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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Training program" Training program (6) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Fri 5 Sep 08, 7:59 AM Loving_Ms US(OK), 4 yrs I find myself needing a training program for a submissive male. How does a dominant go about establishing this routine? I'm sure there are LOADS of ideas out there, but I would appreciate some help in finding them...... This is not a live-in submissive. he is about 30 minutes away. For various reasons, everything has to be done discreetly. This will be his first time submitting to anyone. Also, he is a college student so he has a pretty limited amount of time. I want for his tasks and assignments to be short but effective. Edited Fri 5 Sep 08, 8:22 AM by Loving_Ms 5 Sep 08, 8:36 AM Monti1342 US(AZ), 3 yrs £ Y! Just like any training regiment, I personally think you should focus on the main points you want your slave/pet/sub to adhere to. Distance and time is not a problem if the discipline is there. Concentrate on your objectives and focus on your goals. A slow yet firm hand will provide greatest results. One goal at a time. I personally think that humiliation or ignoring provide the best results when our subs require great results. I would like to hear other's input on this however. Live, Laugh, Love, then brand them. 5 Sep 08, 1:47 PM nutshellsub UK, 3 yrs This boy is currently undergoing an online distance training regime that has had to be halted as Mistress has some family issues that require Her attention. boy was told that there would be a break in training and he volunteered to write daily to "check in". boy received no replies although Mistress did appear on a web site that B/both use and taunted him. Frankly, boy found this confusing and demeaning. The overwhelming feeling was that this was punishment for an undisclosed crime. Matters have improved. But boy would like to make the point that ignoring a sub is fine provided that the relationship is sufficiently strong to withstand it. Doing so almost from the start sends, to boy's mind, the wrong signal. It nearly killed O/our relationship. 7 Sep 08, 8:39 AM Dreamshaper US(FL), 3 yrs Loving_Ms wrote: Training program I find myself needing a training program for a submissive male. How does a dominant go about establishing this routine? I'm sure there are LOADS of ideas out there, but I would appreciate some help in finding them...... This is not a live-in submissive. he is about 30 minutes away. For various reasons, everything has to be done discreetly. This will be his first time submitting to anyone. Also, he is a college student so he has a pretty limited amount of time. I want for his tasks and assignments to be short but effective. Loving_Ms Actually I don't believe there is to much difference in the tasks one would put to either male or female slave. My M/s relationship is much like yours, I have taken control of her eating habits (as she fell out of the good ones when she lost her former M/M/s relationship), I have also taken over her orgasms. And I have given her small things to do every day such as readings, cleaning, walking for exercise, emailing me every day ect. I think you get the picture. Of course she could lie to me but her last relatioship was for 12 years and she does not hide disobedience well (it shows in her demeanor when we're are online), besides there is someone close to her that is watching and she knows it. My suggestion is give him small things to do on a daily basis, if you find out he is not doing them, when you to do get togeather that is the time to enforce the rules by punishment. Hope this helps. Master Fred Alcohol is not the answer, it just makes you forget the question. 13 Sep 08, 2:42 AM MrRolod US(OH), 3 yrs Training can be as simple, or as complex as you wish it to be. I'm sure we all have our favorite methods to keep subs/slaves in line. The point is to be creative and keep their mind on their service and improving themselves to better serve you. What will this slaves intended purpose be? What are their talents and skills? Those are all things that have to be addressed prior to creating a program for that person. Each person is different, so their training program must be tailored to them. Proper training is not an easy and simple thing. The psychology of it, the mental control and guidance, are extremely important. Otherwise you are simply teaching a dog a trick. You much train their mind to BE a slave or sub. They must WANT and NEED to serve you to feel fulfilled. They have to give up their very being to their Master's will. This is not an easy thing to teach or develop. Most of my training is conducted in person. Online and phone contact is restricted to information gathering, keeping in touch, and the completion of simple tasks that remind the sub/slave of their place. And to offer guidance and pointers on how to work on aspects of their service on their own when they are not within arms reach of me. When on their own I have them practice practice practice. Then prove it when they are with me. Mr. Rolod 8 Oct 08, 9:35 AM Monti1342 US(AZ), 3 yrs £ Y! I cannot agree with Mister Rolod more. Find why you desire and use your slave. I use my slaves online only as a way to continue my business endeavors when I am busy. Otherwise their training is done in person. Otherwise, I treat them as they should be treated. On an individual basis ulilizing their talents and gifts. First wonder why then wonder how. Just a suggestion. -Master Monti Live, Laugh, Love, then brand them. 8 Oct 08, 10:40 AM Tanos UK, 14 yrs Y! Loving_Ms wrote: Training program I find myself needing a training program for a submissive male. How does a dominant go about establishing this routine? Training is largely dominant-specific, so you're training him to be the way you want. That means finding out what you want out of a submissive. The Four P's model in the Wiki breaks Slave Training down into four headings which you might find useful in clarifying your own requirements: Protocols - rules of correct behaviour for a slave, including both practical issues and rituals. Preferences - the personal likes and dislikes of the slave's master (and anyone else they will be serving - this is an ongoing aspect of training if new people are to be served.) Principles - the master's general ethical values and practical principles, which a slave can use to deal with unanticipated situations. Perceptions - including rejecting false entitlement, and feeling owned due to Internal Enslavement. Regards, Tanos www.tanos.org.uk