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	TSR : Web boards : M/s D/s O&P : "Question Regarding Poly" Question Regarding Poly (4) This post is on the M/s D/s O&P web board. Wed 23 Apr 08, 12:49 AM slave2master US, 5 yrs Do all poly relationships involve a sexual relationship between the slaves as well as the Master and slaves? Is it something that is generally expected? Is it something that is totally up to the Master, or do the slaves have a voice in the decision? 23 Apr 08, 1:00 AM 000-733-561 BE, 11 yrs Y! All depends on your relation with your Master. Did you sign a contract or discussed a list or something like that before becomming His slave? If you agreed to be His 24/7 total (TPE total power exchange) slave, then you should do as He says. Except when you feel you made a mistake becomming His slave, or you really feel this is impossible or this started asa game/play and it escallated. You need to know what you want in your life, but mistakes are possible. So, do you want to be his total slave? Then shut up and please your Master. He'll push you further and further towards things you never immaginated you would do. In the other case: talk about it or leave. 23 Apr 08, 2:17 AM ravenkaldera US(MA), 6 yrs I'm in a V-relationship with my slave and my egalitarian wife. The two of them are not involved with each other. Occasionally I have ordered Joshua to sexually service her while I'm doing something else to her, but that's not something that he would do on his own. It's just a service for me. I also have 3 friends whom I see a few times a year for kinky sex, when our various busy schedules permit. Again, I have occasionally drafted him to help with the kinky sex, but it's not him forming any kind of an independent relationship with them. He's just doing what I tell him. "Hold that. Lick that. Suck that. Get me more lube. OK, now go away but stay within calling range." And so forth. (I also have a woman in limited contract service to me with a totally nonsexual relationship. It goes without saying that he doesn't do anything with her either.) Then, of course, there's the game called "Bring Daddy A Snack", coined by Carol Queen. This is only for conferences or gatherings. This is when Joshua goes out and pimps for me among various bottoms, either for someone for me to beat nonsexually, or someone to perform sexually with Joshua while I watch and micromanage ("Stick that in there and fuck him. OK, now pull it out and..."). I rarely take my pants off for people that we pick up casually, but those activities are fun. Joshua was a sex worker in the past, and rampantly promiscuous (not any more!), and his sexuality is almost entirely service-oriented, so he doesn't mind being told to do these things. If you are basically a monogamous person for whom sex is All About Love, this sort of thing might be hard going for you, and would require a lot of help from your master to get you used to it. -Raven Kaldera -If you're in charge, it's all on your head. If it's not all on your head, then you're not really in charge. 23 Apr 08, 11:19 AM masterfiremaam US(WV), 5 yrs Nothing is set in stone that says, "If you're going to have X kind of relationship, you have to do A, B and C." So, in the end, it's all about how the relationship has been set up. Master Fire "Be excellent to each other." - Bill and Ted *air guitar* 24 Apr 08, 9:34 PM Kaledorus US, 5 yrs slave2master wrote: Is it something that is totally up to the Master, or do the slaves have a voice in the decision? Whether it is common or not is irrelevant. The Master is the final authority, he makes the decision. Slaves have no voice in the decision. Now does a Master take into account his slave's or slaves' opinions, insights, feelings, I would hope so. Adding another slave to the mix is potentially explosive, it doesn't need to be but it is a very serious proposition. In the end your Master will decide what happens. In the beginning a girl should carefully weigh all before she commits herself to a man. All the things you think he may never do, he may one day do, ask yourself BEFOREHAND, can you live with that. When you "submit" to or "dominate" someone in a situation where safewords are used and when limitations are negotiated, you are not actually submitting or dominating at all - you are playing at it.