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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "before i knew what it was" 1 2 3 before i knew what it was (23) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. 2 Aug 08, 6:38 PM maranda US(IA), 4 yrs Y! what i had asked to begin with: has anyone realized that they where in a bdsm type relationship before they knew what it was? 3 Aug 08, 1:14 PM 879-717-990 UK, 5 yrs maranda wrote: what i had asked to begin with: has anyone realized that they where in a bdsm type relationship before they knew what it was? Yes maranda. If your question is more like, did i find myself choosing men who acted very dominant (not domineering) who made me feel submissive (and safe and secure) without knowing what it was called at the time. i don't want to put words in your mouth so please feel free to ignore this post if i am misinterpreting your question. Looking back into my past partner choices as an older female adult, i can see a pattern of migrating toward very strong, dominant, masculine men who's behaviour in itself made me feel more feminine, more demure, behaving quite submissively and demonstrating slavelike behaviours in their presence and feeling very safe in their protection. The same way when watching the movie "Black Snake Moan", it appears that Lazarus has become quite dominant in his care of Rae and she in turn acted quite submissive towards that behaviour. There was certainly no bdsm in the movie (unless chaining her to the radiator could be classed as bondage)but i felt the undercurrent was there in a general sense. Is that what you meant? If not, let me know. Please also feel free to memo me if you wish to discuss a topic off board. slave tsina 4 Aug 08, 5:51 AM marli71883 US(CA), 4 yrs Y! I was once engaged to a man who was very dominate and I did not know anything about the lifestyle. He did eventually become abusive because he didnt understand how to have control and keep it without hurting himself and me. I dont blame him for what happened because if I had not been through it then I would never have been able to come to the man who is now my Master/Husband about my desires. My Master now has not always been this way, he actually fought against it for a long time. Now that we understand our roles we are both very happy. I dont know if this helps, but I hope it does some good.