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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Second day of stay at home slavehood" 1 2 3 Second day of stay at home slavehood (25) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 17 Jun 08, 7:18 PM 238-864-563 US(CA), 4 yrs His_mAlice wrote: Second day of stay at home slavehood My Master had me quit my job Friday, and I'm now his full time slave. Does anyone have any general pointers or advice for being a first time stay at home anything? I would appreciate it. We don't have TV...M doesnt like people that spend too much time watching TV. I am only 2 days into it and the house is clean...our apartment is really small and doesnt leave much to clean. I've never not had a job before and i almost feel guilty for being here while he is at work. Thanks mAlice You lucky girl! Read!!! Learn a foreign language! Learn to do whatever it is that you have always wanted to do. Learn to do whatever will plese him most. And thank your lucky stars...from one who has been working full time for 33 years... 238-864-563 17 Jun 08, 7:39 PM SixThreeFive SE, 5 yrs His_mAlice wrote: OHHHH I crochet - havent in years! Thats an awesome idea hoping i dont have the grandma issue (which i'm sure is not so funny for you but it made me giggle) Thanks sixthreefive, at least i know i'm not alone in being restless. Think of all the baby-stuff you can crochet, not to mention blankets and things for your owner. Do you have windowsills? There are "runners" to crochet, which go beneath your plants and other objects on the window sill. Usually white or pastell colours for summer, red and green for christmas, yellow for easter... They can be very beautiful. The grandma issues are pretty funny ey? *giggles* It wasn't as much fun when I was forced to quit... maybe I could be allowed to do it now that I'm going to start spending a little time in the evenings in my own room. He wont have to see me do it. Restlessness can be a bitch. I do work outs when the itch gets bad or take long walks or play with the cat. Sometimes there just isn't stuff to do... 17 Jun 08, 9:17 PM 000-446-713 US(IN), 8 yrs SixThreeFive wrote: His_mAlice wrote: OHHHH I crochet - havent in years! Thats an awesome idea hoping i dont have the grandma issue (which i'm sure is not so funny for you but it made me giggle) Thanks sixthreefive, at least i know i'm not alone in being restless. playing with the cat! Now, there's an idea... you could spend an hour or so, in animal mode .... do you have an animal that you personaify? do the two of you do animal play at all? 17 Jun 08, 10:26 PM Remoses US(PA), 6 yrs The fundamental problem with staying at home is that you are used to being out in the world. This fills your head with the notion that you have to be "doing" things all the time. When you are able to shed your false "freedom" and realize the gift, the liberation, that our slavery will bring to you, you can retrain your busy mind to accept a slower pace and you will find that there are plenty of things for you to "do". But you must first rid yourself of all the mental clutter. If you are to truly embrace your slavery, then perhaps you might do as someone else suggested and wear your fetters, (chains and cuffs). The outward show of your new status should provide a powerful reminder of your new situation. Remember, your Owner does not want you to be doing a lot of stuff. He wants you to remain in his home. He wants you to be still and to be available for him when He requires you. This is going to require some adjustment from you, but the goal is NOT to keep yourself "busy", instead it is to acquire the required mindset to become a slave. you have been given a great and valuable gift. Do not confuse the generosity of your Owner with your frustration that your new life is different from your old life. Keep in mind that your old life was a lie. A slave is not free. No matter how much the world says otherwise, a slave is a slave, and is never fulfilled until she is well and truly owned. Relax, exhale, accept your new life. Do not resist. Surrender. Submit. Obey. I am Remoses. (200) Just because it's inconvenient, doesn't mean it's not required. Quod principi placet legis habet vigorem (The pleasure of the prince has the force of law.) **Pronounce it: Ray-mosay.** 18 Jun 08, 2:22 AM His_mAlice US(TX), 4 yrs What a completely different point of view. Thank you. That helps me tremendously. "Despite all my rage, I am still just a rat in a cage" 18 Jun 08, 3:10 AM JRCs_petk HK, 4 yrs Y! Hi mAlice, You lucky thing. In all honesty it took me three months to get used to the idea of not working. However I have absolutely no desire to go back to my wretched stressed life! After a month or so you'll start to notice how relaxed you've become, your general disposition may improve. (Mine did! no longer a stress head ) I can re-iterate Sanna's advice of baking bread. It might sound a little mundane, but I love it and the possibilities and combinations are endless! Once you have worked out how to bake a simple loaf it's easy to experiment. If you would like, I can pm you a simple bread recipe that is recommended for 'bread virgins'. If you're into reading, stock up on a good pile of books. I found that I changed the genre of book I normally read to something a little more informative - history and biographies. That way I'm learning while relaxing, and don't feel so guilty about indulging my love of the written word. The main thing at this point is to relax for a while and unwind. Then find something to keep you from going stir crazy. Start a new hobby, join a charity to help with fundraising activities (recommend Make a Wish), ask your Owner if he has any preferences as to how you fill your day. Most of all, take a deep breath, smell the roses and enjoy your new life. kim 22 Jun 08, 3:37 PM Remoses US(PA), 6 yrs Since you have an abundance of time, take that time to do everyting you do with the greatest of care. When you do the laundry, for example, be sure that everything is done "just so" and leave nothing to carelessness. You have the time to make everything "perfect". When you do housework, be sure that every task is done as though it is a work of art. Take your time preparing food and learn to cook from scratch. Whole food is so much healthier than prepared food. Take your time when doing your personal grooming. Be clean and perfect. There is so much to do if you just take your time and do not rush... Then, if you are through with all your responsibilities, go play WoW or have a look at these boards. Hurrying through your days means that you have too much free time. Take your time and learn to perfect all that you do. When people rush, mistakes are made...be sure to check your typing for spelling and grammar, for example. Make you Owner proud of you...in all things. I am Remoses. Just because it's inconvenient, doesn't mean it's not required. Quod principi placet legis habet vigorem (The pleasure of the prince has the force of law.) **Pronounce it: Ray-mosay.** 27 Jun 08, 3:34 AM enahrose US(AL), 4 yrs Get a video on belly dancing (or some other sexy dance) learn it and surprise your Master. 27 Jun 08, 7:09 AM 917-064-116 US, 5 yrs Y! Hi, my Master and i are now doing ageplay with me being 14 years old..i have homeschool days, where i do what i can as a home-schooled girl my age..i am leaning to speak French, and eventually play the piano, and sewing in the winter when i cannot go out side to work in the yard. i like what the others have said as well , great advice. 917-064-116, Master Russ's child 10 Jul 08, 1:12 PM SStar_s_peachy US(GA), 5 yrs Y! Thank You for all the thoughts and comments concerning stay-at-home slaves. i had been in the work force for decades when i suffered a back injury which caused Master to reach the decision He wanted me to leave the work force and be at home until further notice. That was 16 months ago. i never knew when i left my last job that i would be a full-time, 24/7, stay-at-home slave. Most of my time at home has been restricted due to the pain from the back injury but as i got healthier i found myself getting stir crazy. i'd oft-times 'overdo' it and then i'm in pain for several days/weeks afterwards. Master has told me i am doing what HE wants me to do when i'm laying in bed, reading, doing research for Him, running His errands so that when He gets home from work He can just crash and not have a lot of running around to do, have His dinner ready for Him shortly after He arrives home, making sure His home is as clean as i can make it given my restricted duty list, taking care of the pets of Sanctuary - making sure they are loved, groomed, fed, exercised, etc. He says He loves it when i awaken from a nap (yes, i take nap(s) during the day and take the time to rest so that when Master returns home i can be as available to Him as my health will allow). As soon as i awaken i write Him an email telling Him i've been resting. He says "one of us should be able to enjoy being at home" and He's not saying that to be cruel to me - He sincerely means it. It was very difficult for me to get out of the mindset of the 9-5 (or later) worker in the work force and then having to jam as much house work, cooking as possible when i'd get home. i now have all day to do what i had to do in a few hours in the evenings. i am not stressed which has worked wonders not only for my mental outlook but for my physical well-being. Another thing Master loves - He now has ironed clothes instead of clothes which are taken out of the dryer and hung up. He loves creases in His shirt sleeves and down the front of His pants. i sit in a comfortable chair and lower the ironing board as to cause as little stress on my back as possible. Before any of you say you can't afford to stay home. Most of us can, for the most part, do what we want to do. It does take some sacrifice. Yes, Master and i have to budget but we did that when i was working full-time too. i'd bet our yearly income is less than a lot of you but we have all our needs met by Master's income and we are able to save. Instead of eating out several times a week, it is now a couple of times a month - maybe. Master gets home cooked meals (including home baked bread and cookies) - healthy meals - which are important as He has some health issues in which His diet are very important in helping Him heal. i focus totally on Master now. i don't come home from work stressed, crying, totally wrung out from the rigors of working in a law office. Master used to have to come home from work and cook and do many of my chores because i was either working or commuting about 15 hours a day (we live in Atlanta and a 4-5 hour commute each day is a way of life for many). And, when Master decided earlier this year that He wanted to take a 2 week vacation, with us driving (His hybrid) across America - from Atlanta to Oregon by way of Highway 2 (northern most highway of the lower 48) - i didn't have to worry about whether or not my 'boss' would allow me to take 2 weeks. My 'Boss' was the one planning the trip . So, if you are lucky enough to be able to stay home and make it your full-time job, just remember your life is what your Master wants it to be. That, in and of itself should help you focus on doing what your Master wants you to do. It may help to ask Him to make out a 'to-do' list too. Anything i do each day must be approved by Master. This keeps me from overdoing it and also makes sure whatever Master wants done in a particular day is done. i know this thread is a little long-in-the-tooth, but Master and i have only been back from our trip a short time and i haven't been able to catch up on all my emails yet. Southern Star's peachy Next page