Deny her of this and leave her to her own misery. Hope this makes some sense. Bob It does make sense... I know she trying to irk me.. and I will say at times It does but now that I've vented a little.. I can say I'm just going to fully ignore her and go on with my life.. I'm happy and she is just going to have to deal with that Cherie 22 Oct 08, 6:39 PM EvaMaria US(CA), 3 yrs 000-874-172, I think you've expressed an interesting perspective on this discussion although I don't agree with it. I understand your meaning re: one-sided representation, but unless the described situation is outlandish, I always assume the OP is telling the truth as clearly as they see it and is honestly looking for some help. Without that assumption, why post or how to participate in any sort of discussion of an actual event? One thing that would put me off would be an obvious unwillingness to consider any solution offered or repeated requests for help in the same sort of situation - that would be too much on the heartstrings. Another would be knowing the third (fourth, fifth, etc) party in the matter, OR if any were active members at this site. It's a true thing that I participate knowing there's a bit of risk from various angles, but that's the way of many things. As long as I know it from the start, I don't feel I stand to lose much and most times I learn things. Camille 22 Oct 08, 7:17 PM Morniel US, 4 yrs Hmm. Where I'm from, a person can block someone on their mobile phone as well as any other contact venue, and therefore not receive texts or calls from those they don't choose to contact, as well as using ignore/block features of almost any community website, to include Facebook and so forth. So my question would really have to be -- Why aren't you and your master taking advantage of this, instead of exposing yourself to this person's unwanted contact? Morniel's Special Place 22 Oct 08, 7:40 PM SeanT70 9 yrs Camille wrote: I always assume the OP is telling the truth as clearly as they see it and is honestly looking for some help. Without that assumption, why post or how to participate in any sort of discussion of an actual event? Oh, absolutely, but the OP had already made it clear that she didn't know 'all' the story herself, previously, so how are we ever supposed to give a reasonable response in any case, and moreover, if that is indeed the case, how is she ever going to reach resolution for herself at all? She's as much in the dark as we are, and this isn't the first kind of thread of this nature, on a forum of this kind, looking for a response that is ultimately hard to give if you don't know what to respond to. It's a true thing that I participate knowing there's a bit of risk from various angles, but that's the way of many things. As long as I know it from the start, I don't feel I stand to lose much and most times I learn things. Don't get me wrong, there is always plenty to learn; it's simply a case of how we go about that process that becomes the important part. Indeed it can be a risky business, but if at all possible, I like to know what I'm getting involved in. Depends on your outlook, I suppose. Of course, 'we' don't stand to lose much at all, you're right about that, but really, we often see posts crop up after about how these things shouldn't have been bandied around by the OP's in the first place (and often by a latent party in the piece). My case then for the question of 'are there enough hours in the day?', is ever valid. Personally, I have better things to do. Lovingly Owned by ~Miss Phay~ 22 Oct 08, 10:48 PM little_linnet US, 6 yrs This is his business to deal with. It may be hard but ultimately you are going to have to leave it to him. If he is unable to deal with it, or you feel unable to trust him to deal with it, then the solution is not to try and deal with it yourself but to find a relationship where you CAN trust your dominant to deal with his business. Krista Now I'm going to marry my first wife, then I'm going to divorce her. Now, I know what you're going to say, but stick with me, my story gets better! I'm going to marry my second wife, then I'm going to kill her! Cut her head off! Ah, you weren't expecting that, were you? Third wife, going to shoot her! 23 Oct 08, 12:19 AM 961-082-548 US(NC), 3 yrs Eclectic1 wrote: I think what you may be running into is someone who cannot reach your owner. Ultimately what she is trying (I think) is to try and make you miserable so that if she cannot have him making sure you will be at least equally as unhappy as she is. This said, I would say totally ignore her. Keep her out of your mind and conversations. Every time you think or talk about her she is getting her way. Deny her of this and leave her to her own misery. Hope this makes some sense. Bob That sounds like what it boils down to for me. If he is ignoring her it would make her much more likely to contact you and try to get attention or some sort of rise from him that way. Doesnt sound like it matters if its negative attention as any attention at all opens doors for her and her "cause". You've discussed things with your Master so now comes the really hard part. Ignoring her. Easier said than done but about all you can is understand her motivation and realize that as the poster above said, anytime you waste thinking or talking about her is time she is most happy to have as it means her intrusion is working. Good luck to you. Take care, Toni "The road I walk and she crawls will be one of pain, pleasure and emotion but it will bridge our love for all eternity". -Master Skye 23 Oct 08, 1:47 AM farad26 5 yrs £ Belongs_To_Erus wrote: An ex slave? Forgive me if I've posted this in the wrong section. I just have a question on how to handle or any views or suggestions on what to do with my current situation My Master has an ex slave/girlfriend. They were together for over a year and she left him for a master she met online through a another website. I guess she is a puppy in her current poly bdsm relationship with her new master but I guess she is regretting leaving Erus cause for the past 2 weeks she texts him, calls him. On facebook she has sent me numerous little nasty messages... cussing, just basically making herself look childish. I replied but I was very polite which just made her mad even more. Erus says he ignores her, but I feel like he should tell her to F*** Off.. due to she betrayed him in every way. Thank you In advance for any advice or suggestions you may have! YOUR POSITION IS YOURS, NOT HERS SO YOU SHOULD LEAVE THE MATTER FOR YOUR MASTER TO RESOLVE. AND IF HE DOES NOTHING, THEN THAT IS THE WAY IT IS AND SHOULD NOT BOTHER YOU. SIR 23 Oct 08, 2:51 AM EvaMaria US(CA), 3 yrs 000-874-172 wrote: Of course, 'we' don't stand to lose much at all, you're right about that, but really, we often see posts crop up after about how these things shouldn't have been bandied around by the OP's in the first place (and often by a latent party in the piece). (*thinks: ohhhhhhh*) That's a thing to ponder. Camille 23 Oct 08, 3:27 AM moncherie US(CA), 3 yrs Sir Lawrence here..... Here's my take on all this. Your Master is involved in a new relationship just like any other person who would be after a break up and then finding someone new. He should be a man about it and tell this girl he has moved on and is not available. Her contacting him is causing problems in his new relationship which he just cannot allow. I'm a pretty forward person and I believe in dealing with things directly. Oh I step on a few toes now and then and I'm not always as politically correct as I should be but usually I get my point across and that's my point. As for you.... You need to step back and trust that your Master is handling the situation. Now I don't care what kind of slave/Master relationship you have or what your rules and protocols are but you HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW and if you feel you are being jerked around then you should bring your concerns to your Master (reverently I might add) and ask to discuss the situation. In the end you have the right to leave. I have said this before and I will say it again... We all go around believing we're in these slave/Master relationships and we own our slaves and etc, etc, etc.... But the truth is, if you want to leave. You can. But again....... this is just all MY opinion. Respectfuly.. Sir Lawrence 23 Oct 08, 7:44 AM masterfiremaam US(WV), 5 yrs Belongs_To_Erus wrote: An ex slave? Erus says he ignores her Ask him if this goes for you, too, or, if not, how he wishes you to handle the situation. Master Fire ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Oh Hai! Blessinz of teh Ceiling Cat be apwn yu, srsly. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Next page