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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "new to submission" new to submission (8) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Fri 29 Aug 08, 10:06 PM lostpackmate US(VA), 3 yrs Y! what are something to expect? 30 Aug 08, 1:26 AM enahrose US(AL), 4 yrs I suggest a lot of reading. Every Master is different. When i came into BDSM my Master (was my husband for 5 yrs prior to the M/s Life started) printed everything he could find on the subject. We would each read it make notes and discuss it at great length. And we still "jumped in the deep in before we could swim". So take your time read learn and then ask questions. This site has some great articles for submissives and slaves : http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/journeys... Good luck on your journey 3 Sep 08, 5:01 PM slavegail UK, 6 yrs Y! written with permission of NG1.. hello enahrose has given some good advice. reading chatting decide what you both want from your lifestyle make a plan "rules if you like"and stick to it/them dont change your mind just because its hard to do for example.when i joined my owners one of there rules was that while in the lounge waiting on them at anytime i was to stand just inside the door hands behind back legs apart looking ahead. now 4 years later a litlle slap of the crop still reminds me of that fact,if you wish to mail me owners will allow it. but best of luck in you new life. slavegail Property of NG1 3 Sep 08, 5:54 PM 741-498-880 4 yrs Every relationship is different. Here are things that will help you to start your journey with your new partner (In my opinion): Communicate: This could mean keeping a journal, daily emails, texting, sitting down for an hour each night, whatever. Make time to talk and be honest/transparent with each other. Knowing that its not "easy" to submit: Even the most submissive person in the world might feel angry or "dont wanna" emotions. Its normal, especially when you first start. This is why communication is so important. It doesn't make you a bad sub or slave to not "feel" like it. Sort of like having a job, you still have to "do" it. Obedience : It doesn't make you a doormat to obey, it also doesn't mean your weak or unintelligent. You can be an intelligent fiesty, opinionated woman and obey. Be realistic : Your Partner is not god. He will most likely make mistakes. Don't hold them against him, but learn from them and move on. Talk about them, don't put him down for them, because of his flaws he will become an even better Master over time. -- This also goes for your side as well. You are human, not superslave. Life happens. No one is perfect. Don't beat him or yourself up over mistakes, learn from them instead. Stay positive : This is a hard one, but this will get you through almost anything. Stay positive and try to find the good in any given situation. This will also help the emotional outbursts or obedience issues you might have if you can find a way to erotisize even the simple most mundane tasks in some fashion. (If you can't find a way to erotisize laundry, its okay.. I haven't managed yet either.) Edited 3 Sep 08, 6:05 PM by 741-498-880 3 Sep 08, 7:54 PM deepndark UK, 5 yrs Y! You lucky girl, you are about to enter the world of enchantment. You will made to do things like : be taken to public places like beeches, forests, and stripped naked and tied up with your hands above your head to a tree bough. Tied down and staked out and left, ostensibly to be discovered, which you may or may not be. You may even be blindfolded and he might get someone to "interfere" with you. And be photographed. Expected to wear a collar, both in private and in public. At times even stand in-front of a window naked so anyone passing may see you. This is to engender some humiliation within you. He may leave you tied (at home) with a spreader bar making you have your legs spread and left whilst he goes out somewhere and you made to do chores or just left so you cant move. He could then come back use you as a sex toy and go out again leaving like that. In fact you should get used to being used as sex-toy, anytime, anywhere and very often. I like mine to masturbate for me and have them suck cock whilst doing it, I like them coming with my cock in their mouth. You should expect to be trained in the art of giving oral sex, with and without your hands being tied behind your back. I like to make mine not wear a bra and have a thin, tight top on so their nipples are hard and it is obvious they are not wearing one. To be made to have your top undone a bit more than you would consider decent or even have a top on that you fall out of by "accident". Go out and play pool with a very short skirts on, so showing your panties when you bend over to take shots. I used to photograph my subs tied up, go to a "lads pub" and leave the photographs to be "discovered" by a group of lads with her sitting next to them listening to their comments as they go through her photographs. You don't have to be recognisable. Different subs like different "pet" names. Mine have liked to be called whore, tramp, tart, you should start to consider what you want to be called and referred to as and to be obedient. I expect mine to get down on hands and knees on the command "assume the possition" ready for use at either end with a "no holes barred policy". I get mine to write sex stories. What happens is that they write about what they like most or what they find most exiting. Get writing now girl. Can you imagine what it would be like for your controller to be given a list of sex tales written for him in advance. Go read "The Story of O" it is considered a classic of S&M. I'm also a qualified hypnotherapist, the subs I have tried it on LOVE being hypnotised and then I have sex with them. There you go that's some of the things you can expect. One rule of thumb though, just have a really good time. 3 Sep 08, 7:58 PM 741-498-880 4 yrs deepndark wrote: You lucky girl, you are about to enter the world of enchantment. You will made to do things like : be taken to public places like beeches, forests, and stripped naked and tied up with your hands above your head to a tree bough. Tied down and staked out and left, ostensibly to be discovered, which you may or may not be. You may even be blindfolded and he might get someone to "interfere" with you. And be photographed. Expected to wear a collar, both in private and in public. At times even stand in-front of a window naked so anyone passing may see you. This is to engender some humiliation within you. He may leave you tied (at home) with a spreader bar making you have your legs spread and left whilst he goes out somewhere and you made to do chores or just left so you cant move. He could then come back use you as a sex toy and go out again leaving like that. In fact you should get used to being used as sex-toy, anytime, anywhere and very often. I like mine to masturbate for me and have them suck cock whilst doing it, I like them coming with my cock in their mouth. You should expect to be trained in the art of giving oral sex, with and without your hands being tied behind your back. I like to make mine not wear a bra and have a thin, tight top on so their nipples are hard and it is obvious they are not wearing one. To be made to have your top undone a bit more than you would consider decent or even have a top on that you fall out of by "accident". Go out and play pool with a very short skirts on, so showing your panties when you bend over to take shots. I used to photograph my subs tied up, go to a "lads pub" and leave the photographs to be "discovered" by a group of lads with her sitting next to them listening to their comments as they go through her photographs. You don't have to be recognisable. Different subs like different "pet" names. Mine have liked to be called whore, tramp, tart, you should start to consider what you want to be called and referred to as and to be obedient. I expect mine to get down on hands and knees on the command "assume the possition" ready for use at either end with a "no holes barred policy". I get mine to write sex stories. What happens is that they write about what they like most or what they find most exiting. Get writing now girl. Can you imagine what it would be like for your controller to be given a list of sex tales written for him in advance. Go read "The Story of O" it is considered a classic of S&M. I'm also a qualified hypnotherapist, the subs I have tried it on LOVE being hypnotised and then I have sex with them. There you go that's some of the things you can expect. One rule of thumb though, just have a really good time. This creeped me out a little, I have to admit. I guess it depends on what "type" of relationship your getting into, if its a primarily "sexual" one... and another piece of advice... To the OP : If you are "looking" for a Dominant, pick and choose with care, don't take the first one that comes along (unless he's your perfect match of course) and you are not obligated to obey strangers unless you are owned and your owner tells you too. Stay away from guys who just want to use you for their sexual kinks unless thats all your looking for. find someone who matches well with you, if you do decide to go into slavery, and be owned, with the understanding that you'd be emotionally and psychologically enslaved, there may not be a "out" option once that process has happened, so pick wisely. 3 Sep 08, 9:06 PM Mistress_Tiara 5 yrs deepndark wrote: "You lucky girl, you are about to enter the world of enchantment. You will made to do things like... " <a list of the sexual desires & fantasies of deepndark then appear. How marvellous for us all> "...There you go that's some of the things you can expect". These are the things anyone who belonged to deepndark could expect. It in no way represents some kind list of basic practice. Sigh. *~*Mistress Tiara*~* 3 Sep 08, 10:05 PM SeanT70 9 yrs Mistress_Tiara wrote: It in no way represents some kind list of basic practice. Really? Oh..errr, damn, I was looking for some hints too. Did anyone read the profile? I mean seriously? This guy has 'belongings' write for him, when he can't visibly write anything properly himself. Hell'd freeze over and thaw out again before I'd advocate anyone going near someone like this; he (in his profile), had the shaven nuts ('scuse the pun; rather terse slangin' of his references to how he would treat someone (not does - noted, btw), in his care; they really shouldn't give him their keys if he's into play-rape; consentual non-consent means exactly that , here FYI, bud! A very hotly debated subject, en mass, if anyone takes the joke?) Perhaps this guy should go back to freaking people out from the depths of his poorly lit wardrobe and allow the credible members of the community to have an input on the OP's subject. Hi, jakesemma; Nice to see you in the fold again I wouldn't worry about 'that' post; the guy's really not a very 'fantastique' fantasist at best; To the OP; With no disrespect intended, that's a huge question to ask with no easy answer; this forum is huge with a wealth of information, knowledge and opinions from all different relationships and walks of life; there is also the SD! Wiki to get you going with some information. But really, it very much depends 'where' you want to start with the answer to that question in any case, before anyone can help you with an answer of any kind at all, however 'deep 'n' dark' the answer really isn't . Daddy's phay®(her Rights are Mine in reserve) 3 Sep 08, 11:25 PM 741-498-880 4 yrs MasterS70 wrote: Mistress_Tiara wrote: It in no way represents some kind list of basic practice. Really? Oh..errr, damn, I was looking for some hints too. Did anyone read the profile? I mean seriously? This guy has 'belongings' write for him, when he can't visibly write anything properly himself. Hell'd freeze over and thaw out again before I'd advocate anyone going near someone like this; he (in his profile), had the shaven nuts ('scuse the pun; rather terse slangin' of his references to how he would treat someone (not does - noted, btw), in his care; they really shouldn't give him their keys if he's into play-rape; consentual non-consent means exactly that , here FYI, bud! A very hotly debated subject, en mass, if anyone takes the joke?) Perhaps this guy should go back to freaking people out from the depths of his poorly lit wardrobe and allow the credible members of the community to have an input on the OP's subject. Hi, jakesemma; Nice to see you in the fold again I wouldn't worry about 'that' post; the guy's really not a very 'fantastique' fantasist at best; To the OP; With no disrespect intended, that's a huge question to ask with no easy answer; this forum is huge with a wealth of information, knowledge and opinions from all different relationships and walks of life; there is also the SD! Wiki to get you going with some information. But really, it very much depends 'where' you want to start with the answer to that question in any case, before anyone can help you with an answer of any kind at all, however 'deep 'n' dark' the answer really isn't . Never really went anywhere, just didn't have anything useful to say to most of the threads. until this one that and im getting addicted to fetlife.